What about intimacy with your SO when dressed?

[SylphDevine]

Haven't seen much of that in most of the posts. Mostly acceptance of the female persona we profess. I'm asking because I had the wildest Father's Day ever yesterday.

She said "Let's do a shave and full makeup, wig and everything, even perfume" I got that little flutter in my tummy and she helped me pick out the outfit and even helped me get dolled up, then did my makeup.

When I looked in the mirror I must've flushed because she then said "You look good enough to eat".

Next thing I knew I was in the bedroom on my back and we were making out like teenagers. She treated me like a girl but took advantage of me as a guy.

I'm still trying to parse it. It was wonderful, as in the earth shook.

Is this common with wives and partners? First time for me. She says every time I go girl it makes her want to date me, take me out and have her way with me after.

[CharlotteCD]

Experienced it for the first since this thread was created funnily enough!

Set up with her putting the clothing out for me to get ready for bed, then had intimacy whilst I was dressed. Apparently it had a positive effect on her, so it'll be happening again.

It's not something I have ever considered bringing into the bedroom, but I think I've restricted myself mentally by my Ex's attitude of dressing being disgusting, and therefore why would I consider something disgusting being brought into the bedroom.

[Destinyx14]

For me and my partner it is strictly a bedroom thing. I personally consider it a huge kink, and she is pretty much up to try anything that makes me happy, even if that means wearing women?s clothes, makeup, and a wig during some of our intimate times :) .

[bridget thronton]

You are a very lucky girl - you have a great wife

[Harriet14]

For us, pantyhose/tights, stockings and girdle or suspender belt, slip, bodysuit, open bra. As yet, no forms or heels. But we're slowly working on it. We both love the swish of nylon!

[Jamie Lynn]

Only in my dreams! Lucky you!!!

[Jackiefl]

I can dress when i want go where i want and just about everything a cis woman would do in real life, even with my wife with me. We do dinner, movies, travel ect. My wife is perfectly supportive and accepting. On the other hand out of respect for her she married a man so I do not bring it to the bedroom as far as sex goes.

[Kitty S]

That is actually how I started dressing. Just panties, nylons and heels at first. Only on date night, taking things off afterwards. Slowly I kept my outfits on after or would dress to massage my wife. Well can't keep that Geni in the bottle any longer!

[docrobbysherry]

I have an opposing, possibly odd view of this. Altho I'm a straight man, when I began dressing I had fantacies of being with men. Those vanished when I realized I'm a CD and no longer want to trans. I've never had a mental fancy of sex with a woman while dressed. Even when I was married and she my found out I was dressing in secret.:battingeyelashes:

I always tuck and wear a lot of under, shaping gear to create a fem figure. For me, that stuff would get in the way of uninhibited passion, not help it!:sad:

I have always fantacized being a female but never being one with another woman. Does that make me an outlier once again?:devil:

[Teresa.Smith.VA]

SylphDevine: You have asked a wonderful question that many, maybe even most will want to read about. I am happy to share my answer to anybody that wants to know how your question applies to my wife and me. Please use PM is you are curious.

[Steph_CD_62]

In the 20+ years we have been together, it has only happened about 15 to 20 times (I haven't kept track).

It has only happened while I was wearing lingerie. I fully enjoy it, but she doesn't enjoy it as much as I do. I think she does it just to rock my world.

She married a man, and most of the time she prefers me to be a man in the bedroom.

[NancySue]

Over the years, while my wife has been supportive of my dressing, when it comes to the bedroom, it depends on how she feels. Most of the time, my dressing in lingerie is OK, but I also enjoy her a wearing lingerie, especially hose. Sometimes, yes, sometimes, no. Either way, it?s OK with me.

[Jacke]

We have done this a few times. My wife seems to just look past the clothing and see me, not a persona. I am still hubby, but in a babydoll nightie. But I still have the thrill of revelry. In our old age we seem to be trying to experience new things before it is too late.

[Maria 60]

It seemed like at the beginning she was into it a little and then I guess when she realized for me it wasn't all about the kink or maybe it just became predictable or the same. Now I could tell she likes the feeling of the pantyhose but won't admit it and she usually doesn't touch me much when I'm dressed. I don't know if she's scared I might think she wants to be with a women if she should feel or touch me.

[JulieC]

My wife and I have done this in years past, but it was never her thing really. She was quite happy to do it for me, but it did nothing for her. I very much enjoy both my partner and I getting a lot out of a love making session, so the reality that it didn't do anything for her kinda put a damper on it for me. So, I've just let it slip into the past. She's quite happy to hug/kiss/etc. while I'm dressed. She's not repulsed or anything. It just doesn't do anything for her.

[NatalieMN]

My partner and I pretty much expect that any day with Natalie going out will end with Natalie in bed. She says she enjoys it and obviously I do as well. We make sure to keep communication open though as I want to make sure Natalie isn't making too many appearances. After all, as some have said, she started dating me because I am a guy so sometimes that is what she wants. But so far it has been a good balance for both of us.

[Cacique82]

Ever since I told my wife we have experimented. I wear a nightgown most nights and when we?re intimate I?ve worn some things-panties, stockings, chemises. She wears things for me as well and has for years. I love it.

[danniUK]

Until recently my dressing had always been a bedroom-only thing. It was definitely something my wife tolerated because she knew I enjoyed it rather than something she wanted to do.
Since I admitted to her this year that dressing is more to me than just a sexual thing and I started dressing regularly during the day, one evening she was going through a bedside drawer and found a skimpy red lacey thing I'd bought for her years ago (and she'd never worn).
She suggested that I try it on. Bear in mind that this was the first time since I "came out" to her about feeling I was a crossdresser rather than jutlst someone who likes to wear stockings for sex, and since then I hadn't dressed in any lingerie at all.
I tried it on and it felt lovely, just like lingerie had always made me feel, and even if I do say so myself i looked awesome! :)
She thought it looked good too, and you can guess what came next.
Then just a few weeks ago she'd ordered a fishnet mini dress "to get free shipping when buying bras" and after very quickly trying it on she took it off and said she wanted to see me wearing it.
I put it on and again you can guess where it led.
I can't decide whether I think she bought it for me and didn't want to say!
But in any case, it was a surprise - she's pretty.much accepted my "regular" dressing but seemingly no more than that, but she's gone from tolerating my lingerie to apparently enjoying it!

[Jane G]

In the 20+ years we have been together, it has only happened about 15 to 20 times (I haven't kept track).

It has only happened while I was wearing lingerie. I fully enjoy it, but she doesn't enjoy it as much as I do. I think she does it just to rock my world.

She married a man, and most of the time she prefers me to be a man in the bedroom.

Steph thanks for posting this reply. It pretty much sums up our situation after over 45 years together. My wife loves me, as I love her. We know what the other enjoys and what the other needs. That may not be exactly what we want or need, but together we have what we both require to enjoy full and fun lives.

[April Rose]

My late wife and i experimented with it, mostly early on in our relationship,but a few times later as well. We always seemed to end up naked.

It's funny, when I was young dressing in feminine clothes was very sexy to me, but as time has gone by it's become more about my daytime role in life.

[JocelynJames]

It has happened more times than I could count. Most often , I?m just wearing panties( 100% these days) but sometimes lingerie and sometimes I start fully dressed and all. I don?t act any different than my male self and sometimes will be a little more submissive, and sometimes more dominant. I think it?s added dimension to our intimacy. She did say it was weird at first, now she sometimes puts out lingerie for me. Like food , if there is no spice or seasoning, things can get bland.

[Cheryl T]

Sylph you are certainly one of the lucky ones.
I had a similar experience once with my wife, but she's very opposed to it for any regularity. She says "I'm not a lesbian" and I understand her feelings. It's a shame as I would most certainly enjoy intimacy with her on that level.
Be thankful for what you have.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Intimacy. I had to look op the definition. No, not really.

Intimacy is the state of having a close personal relationship with somebody.

Nope, no intimacy here, sadly. Either in male mode or female mode.

[docrobbysherry]

Maybe look up, "extreme intimacy", Steffi?:o

[Sometimes Steffi]

I stand by my response, "no intimacy" by any definition. Platonic, roommate, friend may be more correct, and not even "friends with benefits".

What do I stay? Inertia. An object at rest remains at rest unless acted upon by an outside force.

My problem, not yours.