What do you LOVE about your feminine side?

[SylphDevine]

I'm curious.

I love how Sylph bugs me until I do something about it...then pushes the activist in me to continue to break down these rigid gender "rules"...I live in a rural yet accepting town where being yourself is accepted.

I'd be comfortable being in public with my masculine side as my "body, but dressed however I liked. Masculine/feminine. Feminine/Masculine. Dolled up/passable. Gender fluid. I want to wear what I am interested in in the moment.

I want to gently keep pushing the acceptance boundaries of those around me. It's been remarkable so far.

So for the moment...I like brightly painted, sparkly toenails that are well manicured. Women are cool. I get why I identify.

[Geena75]

I still follow traditional male guidelines, minimum effort in looks, just look masculine. I LUV being Geena and doing things to look pretty, be it clothes or makeup or accessories.

[CrossKimmy]

I love how much more open minded I am. And I think I?m more fun as a girl!?maybe that?s why I struggle every day.

[Maid_Marion]

I love being able to shop for clothes. I'm too small to buy men's clothes. There are some ladies brands that don't go down to my size but there are so many that do!

[Heather76]

I enjoy how relaxed and calm I am. In male mode, I'm prone to let things bother me. When I'm dressed en femme, things just don't bother me at all.

[Sometimes Steffi]

My feminine side is an extrovert as opposed to being an introvert.

By feminine side loves to dance. Boy me hates to dance.

Steffi is teaching boy me how to be an extrovert. Yesterday boy-me just started chatting with a GG while waiting for the elevator. Today, boy me started talking to am GM in the grocery store who was deciding what salsa to buy. Boy-me never used to approach people he didn't know. Maybe it was a result of being raised under the stranger-danger paradigm.

[Maid_Marion]

My female side is very extroverted. I easily chat with random people.
I'll see a "this car climbed Mount Washington" sticker and ask a lady if she drove up Mount Washington!
Folks often don't think about the good times as much as they should.

[alwayshave]

I don't see myself any different dressed as Jamie rather than Jim. My personality is the same.

[April Rose]

Learning to respect and embrace my femininity has made my male side a more rounded, better person.

[Meg]

I love the softness it brings out in me. I am a more patient person since indulging my fem side on a daily basis. I find it exhilarating to put on something soft and flowy. I have always been a man's man, but alongside that have indulged my fem side from time to time. The industrial world I worked in can be so harsh and finding time to unwind in softness takes me into another world, a better place you might say.

[chrissy111]

I've always been just me, whatever clothes I was wearing.

[Stephanie47]

My old PTSD counselor for war related issues was of the opinion that each man and woman has some genes in their DNA chain of the opposite sex; in some it is more than in others. To me, that sort of makes sense to explain the variation in men and woman. In my teen years and early manhood I had a lot of self loathing and non-acceptance of who I am. I did not fit the societal norm. How does one react to that non-acceptance? Do I hate who I am to the extent of hating others? No, it was coming to terms with it and accepting others for who they are. I feel totally at ease operating in male or female mode. I see no difference in my inner core whether visually presenting as male or female.

[Kitty S]

I love that Kitty is free to do what makes her happy. Dancing and singing to the tunes while working is something I just didn't do in male mode. Empathy and not trying to fix things is a very new experience, just listen and connect WOW so much better.

[sara66]

I look 15 years younger. I dress better. Other than that I am pretty much the same.
Sara

[Camille58]

Embracing my feminine side has allowed me to love myself. And spread love, empathy, and kindness to those around me. My male side was always a little uncomfortable with that.

[NancySue]

The comfort and calming feelings. It never ceases to amaze me the wonderful results of dressing, makeup, perfume, etc. Having an accepting wife is the whipped cream on the top.

[MoniqueAsh743]

I supposed the dressed side of me has opened my eyes to the colours, shapes, styles of clothing and hair styles (thank you wigs) and the amazing range of shoes available. I can now appreciate how women can build up a huge store of shoes as I already have 10 pair. From a personality wise my wife and I can talk more about a dress she is looking at or that some one is wearing on TV as if it is normal for a bloke to be able to be make objective comments rater than objectify. Also recently when I was with the wife who wanted to buy new shoes for work there was another person trying on some wicked looking dress boots. I felt no worries in saying to her that they looked really good on her without feeling slightly creepy.

[looking_good]

Learning to respect and embrace my femininity has made my male side a more rounded, better person.

Could not have said it better. A somewhat better listener, more collaborative, a wider perspective.

[Andrea Renea]

Its different from my male side.

I have to think about my outfits more. Make sure they work together. I cant just throw on a tee shirt and shorts.

Also going out and being around people at the mall or Target dressed Pretty.

Ive always had great interaction with people while out.

[Jane G]

My feminine side is always there. Just a little more overt when dressed.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I like the line from the movie "Tootsie"

But I was a better man with you as a woman than I ever was with a woman as a man. Know what I mean?

[Raychel]

I love the way I feel when dressed, Totally relaxed and for a few short moments things feel like they should be.
I love the selection of clothes. The selection of colors and dresses, tops and skirts. Ect

As opposed to the guy stuff, Plain white underwear, A few different colored pants and t-shirts, Very boring
and not who I feel I really am.

[CynthiaD]

I can resonate with all the previous posts. There are so many things I love about my female self. As a male I’ve always been a know-it-all smartass who always tried to show I was the smartest one in the room. Once I accepted my feminine self, I realized that I hated this aspect of my personality. I began to treasure my relationships with other people. I began to realize that we are placed on this earth to lift each other up. I learned to let others be the smart one. I learned to accept others for what they are and to love them with all their faults.

I’m a better person as a female, and I like myself this way. My female self has bled over to my male side, and I like that too.

[Jennifer_Ph]

I love her hose and heels collection. :daydreaming:

[Jane G]

I can resonate with all the previous posts. There are so many things I love about my female self. As a male I’ve always been a know-it-all smartass who always tried to show I was the smartest one in the room. Once I accepted my feminine self, I realized that I hated this aspect of my personality. I began to treasure my relationships with other people. I began to realize that we are placed on this earth to lift each other up. I learned to let others be the smart one. I learned to accept others for what they are and to love them with all their faults.

I’m a better person as a female, and I like myself this way. My female self has bled over to my male side, and I like that too.

Being yourself and letting others get on with who they are. Your there. Male, female, crossdresser, pope, president. There really is nothing much more you can aspire to,

[Cheryl T]

I love how I feel and how I look. It doesn't matter what I'm wearing.
When I catch a glimpse of my reflection I just smile and feel so good.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I don't see myself any different dressed as Jamie rather than Jim. My personality is the same.

According to Myers-Briggs, your personality is an innate part of you that doesn't change, presumably, no matter what you wear. But, with all due respect to Myers and Briggs, they are wrong. Maybe they didn't study enough crossdressers. But, I feel different as soon as I put on a dress and go out. Even in male mode, Steffi is always with me and encourages me to do things that I would never, ever do without her.

And it's easy for me to tell if Steffi is the instigator. Like, if I were to walk up to a woman, say in the supermarket and complement her makeup, her nails, her jewelry or her clothes, that's all Steffi.

Boy me wouldn't do it, if for no other reason than that is sounds creepy. Steffi can even explain the complement. Like, "I love those colors in your dress. They go well with your complexion.

[Monique65]

As others have said, I am much more calm and gentle when wearing panties and a bra. My wife noticed this and that is one reason she is accepting of my feminine side.

[SaraLin]

I'm not so sure I have a feminine side anymore.
Then again, I'm not sure I have a masculine side either.
Trying to keep "him" and "her" as two separate parts was a constant struggle and it was eating me alive.
Nowadays, I live as a "blended" whole. I'm not ultra - anything, anymore.

Accepting my femininity - and my masculinity, learning to love both parts of my makeup, is leading me towards peace.
I'm a work in progress, and I don't know where I'm going. It's an interesting trip, though.


Now for the outside world - well, they only get to see the male presentation. (wife's rules, not my decision)
But if they pay attention, it's not too hard to see that I don't exactly act like a "typical" man.

[stefcd1]

My male side could care less about clothes and style while my feminine side loves women's style and fashion. I love how my feminine side embraces all things feminine, dress, makeup, hair, nails, etc.

[Marketa]

I am completely different person from my male-self. I love all the colours and options in clothing and shoes. Oh my, I'm big into shoes. Also today I made my makeup, put on jean shorts and light lavender t-shirt with deep-cut back and went to throw away plastics and then instead of home I went to near forest for a short walk. I sat there on a bench for about 10-15 minutes, listened to the wind in the trees, buzzing flies and then I slowly walked home. My male-self hates strolls. If there's no goal, why going out? But I really really enjoyed it.

I'm also happy my existence helps my male-self with his depression. And tbh in the past 3 months (we started at the beginning of April) his depression got significantly better and mainly self-ending thoughts are much rarer.

[BrendaPDX]

I am more relaxed, and the very few people I come into contact with are just somehow a little nicer, I generally try to avoid eye contact but when it is made I don't see disapproval, maybe surprise. LOL

[Abby-Becca]

I love being my authentic self, being able to express my emotions and feelings freely, in a way that I was never allowed in my former male self. Clothing is brighter, lovely design touches and more colourful than the drab male equivalent. The only thing I do miss, are the deeper male pockets in clothing ... but that is another thread altogether :heehee:.

Abigail.

[Helen_Highwater]

I had to give this a bit of thought and finally settled on memories. Memories of interactions while dressed and out in the world.

Yep being dressed makes me feel good, calm, I like what I see in the mirror. But it's those moments, the chats with SA's or complete strangers on a bus or train, meeting others from our community. Puzzled looks from curious children. Being able to move through a crowd largely unnoticed.

Clothes wear out, fashions change, but memories say with you.

[Sabine7]

My very inner side is feminine. I admire and desire femininity. Whenever possible I allow to be abducted by it totally. Crossdressing is just and only a part of it. A lot of other characteristics typical for women is in play.

[Natalie5004]

I love catching a glimpse of a pretty woman when I walk past a mirror. It surprises me almost every time.

I also like the fact that I feel so natural when dressed up. I could do this almost every day of the week.

[josie_S]

I love catching a glimpse of a pretty woman when I walk past a mirror. It surprises me almost every time.

Absolutely the same. The delight of seeing myself as a pretty woman is basically incomparable to anything else.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I love catching a glimpse of a pretty woman when I walk past a mirror. It surprises me almost every time.

Surprises me too. On a number of occasions while shopping en femme, I've seen myself in a mirror. My first thought is, "Cute chick." But then I realize that the "cute chick" in the mirror is me.

[Cheryl T]

I love that I'm able to freely do all the things my male self would never do.
I dance to the music and sing along with gusto. I wear colorful outfits, I cry at sad movies, I love fashion and decorating the house and I even watch Hallmark movies.

[Angela Marie]

Agree with many of you. Seeing my reflection, getting a second look, a small from another woman, etc. Recognizing myself as a woman and having others recognize me as such is incomparable.

[Bobbi46]

It is all about the woman inside us and the deep rooted femininity and feminine feelings we all have, I have been 24/7 for several years now and where I live and the town I go to do my shopping both give me the same level of acceptancy, a feeling of "here I am and this is where I should be in my life"

[sometimes_miss]

It's not a 'side'. It's all me.

[Larissa Cassandra]

I love the infinite variety of beautiful and sexy clothing and makeup and accessories, and all the different looks I can create depending on my mood, the weather, and if I think I might wander outside of my home (only a few times so far). I love the way I feel relaxed and comfortable, and like this is more my real self than the boy and man I spent most of my life being, because "that's just the way it was supposed to be." I enjoy the scents of perfumes and body sprays and lotions, and pampering myself at the end of a difficult day. I'm starting to care less and less about being outed (my wife is the only one who knows), as life is short and I can't imagine continuing to hide who I really am for the next however-many-years I have left in this life. I find great enjoyment in my femininity and expressing that makes me very happy. (I also occasionally smile when I catch a glimpse of Larissa in the mirror!) I'm still ok in male mode when I have to be, but I always look forward to becoming Larissa whenever I can, which fortunately is a lot of the time due to being retired in an empty nest with a loving and accepting and supportive wife.

[SophiaRose]

My femininity, and dressing to suit, is like opening up a hidden door to possibilities I just couldn't engage in otherwise. I wouldn't dare opening a fashion magazine or women's clothing catalog in guy mode. Once the skirt goes on...watch out credit card!

[Bea_]

I've taken a couple of psychological androgyny tests online. My personality came in as one that was close to center with just a nudge to the feminine side. I have a few strong masculine traits, being interested in women being the most obvious. But, I think that the tests were accurate in putting me where it did. One of the most obvious feminine traits is a very strong feminine aesthetic sensibility. I have no desire to present as a woman but I love a wide variety of the things that most consider to be feminine. I'd say the thing I love the most about my femininity is that it seems to complete, rather than compete with, my sense of manhood. I actually feel stronger by staking a small claim on femininity. I feel weaker when i feel a need to hide that part.

[Erin Lafleur]

That's a pretty long list for sure. There's the obvious things that I love including wearing bras, panties, stockings, dresses, jewellery, wigs, makeup etc.
Anything feminine works for me and since I only dress at home, I'm not limited to what others feel that a woman my age should be dressed like. If it's feminine and pretty, I'm pretty much sold!
Anyway, what I LOVE about my feminine side and what really connects me with that is feeling both feminine and at one with nature. Mother Nature I guess haha!
Since I only dress at home, I have a wardrobe that largely consists of chiffon, lace, many things are translucent and beyond all, I enjoy clothing that flows freely and easily.
Which brings me to what I love about my feminine side. I love to be outdoors and tending to my ever larger herb and flower gardens. I don't know but there's something about nurturing mother nature that appeals to my feminine sensibilities.
And especially when a gentle breeze blows against my hair and dress. Absolutely exquisite for me!

[BLACK STOCKINGS]

For me it totally relaxes me. Love the feel of women's clothes and hosiery. What I like the most is how my belly disappears when wearing a corset. It changes my whole look. I am one of the lucky ones as my wife loves when I am dressed which is almost every day after work. My collection of clothes goes way back in time. More than 45 years for dresses and shoes in my collection. Always hard to decide on what to wear. I use to be much more passable when I was younger. Use to walk the malls dressed. Now in my 70's my face no longer looks like the young version of myself.

[Teresa.Smith.VA]

What I LOVE most about my feminine side is the thrill of presenting myself in public as a woman. While I am totally comfortable looking and feeling like a woman, I also thrive on the conversations with others who treat me as a woman.

[missynicole]

The makeup and the clothes just make me feel so relaxed and fulfilled. A sense of peace. I am also much more sensual and sexual as a woman than I am as a man.

[CharlotteCD]

I love how it allows me to help and understand my girlfriend so much more. I can help pick outfits that flatter her when she's not confident about her looks. I am actually useful when it comes to styling for a night out, or packing for a holiday. She actively encourages my perspective.

I used to pick out clothes for my Ex-Wife and she would always buy that same item but with a minor change just so she didn't pick the one I chose. It's nice that Charlotte gets to use her knowledge and experience to benefit somebody now.

[Deborah G]

Deborah is carefree and lives in the moment. I find her exciting and fun to be around!

[Georgina]

I don't have a feminine side but I love feminine clothes.

[audreyinalbany]

I can't say I "love' my feminine side Any more than I "love' my masculine side. It just is what it is

[Leah87]

Having been 'blessed' with some rather girly features (mainly my eyes, lips and my rear) life in male mode has been challenging, especially during my teens and early twenties. My features have diluted somewhat as I've got older, but I'm still conscious of them. Fortunately, my wife wasn't too bothered by them and they haven't really held me back too much in my male life. Being Leah takes all the self consciousness away. I can look in the mirror and actually feel happy that I have such features. They work in Leah's favour. That is what I love about my feminine side / persona. The pleasure that I get from being Leah is immense.

[Bruce64]

My upper half is Feminine, lower half Male, lots of interest I'm Brassieres and Panties

[Christina89]

My feminine side helps me keep myself in check when it comes to my depression and PTSD. I have a lot going on in life and when I let out my feminine side everything changes.

[Sometimes Steffi]

My male side could care less about clothes and style while my feminine side loves women's style and fashion. I love how my feminine side embraces all things feminine, dress, makeup, hair, nails, etc.
I went to a Lululemon store a drab on time. An SA approached me and asked, "Do you need any help?" I replied that I'm looking for some yoga pants." She took me to the men's section and showed me the yoga pants. They were gray, black and navy. I said, "I was looking for a little more color." She said, "We have more colors in woman's yoga pants. Would you like to look at them?" I said, "Yeah sure", trying not to let my excitement show.

There was a great variety of colors, but not a great variety of prices. They were about $100 each, about 5 to 6 times what I usually paid for femme yoga pants at discount stores. I didn't see any significant value in the higher prices, so I didn't but anything.

[Stephanieanne]

I feel so right, I feel so very relaxed, I even drive slower!