First time outside dressed

[CDJessica4U]

A few weeks ago, I got the nerve up to go out on my balcony (overlooking the parking lot of my condo) and take some nice photos with the sun on me, while dressed en femme. Why is the thought of someone seeing me dressed so "scary"? Anyway, I took a couple sips of wine, and opened my slider, and stepped out. Nobody was around except a few birds, but as I posed for my camera, my confidence rose. Yay, me! About 20 mins taking some nice photos of my outfit, figuring out how to get the camera on the tripod to get all of me including my cute heels. By the time I was done, I was almost ready to just walk out into the parking lot! Can't wait to keep pushing myself. Course, I still need to learn how to start using some basic makeup and find a better wig that looks more natural on me. Thanks for letting me be a part of the community here!

[bridget thronton]

Welcome to the forum. Baby steps and proceed at your own speed. You did very well for first time outside.

[Sandi Beech]

Jessica,

Welcome to the club so to speak. You know you are hooked if you get a thrill from going outside. I used to be the same but now I pretty much just go to clubs and bars, which adds socialization to the mix. That will really get you hooked if you make that jump into the deep end.

Have fun with your time here.

Sandi

[Stephanie47]

The first time out always is the most stressful. Not to complicate your life, but when you think nobody is watching, many times there is. Maybe not with any intentions but the eye is drawn to a sudden movement. The first time I left the safety of my single family home was just to stand outside in my backyard under the cover of darkness. The CD Handbook seems to suggest taking an evening drive with the problem of getting from house door to car door, undetected. Next, its parking and stepping out of the car to mail a letter, to return a book to the library, pickup one of those free newspapers. Each time it's a challenge to walk a little further. The times I was observed en femme by neighbors were the times I thought I was totally under the radar. But, nothing happened.

[Raychel]

Kudos to you Jessica.
It is always nerve wracking going out.
I have stepped out on rare occasions, and I am still nervous.
I guess it does get easier the more you do it.
But I have yet to find out.

[siva]

you broke the ice. dress up, put some man clothes on top just to get into the car and clear the community after that you are free to do a lot of stuff

[chrissy111]

It gets easier every time uou step out.

[alliy377]

On Monday this week, I had to go to the grocery store to pick up a few things. Went home, dressed in my new GV jeans a tight Tee, heels and makeup.
Drove to a store a few miles away where we normally don't go. I have a company truck, so I have to be careful. First time I've been out dressed at home. It was scary & exhilarating at the same time.
I did go out quick once this winter to a Walmart when we we're in Florida and my wife was sleeping.
Can't wait to do it again!

[NancySue]

I concur with others. Scary, trepidation but thrilling and addictive. I fondly remember my first several times going out. I still worry a bit about getting caught, police, accident, etc. So far, so good.

[alliy377]

Good point, NancySue. I often wonder the same, as I underdress everyday, what would happen if there was an indecent on the road.
As you said, so far so good.

[Marketa]

That's great, Jessica.

Those are great first steps and as you've found out, once your heartbeat slows down a bit, it's not scary but exciting. But if you're going to be outside a bit longer, let's say an hour or more, "business as usual" part of your brain kicks in and you'll just go with your day and only difference is you're taller (heels).

For me the only scary thing is that I'll meet my neighbours I know personally. It's just like five people, but it's more than enough. But once I'm in safe distance, I'm immediately happy for being outside :)

[siva]

Good point, NancySue. I often wonder the same, as I underdress everyday, what would happen if there was an indecent on the road.
As you said, so far so good.

Long time back I was dressed up, driving on my ford ranger truck on an icy road. The truck flipped over and did a 360 and it landed on the farm. Since I had seatbelt nothing happened to me. It was middle of the night and I need a tow truck to get the truck out of the farm to get back on the road. I got out of the truck change into male mode, removed the makeup and then called the cops and tow truck.
Another incident, i was driving a car dressed up and one of my headlight went off during the drive. I was pulled over by a cop and the cop asked me to blow for breath analysis and asked me to walk on a straight line. I took my heels off and walked and did the breath analysis. Cop didnt say anything and he just sent me with a warning.

both instances I was scared and heartbeat was so fast, but it didnt stop me to go out dressed up. I still do it

[docrobbysherry]

I have my opinion why it is so scary for dressers in the USA to go out dressed, Jessie.:eek:|

I think it's because American men r particularly insecure about our masculinity!:doh:

I've been out dressed rather outragiously in Asian countries. And, while I've heard and felt wrath and repellent attitudes from American men I've found men in Asia r quite the opposite. They mostly didn't care. But, often they were openly amused and even curious!:)

[Geena75]

I remember the first time I stepped out on the deck behind the house dressed -- I would walk out into the sun then hurry up close to the house every time I heard a car coming down the road. Now I just look if neighbors (about 300 yards away) are out in their yard. Those first steps are big, so enjoy it. Next you will be taking a little drive, and so on.

[alwayshave]

Jessica, welcome to the forum. Really nobody cares how you dress. Keep pushing yourself to go out.

[Stephanieanne]

I think as I?ve aged I don?t really care what people think, I just get out and blend in , life is short and most people don?t care anyway 😉

[Sometimes Steffi]

I've been out a lot, but usually under controlled circumstanced.

Once, however, I was driving home from the Keystone Conference en femme. I was getting sleepy (a lot of late nights) so I pulled off to the back of a parking lot and shut the car off to get a quick nap. I left the key in the ignition so I wouldn't lose it. Unfortunately, with the key in the ignition, the running lights stayed on. Woke up half an hour later and the battery was dead. I didn't see any easy out, so I called AAA for a jump. I had my male clothes readily available and was going to change, but decided what the heck. AAA came, jumped my car and didn't say anything about how I was dressed.

[Robyn n TN]

Jessica, now you need to find a friend who can nudge you on out in your journey.

[Raychel]

We all need those friends Robyn. :)

[Robyn n TN]

I had many who helped me to get out....

[Sometimes Steffi]

See if there are any meetup groups or TG Conferences in your area where you can meet up with other girls that go out.

Hint, hint. There's an Orlando group of girl (see places to go) and there used to be a TG Conference in Ft. Lauderdale.

https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?284757-FEM-Orlando-July-20-2024&p=4703282#post4703282

http://southerncomfortconference.org/the-conference/

[Jenn A116]

I'd be happy to give you info about the Orlando group. You can PM me here when its convenient for you

[CDJessica4U]

Jessica,

Welcome to the club so to speak. You know you are hooked if you get a thrill from going outside. I used to be the same but now I pretty much just go to clubs and bars, which adds socialization to the mix. That will really get you hooked if you make that jump into the deep end.

Have fun with your time here.

Sandi

Thank you so much! Wish we were close together as I'd love to go out with you as my "guide"! :) I can't necessarily go out here at home as it's a small town where everyone knows everyone and there isn't a culture for CDs here, but my first time out will be in S FL when I get the chance. :) Thank you!

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That's great, Jessica.

Those are great first steps and as you've found out, once your heartbeat slows down a bit, it's not scary but exciting. But if you're going to be outside a bit longer, let's say an hour or more, "business as usual" part of your brain kicks in and you'll just go with your day and only difference is you're taller (heels).

For me the only scary thing is that I'll meet my neighbours I know personally. It's just like five people, but it's more than enough. But once I'm in safe distance, I'm immediately happy for being outside :)

That is me to a "T"!!!

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I'd be happy to give you info about the Orlando group. You can PM me here when its convenient for you

Thank you so much! Please give me a PM and I'll reply! :)