Did the Waiter Recognize Me????

[TheHiddenMe]

Yesterday I had an interesting encounter while out dressed. I ran into someone I know and who knows me.

Here's the story.

My GG friend Michelle texted me asking if I wanted to go with her to get the oil changed in her Bronco. Michelle is fond of zebra stripes, and to promote her salon, she had it wrapped with black stripes and the name of her salon. She calls the Bronco "ZeeZee" and takes the doors and roof off and goes cruising in it. I've ridden in it a couple of times.

The timing of the oil change didn't work for me but I asked if she was available earlier and we could do lunch. That became the plan.

I packed my clothes, played tennis, then went to Michelle's to change. I wore a cute summer dress I had bought at a thrift store the week before. We talked and caught up while I dressed.

We decided on a Mexican restaurant called Wahaka, but we call it Waka Waka. Michelle and I had been there during Cinco De (Dee) Mayo weekend.

We walk in and the young man at the reservation desk looks familiar. He walks us to our booth, does the standard thing with the menus, and says his name is Jack, and that confirmed my suspicions.

I'm a volunteer coach at a local high school and Jack was one of the kids I coached (along with his brother). Jack always had some anger management issues, and based on his demeanor, I don't think much has changed. It's probably been five years since I had seen him last, but I wasn't about to ask "what are you up to"?

He took our order and I tried to talk as little as possible, because my voice is the same regardless of how I'm presenting. I actually wanted a frozen margarita, but he bought a spicy one, which is what Michelle had ordered. Again, I wasn't in a position to try to be noticed.

Michelle asked me if I wanted to go and I decided no, I would just deal with it. She tells me there's enough separation between the two men people wouldn't make the connection.

The lunch was nice and we talked and ate. I suddenly realized that I probably shouldn?t pay by credit card--they're in my guy name, and my Costco card has my guy picture--and I didn't have enough cash to pay. So Michelle paid with her credit card, I paid the tip in cash, and we left.

Following, we went shopping at Plato's Closet, and Michelle bought some stuff and I bought two dresses (and Michelle wants to try one of my new dresses) and she headed out for her oil change.

So did he know? I'm not sure.

[Kris Burton]

I kind of doubt if this person recognized you. First, you don't suggest he made any indication that he recognized you, looked at you funny or anything of that sort. Moreover, you indicate it has been five years since he has seen you, and the last time he saw you it was as your male self. Your familiarity to him would have been as your male self. Michelle was right - plenty of separation to make a connection.

[Helen_Highwater]

Did you get any feeling from his body language that he recognised you? If not then I'd say he didn't. We're very good as humans at picking up on those subtle signs and if you didn't get any sense that he'd clocked you then I'd say you passed the test.

Enfemme, with makeup and wig we look so very different and to him you're just customer # whatever that he's had to deal that shift, with and if as you say he has attitude problems, he's not likely to be paying too much attention.

[CDMargret]

It's the voice isn't it? We can so change the outer appearance yet how on earth does one change the voice? I practice and yet I sound like a bad drunk Marilyn Monroe...lol

[TheHiddenMe]

As to any indications, I saw none. He's always been what I would call a sullen person, never happy with life... and I was with him when we were literally playing games.

As to the voice, if someone is close enough to hear you, they are likely close enough to spot the 99 other details which suggests we weren't AFAB.

Also, my friend's now don't hear a man's voice, they hear Dee's voice.

Ironically, at the Y today another former player came and said hi to me and we caught up (boy me). I didn't mention I had seen another former player on Monday, nor the circumstances...

[Natalie5004]

People don't care anyway. They are the stars in their own movie.

I had a fun night out last Friday. I was in a place where nobody knows me but I never got a second look as far as I can tell. It was a super busy hotel with a dance competition going on.

I was in the hotel bar/ bistro for about 3 hours. I was told that I was very well put together though.

So really nobody cares. Especially a sullen kid.

[Sandi Beech]

Dee,

It depends on what Michelle was wearing. He may have had his eyes on her ; )

Sandi

[TheHiddenMe]

Sandi, what are you trying to say???

She was fairly conservative this day, a cute top and shorts. It was lunch after all.


I was in a place where nobody knows me but I never got a second look as far as I can tell. It was a super busy hotel with a dance competition going on.

I was in the hotel bar/ bistro for about 3 hours. I was told that I was very well put together though.

Natalie, wherever we go, Michelle gets noticed. Trust me. That means I tend to get noticed, but I've never had an issue.

[Sometimes Steffi]

It's really hard to tell. Some people have great facial recognition and memories and some don't. BTW, I don't.

I met this guy at a new job. Even though he was only a visitor, he thought he remembered me from another job 4 states away. I thought it was just pretexting, but then he described the unusual sweater I was wearing. It sounded like one that I used to wear.

[Crissy 107]

Nah, not at all, you would have picked up on it if he did.

[Raychel]

My guess would be that he did not recognize you.
or he was too tongue tied to say anything with 2 beautiful women looking back at him.
Either way, sounds like a win and a fantastic time.

[Sandi Beech]

Haha Just joking with you Dee ,but you know she is a hottie.

There is really no way to know for sure if the waiter did not indicate he knew you. You may never know.

Sandi

[TheHiddenMe]

Sandi, the words are freakin' gorgeous. Yes, she is.

[docrobbysherry]

When I spoke to Jack recently I asked if he had any unusual customers lately. He was a bit surely and defensive while replying, "What r u getting at? That's none of your business!"

Altho I'm not sure he was your Jack, I think his reply said it all!:thumbsup: