Crossdressing when working from home

[Natalie5004]

OK, Most of you might know that I work from home. I do Zoom and phone meetings. The freedom to dress for me is always there, mostly.

Here is my issue, I dress so often that I an feeling normal and I look forward to dressing every day. I even dream of my outfits I plan to wear this day.

After a 1/2 hr exercise program I do in the early am, I get a quick shower and a shave, face, legs, arms. etc..

Then I start putting on my foundation clothes and some makeup. My wife is still home at this time but she has her own bath so we are not bumping into each other. I am getting pretty bold about my dressing.

I am starting to worry about when she retires in about 2 to 3 years and she does not leave the house for work anymore. I try not to rub my dressing in her face, (she is not thrilled about it). But maybe once a month on a Sunday when we have nothing to do I will dress with her in the house and we act just like I am normal.

I wonder what she would do if I were to continue on my current schedule of dressing about 4x a week. I guess I will have to make some modifications but she would also have to make some too. Time will tell.

[Bobbi46]

My advice for what it's worth is before you do anyhting have a very open and frank discussion with your wife, outline what you would like to do and at the same time not pushing your side too hard, if she is just not happy about you being almost 24/7 at home, both of you will have to try and meet in the middle. Good luck and let us know what happens.

[docrobbysherry]

I'm not going to try 2nd guessing your SO and neither should u, Nat! Do what Bobbi suggests after a couple of toddies one relaxed evening.:hugs:

[Fiona_44]

Sometime before she retires, you will have to sit down and discuss this and come up with boundaries acceptable to you both.

[JulieC]

Natalie, I agree with all the above advice so far. When she retires, it's going to take some time to develop a new version of how the two of you live together. Discussion is important to all of this. If possible, 100% open communication is key.

My wife has known about my crossdressing since early on in dating. But, frequently dressing has never been much of a thing up until about six months ago. We had four months of being temporary empty nesters. We discussed my dressing 24/7 or near to it whenever we're at home on several occasions leading up to this time period. She insisted she was ok with my dressing all the time, and would communicate with me if she felt otherwise. Even with my wife being very supportive, I think having those discussions helped a lot to have things go well. I didn't dress 24/7 while at home, but it was close...maybe 85-90% of the time, including sleeping (every night in nightgown, bra, forms, and pantyhose).

[kimdl93]

Hopefully, she will increasingly accommodate, if not fully embrace as time goes on.

[Helen_Highwater]

I spent many years as a mobile home based worker, some time spent in my home office, some out on site.

I retired about 18 months before my SO and had worries about my dressing time but as it turned out they were unfounded. My SO is out 4 out of 5 weekdays for a few hours at exercise class, other times out shopping, Saturday's I get 5-6 hrs home alone while she's at her mother's.

You don't know what your home dynamic will be like until you get there. A bridge you cross once there.

And as others have said, you have the to explore setting new boundaries so I would say by all means plan but don't worry too much, life has a way of working these things out.

I would say that makeup at home for me isn't possible but I've grown so content in being dressed in femme things that I don't really need it to feel comfortable.

[NancySue]

I agree with Fiona. Time marches on. Maybe, the sooner the better? I appears she knows. The negotiations involve both toleration and frequency. My guess is there will be many discussions. Take it slow. I wish you all the best.

[Sometimes Steffi]

My wide retired some years back, but she was always active with church and other volunteer activities.

Now she's having cognitive and mobility problems so she's home most of the time most days. When she's out, she also gets tired unexpectedly and comes home when I expect her to be out longer.

Maybe it's time for me to re-negotiate boundaries.

She also keeps talking about moving. Right now, we have a 4-bedroom house, and one bedroom is filled to the brim with Steffi's stuff. I'm not sure if the knows what's in there or more particularly how much is in there. We each have our own bedrooms. I can't imagine that there would be any room for Steffi if we downsized to a 2BR apartment.

[Stephanie47]

I k now of your future pain! I retired at age 60 and my wife continued to work part-time but full days. As a non-driver I drove her to and picked her up from work. No surprises of her returning early. That gave me a full day to be the homemaker doing all the domestic chores. My wife appreciated the baking and meal preparation, changing bed linens, vacuuming, laundry and ironing, tending the garden. Then! She retired. Ugh! The best I can achieve now is sleeping in a nightie or slip with bra and panty. I'm an early riser and she sleep late so I do have three hours in the morning to keyboard en femme; no wig or makeup, though.

[Marketa]

My last relationship was ruined by poor communication from both sides. If one of us did things right, we could still be together. I'm not sorry we broke up. I'm sorry I let it go that far, that it was only option.

So my strong suggestion is the same as others'. Openly talk to her about it. There's a lot you both have to solve and say about this and honest, direct and open communication will save you a lot of troubles and mainly regrets.

[@tammileetilliso]

Natalie, I have a feeling you'll have to dress less time.

[Natalie5004]

At least I have 2 years min before I have to deal with it.