Be safe

[Toni in nz]

I'm a serious closet crossdresser and dress very frequently, a few years ago I was in drab with my wife, my sister and my brother inlaw on a road trip in NZ and a miad came into the cafe we were in, I felt really uncomftable even though I am a cd as well, my brother inlaw said he just wanted to smash him, my sister had to calm him down, I felt really bad like I didn't realise how some people are and how dangerous it can be out in public.
We all live in NZ now but my sister, myself and my brother inlaw where brought up in the the south of London Great Britain, it was dangerous in that period the late 60s and 70s, my brother inlaw was in a rough part of sth London as I was as well, he would have no hesitation to kneecap someone etc.
So please be careful out and about wherever you are and stop and think it is not all roses and very dangerous out there in the "real world"

[Genifer Teal]

Thanks for the words of caution. Life can feel so good. We tend to forget evil can be only arm's length away. I just can't understand how someone else's mere presence can bring on such hatred.

In the early days of Going Out you would hear the occasional story of a situation that went badly. Listening to the details. It was usually because some kind of conversation a back-and-forth of insults, escalated the situation. I've always steered clear of that and walked away from any negative comments without saying a word. To hear of something like this without any interaction or prodding is concerning.

[CynthiaD]

How true. The recent backlash against trans-friendly legislation has me concerned. I sometimes wonder if the politicians should have just stayed out of it.

[CharlotteCD]

How pathetic, immature and insecure must somebody be to want to physically assault somebody for wearing a dress.

[alwayshave]

Toni, I have a friend who made a comment about trans women. I asked, how does their situation affects his life. He couldn't come up with an answer. So I then asked what are you afraid of. He didn't like that question and didn't have an answer. I let it drop after that.

[CynthiaD]

Alwaysshave: I have the same thoughts. Anti-trans rhetoric, not to mention the violence, always mystifies me. It isn’t catching after all.

[SylphDevine]

I think it's because of the repressed homosexuality of a lot of adult men who act that way. Very easy to draw someone out with a question or two while in drab to determine their position. Even a lot of GG's are the same. What's the most asked question of the the SO when you reveal? Are you into men/gay? Like there's something wrong with that if you were?

The whole thing totally upsets me to no end.

[SophiaRose]

I keep thinking my kids and grand kids will be able to live in a more accepting world than we are/did. Lately I've wondered if we'll ever get there. Hopefully it's just a "two steps forward, one step back" thing.

[docrobbysherry]

American men r insecure. Which explains so many things happening in our country!:doh:

[char GG]

Just a reminder: Anything political will be deleted.

[Kris Burton]

So please be careful out and about wherever you are and stop and think it is not all roses and very dangerous out there in the "real world"

I think no matter what part of the world you live, always know your surroundings before venturing out. If you're unsure, do surveillance in drab before you go and going with friends is a good idea too.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I think the worst thing is if some GM takes a fancy to you without recognizing that you are male under the dress. That's a major faux pas, especially if the guy is out with friends. There's a scene like this at the end of the movie "Crocodile Dundee", when he accidently visits a gay bar.

[Glenda58]

MIAD is looking for trouble in today's world. People see that and right away form an opinion about him. NO is it a he or she. They don't even think he's gay just a Man In A Dress.

[Victoria1]

I think that, to some degree, this sort of behavior is driven by a belief that our lifestyle is of our own choosing. It is not. I didn't consciously decide to become a crossdresser. I simply am. It is not something that I can choose to not do. It cannot be explained or quantified in anyway that a non-crossdresser would understand. I empathize with any MIAD that feels compelled to take the social risk of going out in public. Maybe one day it will no longer be a risk. But not in my lifetime. There are days that I wish that I could turn off the desire to crossdress. Life would be much simpler. But again, there is no way for this to happen. I the meantime I will continue to enjoy it when I can and hope that more accepting times are somewhere on the horizon.

[NancySue]

I couldn?t agree with you more. In our area, we?re seeing more and more forms of road rage. Guy just cut you off, but don?t honk your horn. When we go out, I?m usually dressed but we both fear police, a flat tire, or an accident. We?ve had some close calls from aggressive drivers. Be careful and cross your fingers.

[Marketa]

I think part of the issue might be that LGBT+ and DEI is pushed and forced too much in the last few years and a lot, and I mean A LOT, of people are simply fed up by it. Even people, that before it started being pushed, didn't care at all and were just "live and let live".