Going to a venue to meet others for the first time.

[Verona]

It has been a couple of weeks since I last dressed fully, still underdress daily with panties and occasionally tights/pantyhose.
Bought lots of new outfits and extras including padded underwear to give me more lift and shape, a corset and new wigs. I can not wait to have a full day of dressing.
My wife and I are going to a venue at a hotel next month where other cross dressers and wives meet regularly This will be my first time outside to meet others. I am so nervous and need to perfect my look. My wife seems more comfortable about the event than I am. I want to do it but terrified at the same time.
I am a size 14, 5ft 6. Not sure what to wear,
Any of you girls got some Ideas and tips please?

[bridget thronton]

Ask your wife (and hope she suggests a casual dress)

[char GG]

Ask around about what others will be wearing and wear something similar if you don't want to stand out for your first time.

We went to something similar where wives and CDers met but it was very closeted (at someone's house). People wore everything from casual to fancy. However, if this is at a particular venue, ask you wife what she plans to wear and do the same type of style.

[Cheryl T]

Dress for the venue and also for what you will be comfortable in.
If it's a very upscale place then wear a pretty dress and heels. If it's more casual then follow that theme. As others said, ask your wife what she will be wearing and stay in the same style.
If you are overdressed it will make things more nerve wracking for your first time so no matter what wear what makes you comfortable.

[DianeT]

I assume it isn't a pajama party? Like, you could wear the same PJs as your wife? Seriously, Char gave you the best advice you could hope for.

[Helena]

Hi Verona, we are looking forward to meeting you both. On any given month we have a wide variety from dressed to the nines to casual. The hotel is casual not classy but also a popular wedding/ function venue.

I agree with Cheryl, follow your wife's lead, overdressing certainly increased my stress levels in the early days. Also, unless you are early it can be a long walk down the carpark.

[Genifer Teal]

Going Out for the first time. It's only natural to want to look your best. Unfortunately, you won't, but the bright side is. It won't matter hanging out with a group like this. You will be with like-minded accepting people. you'll learn from everyone. Else by seeing their looks and learning from how they Do different things. your own look will improve much faster. I don't say this to discourage you from trying to look good. I want to put you at ease. It's not something you should stress over. It will go well regardless of how you look. You'll have a wonderful time meeting everyone making new friends. And you won't be able to count the days until you can do it again. And that's when you'll start looking even better. So focus on being comfortable and having fun. And not necessarily having that most perfect this or that or whatever looking forward to hearing all about it.

[alwayshave]

Verona, Wear what pleases you the most, as long as it not offensive.

[kimdl93]

Best tips have already been given, but to repeat, follow your wife?s lead and dress appropriate to the venue. IMHO simple and classic are always a good bet.

[jjjjohanne]

I have only gone to one such event. I was slightly nervous, but I was sure it was a safe place. There were a couple other first-timers there. They were VERY nervous. (This was a trans-sexual/trans-gender event. There were some long-term post-op people there. Trans-men with beards, older trans women dressed like grandmothers.) It wasn't a big deal and eventually everyone relaxed.

[Debbie Denier]

Good luck Verona. You will be just fine.I am sure you will receive a warm welcome.

[CynthiaD]

A nice cocktail dress will make you feel feminine, and a LBD works almost anywhere.

[Helen_Highwater]

If in doubt, go classic black skirt with a satin blouse. Pearl necklace. Smart, elegant, fits in anywhere.
And having met Helena myself on two occasions I know you'll be made welcome.

[Verona]

Thank you Helen x

[faltenrock]

Hi Verona and welcome here,

I've been going out in public hundreds of times for hours or days without any problem.
If you look at my post and threats, you'll find many picture of my adventures of going out.

There is also a long threat of how I prepare to venture out:

https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?284580-Going-out-in-public-preparations-clothes-what-people-might-think