CD & Partner Diplomacy, trial and error!

[Stacy Darling]

My ex GG was OK with dressing as we were both performers (me Drag, her Jazz Singer) all was fine for a while til ? She just said NO!!! I can't do this.
P.S I Dress or am extrav the rest of the time.
So I guess where I'm going, is that throughout my life I've tried so much to express myself, unknowingly. MMMm then tried to explain to my partner the inner unknown side of a CD, for which I can't "As I am but one".

Anyhow, the TRIALS are always to explain the Beauty of who you are, feel of the fabric which is always softer, the perfumes which make you happy & the colour and style choices.

The ERRORS are? not sure!
xxStace

[Stephanie47]

Acceptance followed by rejection seems to be a common thread around here. Sometimes I think it is better to just say, "No" when the issue first arises rather than have a false sense of acceptance and security and have it blow up in the guy's face.

[docrobbysherry]

An old girlfriend and I began dating again after we both divorced. That was nearly 20 years ago and I was just getting into dressing as Sherry. She seemed quite supportive so I continued to tell her how I was progressing.:battingeyelashes:

Then, one day she told me, "Stop! I've had enuff of Sherry!" She sounded jealous. We haven't spoken since.:sad:

[kimdl93]

It happens. It?s not uncommon for an SO to be supportive and then change her mind. Was it an error on your part? In this case, I think not. People change and relationships change.

[Sometimes Steffi]

It almost sounds like another version of PTSD.

[audreyinalbany]

it may depend on how hard you push the crossdressing...she may accept a little bit, but as you begin to feel more free to dress around her she may rebel and say she's 'had enough.' It is always a slippery slope we tread on. How much acceptance is enough? I'm wrestling with that right now.My wife is accepting in as much as she can be right now, acknowledging that I dress and trying to be accepting...she encourages me to go out to cd events and even to join the women's group at the UU church....but, she doesn't want to participate in any way or to see me or interact with me while dressed. And I, of course, keep pushing that boundary. I (and she) don't know if she'll ever be at that stage of actually being with me while dressed...dinner, movie, shopping or whatnot...but if I don't assert myself to some degree, we'll never find out.

[Nyla F]

My own journey included some self denial of my crossdressing until one day I put my foot down and said this is who I am. And so one can expect their partners in their own journey be in denial of their own feelings until one day they accept who they are and what they want. It is sad and difficult to go through, but isn't it best for the both of you as long as each is being true to themselves?