I'm thinking of going to the doctor's dressed

[Sometimes Steffi]

It shouldn't be a really big deal. She knows I dress. "Steffi" is in my doctor's notes with her. She has seen pics of Steffi. She might have even seen Steffi once or twice.

I'm feeling (clinically) depressed over lack of Steffi time, and I'm just feeling it right now.

[kimdl93]

Steffi, I think you should do it. As you said, your doc already knows of your feminine self and has seen pics. So go for it. I came out to my primary care provider some years ago and it was both a non event and a positive experience. A non event in that the entire staff was completely professional and friendly, as was my PCP. And positive because we had a very constructive conversation about my gender identity as well as my thoughts about transition, both social and medical.

[mbmeen12]

Outstanding Steffii, but how about this, call first. Tell the them about your wishes etc. This way they will know how to address you etc. More important you'll feel comfortable.

Good luck and enjoy the experience.

[Rachelakld]

I've had 3 different doctors and about 6 nurses (plus staff) seen me dressed pretty.
One of the doctors was a specialist, he had a trainee nurse, I think they used a telescope instead of a microscope to see what I had eaten the day before, but wearing a skirt made it easy for them.
Today was the vets turn (again) to see me dressed.

[Lisa Gerrie]

I don't know how you feel about counseling, but if you truly are clinically depressed, might it help to see a therapist while dressed? An MD isn't likely to help you with that.

[Joanie CD]

Especially since she is already aware, and since she is a she, I see no reason why you shouldn't go dressed up. It's important to do what makes you feel good about yourself. I'm sure the office staff doesn't care. At worse you'll be a minor topic of discussion for about two minutes, and then they'll go back to whatever they normally do.

I go out regularly to stores, restaurants, bars, and other places, and I've travelled on the train and checked into a hotel all dressed, but for some reason I haven't built up the nerve to go to my doctor dressed yet. I can't remember whether I told him I liked to crossdress. I did have nail polish on for one visit, and the PA and I chatted about that. I have a checkup coming up in July, so I just might go dressed. I like the idea of calling first. I'd probably wear a very casual skirt, or capris, and flats or sandals. I almost never wear heels or dresses. I'll make you a deal -- if you go dressed, and mention it here, I'll follow suit (so to speak) :-). I am curious about whether wearing a bra and forms would lnterfere with him listening to my chest.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I don't know how you feel about counseling, but if you truly are clinically depressed, might it help to see a therapist while dressed? An MD isn't likely to help you with that.

Actually, this doctor is a neuro-psych combines and is who I've been seeing for depression. I've benn on depression meds, but I decided to stop them a couple on months ago. Maybe that wasn't my best idea.

There's also a talk therapist there that my wife and I are thinking about going to see about "relationship" problems. She has some cognitive issue that I'm having a lot of problems handling.

I'll provide a follow-up on the visit.

[audreyinalbany]

I'm not sold on the idea of calling first. I guess for your Primary care physician it might be appropriate, maybe. But, by and large, it's no one else's concern how you present. I'd like to say 'just own it,' but I"m afraid that would be hypocritical of me cause I' not overly brave about being out to people

[Fiona_44]

Steffi,

I go to all my doctors and my dentist as Fiona an I've never had a problem.

[Heather76]

I am curious about whether wearing a bra and forms would lnterfere with him listening to my chest.

I have worn a lace bralette with relatively small A/B silicone inserts and they have never had an issue listening to my heart. Go for it.

[CynthiaD]

Just do it Steffi! It won’t make any difference to your doctor and it may do wonders for you.

[Destinyx14]

Actually, this doctor is a neuro-psych combines and is who I've been seeing for depression. I've benn on depression meds, but I decided to stop them a couple on months ago. Maybe that wasn't my best idea.

There's also a talk therapist there that my wife and I are thinking about going to see about "relationship" problems. She has some cognitive issue that I'm having a lot of problems handling.

I'll provide a follow-up on the visit.


Please always consult with your doctor wish your wishes to come off depression meds. It isn’t something that should often just be stopped (usually requires weaning and additional monitoring from a licensed provider). If the lack of time dressing is the only culprit, this might sound silly, but try to make more time for it. Actual clinical depression is usually impacted by more than one variable though so I doubt that is the only cause.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Mission aborted. Supply chain issue, LOL.

The day before the appointment, I went to pack up a few things with the idea of changing in the car. My makeup bag was missing. I usually keep it in my handbag. I found my handbag and the makeup bag was missing. I went on a midnight search for the makeup bag and finally found it. I added it to a bag with other things, including my wig. I had a few small bags, clothes, jewelry and the aforementioned bag that I needed to exfiltrate from the house and hide in the trunk of my car. The bag with the wig and the makeup didn't make it to the car.

I was going to go dressed anyhow. I had a couple of tubes of lipstick that made it to the car, but I decided that I would be embarrassed if any other patients saw me without a wig.

I used to have a girl bag all packed and ready to go, just in case an opportunity arose on short notice. That girl bag idea fell by the wayside, but I need to re-constitute it.

Maybe next time, with better advanced planning.