Trying to feel more comfortable crossdressing with my wife in the house.

[Nyla F]

I'm in a DADT relationship. She knows I crossdress, and we even have a recent understanding that when I'm in a certain room (basement home office) with the door closed that she should not barge in because I could be crossdressing. However I have felt uncomfortable actually taking advantage of that arrangement, I had been waiting until she went upstairs before going to the basement to dress and if I heard her come down to the main floor I would quickly change.

Part of the problem is the concerns raise about how much time I spend in the basement even though most of the time I'm not crossdressing, just playing video games or watching you tube. She spends a lot of time watching videos and TV shows so it is a two way street.

So today I decided after dinner just to hang out with her. It was good, took care of some planning for some upcoming trip, but I think accomplished focusing on us for a while. Now we both have some alone time without the guilt. I can now enjoy some dress up time before I head to bed.

Been a good day, I think I'll do this more often.

[Maid_Marion]

Yes, that is a good idea. Spend together time. We would routinely do a day trip every weekend! As her disabilities grew worse we picked destinations closer to home.
Think of it as making an investment toward your relationship.

It is a lot easier to feel secure about the future when you have savings and investments.
Most of the time what you put your money into isn't as important as feeling comfortable enough to do it often!

Marion

[CharlotteCD]

When crossdressing is taking a priority over time with your significant other you need to look at your priorities. This isn't specific to you - this is for everybody on here.

[alwayshave]

Nyla, my wife is accepting. I put much more restrictions on my dressing than she ever has. In the back of my mind, I think if I dress too much, she'll say "no more."

[kimdl93]

Excessive consumption of video gamessocial media creates problems for all kinds of people and has the potential to damage relationships. Both are demonstrably addictive by design. Spending time with your wife will be better for your relationship and improve your mental health and hers.

[Nyla F]

Nyla, my wife is accepting. I put much more restrictions on my dressing than she ever has. In the back of my mind, I think if I dress too much, she'll say "no more."

This is the kind of internal conflict I'm talking about. I have this way to crossdress with her in the house, and not be seen, but reluctant to do it because she could still know (seeing the closed door) and is not supportive. But then maybe she is more supportive than I give her credit for if she has agreed to this arrangement. Thus I need to allow myself to dress more to really understand her level of acceptance.