Not supportive but talking easier about CDing

[Heather76]

While my wife accepts that I CD, she is not supportive. However, over the past few days she seems to have talked about my CDing with a bit more ease. On Saturday, we were talking about 2 gay neighbors and how another neighbor treats them rather harshly. During the conversation I mentioned I suspect the harsh neighbor would have big problems if he knew I CD. Then we talked about several other neighbors and how we thought they would react. On Sunday, we played a 9 hole round of golf in the afternoon. During the round, I reached inside the top of my golf shirt to scratch my chest. With a sly twinkle and a grin, my wife said, "Does your boob itch?" When we got home, I asked her if I wore a skirt on the course if I could play from the ladies' tee. Her reply: "After I die you can do what you want." Today I played a round of golf with a couple of friends. When I got home, I was somewhat sweaty after 4 hours in the sun and mid 80s temps. As I walked by her, I said I'd like a hug. She said, and I quote, "I don't want to hug a sweaty woman." We both chuckled as she corrected herself with "sweaty man." I won't read too much into these comments, but I am aware for her to mention things related to my cross dressing 3 days in a row is something she's never done before. I will be out of town tomorrow (doc's appointment) and will be meeting another forum member for lunch. I mentioned that to her today. I wonder if she will ask about it when I get home tomorrow. While total support would be nice, I really don't anticipate any support. But it is nice that she seems a bit more comfortable talking about it if even in small snippets. That's a start.

[Helen_Highwater]

How's it go, baby steps. Seems apt for your situation. And any progress is progress.

[Jolene Robertson]

Hi Heather, an open dialog is always a good start and it sounds like it's opening up a little. That's progress.

[Crissy 107]

Heather, Sounds like some small but good progress. Congrats!

[Sometimes Steffi]

I've said this before, but it seems appropriate, "One small step for a [wo]man; one large step for [wo]mankind".

[bridget thronton]

Talking is good

[Jenn A116]

A small crack. Take small steps to widen it. Communication is so important.

[Stephanie47]

Heather, you're fortunate your wife will engage in conversation with you. My wife has not said "boo" since the early 1980's. She knows what I do but I assume she does not know to the extent what I do. At least she does not go into rantings and going on search and destroy missions looking for my wardrobe.

[docrobbysherry]

Yes, I remember my married days well. And, nites!:doh:

I walked on egg shells and bit my tongue ALL THE TIME! Then, we still divorced.:sad:

I don't know how I manage to get by now? With Sherry's gear scattered out everywhere in nearly every room of my house. I even have big trans parties here now! Neighbors be dammed!:devil:

Hang in there Heather! I hear u!:thumbsup:

[Crissy 107]

I've said this before, but it seems appropriate, "One small step for a [wo]man; one large step for [wo]mankind".

Steffi, It seems like I have heard this before?.

[kimdl93]

Even the ability to acknowledge and sometimes find humor is a bit of progress.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Steffi, It seems like I have heard this before?.


Are you accusing me of plagiarism? LOL.

I just made it up one night when I was dreaming of being Steffi.

Fun fact: A lot of people still believe that the "First Step" took place on a Hollywood sound lot.

[alwayshave]

Heather, I am glad you are having some open discussions with your wife.