180 degrees

[CharlotteCD]

From a wife who forced me into the closet and made numerous unpleasant remarks about my dressing, to a girlfriend who is totally accepting and embraces the femme side of me...

It's been a crazy 180 in the last five months.

Don't despair. There is hope.

[tifftg]

Charlotte,

I have been following your travails and know how challenging it has been. How wonderful to hear of things moving in a more positive way. Best wishes along the journey.

[docrobbysherry]

Wow! Congrats, Char. You've captured a unicorn!:thumbsup:

[kimdl93]

Congratulations! All the best to both of you going forward.

[Crissy 107]

Congrats Charlotte! I do not have to tell you to not go too fast, well I guess I just did, but you have been here long enough.
Continued good luck, we all deserve to be happy

[Kitty S]

That's great news!!

[CharlotteCD]

Congrats Charlotte! I do not have to tell you to not go too fast, well I guess I just did, but you have been here long enough.
Continued good luck, we all deserve to be happy

If anything I am the one who is hesitant to bring that side of me into the relationship. I see enough people on here who see the door open a crack and then kick the door down.

We have incredible communication and she understands that it's something I do but it's only a part of me and it's the least significant part of who I am as a person. Who I am as a boyfriend and potential step father is far more important.

[alwayshave]

Charlotte, That is wonderful. I'm glad you have someone in your life that is accepting.

[Jenn A116]

Happy to hear the Charlotte. Be sure to do something nice for your accepting wife!

[bridget thronton]

Hoping you continue to take each other's needs into account - she sounds like a keeper

[CharlotteCD]

Happy to hear the Charlotte. Be sure to do something nice for your accepting wife!

Oh it's not the wife who is accepting. She's in the past.

I am doing all the nice gestures that are possible for my girlfriend. She really doesn't see supporting my dressing as anything unusual - she's just helping me be me.

[sometimes_miss]

Just another, take it easy. Take it slow. I once had a wife who was at first shocked, then gradually seemed accepting as we went to a marriage counselor. But after being introduced to support groups for wives of crossdressers, she gradually became more and more suspicious, and eventually declared that she felt I was TS, and was just in denial. That started the divorce path, where it ended in disaster for me.
Be careful. And good luck, I hope everything works out well.

[CharlotteCD]

I think that is solid advice in most cases, but particularly true for people who a revealed part way through a relationship.

When it's in the honeymoon phase then people are easily forgiving because the overwhelming new love feeling helps you ride it out. When it's later in a marriage then some people will let the amount of "credit in the bank" of years of a great relationship be the thing that helps them forgive initially.

That credit runs out, as does the honeymoon phase.

I am very aware of these things, but due to things in her life which I don't want to mention on a public forum, I know she's not going to change her mind and become non-accepting. The accepting part of her is exactly that - a part of her that won't disappear.

She is in charge of what does and doesn't happen, and I won't be forcing or pushing anything.

[Natalie5004]

Good for you.

[Gi Gondin]

Congratulations Charlotte. It took me 3 marriages to get it right, and I did find my unicorn.🦄
It has been 6 solid years and keeps getting better. My small piece of advice is to build this journey together. Make something where she will be as willing as you to go out together or spend time as charlotte.
I also spent a lot of time not believing this could happen, that would be impossible to have someone that you love and crave and that someone accepts and encourages our crossdressing.
Thank you for you positive message and example!
I truly hope that your relationship evolve as one very special and meaningful for you both!

[Meg]

It is so nice that you have found someone so accepting. I had come out to my first wife three years before we were married. It was all fine and dandy until she started a new job and was soon seeing someone from work 4 years into our marriage. We were young and she is in my past. It is so rewarding to have a relationship where communication and acceptance can prosper. May you enjoy many good times and years together.

[Stephanie47]

Oh it's not the wife who is accepting. She's in the past.

Thanks for the clarification. When I initially read your post I thought your wife did a 180 degree turn of acceptance, non-acceptance. I hope you and your girlfriend remain a match. My wife and I are not on the same page about my desires to wear women's clothing, but she never has said any crude, vile or negative remarks about it.

[Cheryl T]

Good for you.
Fortunately my wife is fully accepting and my freedom knows no bounds. It's wonderful being able to share yourself fully with someone you love.