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Sometimes Steffi
08-18-2024, 08:09 PM
I was inspired to write this by the post "Venturing Outside".

Many of the posters had a desire to meet someone like themselves and even make a CD friend.

At one time, I thought I was the only one in the world "like this". Then I discovered CD.com. There was a frequent poster here who lived in my area. I PM'd her and we had a PM conversation. She was the kind of girl who was Out and About all the time. We arranged to meet at a local LGBT restaurant and bar. We just talked about our experiences. It was great to come out of the shadows, IRL, not just online.

She introduced me to two CD friends, and they introduced be to two friends and they introduced me to two friends. Soon, I had a group of about a dozen friends and acquaintances. I went out with them almost every weekend it seems. It helped that my wife was out of town for weeks at a time.

One of the girls formed a Yahoo group. Yes, it was that long ago. She set up monthly social CD meetings at her house, that could draw 20 girls. She offered rooms for those (like me) who had to change "off premises". Eventually, so many girls started coming that we needed to find a larger venue. We went to one hotel many times with 30 to 40 girls. We only stopped going there because the hotel only seemed to be able assign one bartender to take drink orders.

We moved to another hotel. We usually got 30 to 40 girls on a Saturday night that was usually a dead night. 30 to 40 girls who drank like men. It was a good business model. The hotel seemed to get it and staffed our girls night out appropriately.

Pretty soon we were 60 to 80 girls, and topped 100 once. Some of the girls talked about the Keystone Conference, a two hour drive where I could be a girl all day and all night. Some years there were 500, 600, 700 or 800 girls. I asked my wife for permission. She said yes. My big secret was that I was going to go with permission, or ask for forgiveness. Her big secret was that she thought if I went, I would get it out of my system. She hadn't read the Crossdresser's Manual.

I met a girl at Keystone, who was there with her wife, and we became very good friends. They also lived in DC and we went to the Meetups and shopping and eating out a lot.

Once, when I was in Denver, I snuck away from my colleague and met a bunch of local Denver girls for dinner at a muggles venue and then a private after-hours shopping event at Maurice's.

In short, there are many ways to make friends. You just might to take the first step. A number of members participate in GNOs in Detroit, Orlando, Sacramento, DC, SoCal, Sacramento. Look for them.

But, make sure you practice a safety protocol. Don't meet in someone's room until you have met them in public and made a rational safety assessment.

Debbie Denier
08-19-2024, 03:28 AM
Sound advice Steffi. Back in the 80s I attended a local support group. It was there that I met CDs like us. A safe environment where I could arrive drab, change to fem for a few hours and leave in drab . I stopped attending as I thought having a girlfriend and then getting married would cure me of CD. Of course it didn?t. Sadly I found that the support group folded in 2004 . Wish it was here now. Many around the world have suffered the same fate. The personal touch has vanished.

Genifer Teal
08-19-2024, 06:25 AM
If you go out to anywhere people like us tend to go, you will likely make friends and find more opportunities to get out. Be careful what you wish for. It might be fun!

CDJessica4U
08-19-2024, 10:34 AM
Thank you so much for sharing this! I'm in the same situation where I've sort of under dressed en femme for decades but just recently crossed into full dressing and the most recent time, applying lipstick (tho I sure can use a lot of help there). I have not gone out in public and live in an area where I wouldn't (small town everyone knows everyone), but when I'm out of town, I'm ready to take that next step. I've done "photos" on my patio away from home and I know have been seen at least once. I really want some CD friends too. So thank you for the encouragement.

docrobbysherry
08-19-2024, 10:53 AM
Like u, Steffi, I dressed in a complete vacuum for 10 years until I finally went on line and found CD.com!:hugs:

It was here I found out about the SCC. My first ever outings were at the SCC in Atlanta with nearly 800 other dressers and over 40 CD.comers.
And, it's 2,000 miles from home!:thumbsup:

Then, I heard about Hamburger Mary's in Long Beach from local CD.comers. It's 30 miles away and they have T Girl nites once a month. So, safe for a "closet dresser" like me. About 50 to 100 dressers attend regularly and so do I!:battingeyelashes:

Marketa
08-19-2024, 11:38 AM
Thank you for your experience, Steffi.

I'm trying to find some CD group or some accepting me en femme group here in Prague, but it all seems to be only gay ventures, which isn't what I'm actually looking for.
But if nothing else pops-up, I'll might give it a try.

kimdl93
08-19-2024, 01:57 PM
It?s nice to hear about your growing network of friends.

Sometimes Steffi
08-19-2024, 04:00 PM
I'm trying to find some CD group or some accepting me en femme group here in Prague, but it all seems to be only gay ventures, which isn't what I'm actually looking for.

Don't forget the option I provided earlier to meet a specific CD.com member from Germany. It's about 7 hours by car and 8 hours by train from Prague to Bremen (according to Google maps), which was the last sighting of our German member.

I've met 20 of my 80 friends on CD.com FtF. Many of them I met as a result of CD.com. Others I have met IRL first. I also have many friends who are not members of CD.com and other girls in CD.com that I haven't friended.

Remember, Our local DC group attracted as may as 100 CDs to a Meetup. And up to 800 girls like us attended the Keystone Conference.

Some of my friends have dropped out of the program, while others have graduated to fulltime girl.

I'm not any braver than most of you. You can do it too. You just have to take the first step.