Gaining a little perspective by presenting en femme

[SophiaRose]

I found the posts about playing golf en femme interesting and fun to read. While I haven't done so, I can only imagine that swinging a club with breast forms in might be a whole new experience. I know that when I try to play the classical guitar with a stuffed bra it totally changes the angle of the instrument and presents a whole new challenge. I spent the morning fixing my stove en femme and again, my boobs constantly got in the way. I can only imagine what it would have been like if I had been wearing a wig with long hair!

Have you experienced similar challenges, silly or otherwise, as you've tried to do basic things while dressed? Walking/driving in heels is a pretty obvious one but there's got to be a whole list of things we do as guys that we take for granted given the few constraints we have.

Now for a little introspection...We spend so much time trying to present, as best we can, as women in a physical form it's these little experiences that make me realize crossdressing alone is so very superficial and I'll never really know what it's like to have grown up as, and be, a real female. No doubt trying to adopt the correct physical appearance is just barely scratching the surface. When I try to imagine the challenges women have gone through over the millennia I am truly humbled. Then again, women also experience amazing and wonderful things I'll truly never understand either. Wish I could.

[JesseVF]

I was surprised to find how easy it was to adjust to driving in heels.
However tried playing tennis once with fairly large forms and found them totally out of control when running for a ball.

[kimdl93]

The only think I can think of is occasionally my hip pads graze a doorway that I might otherwise avoid.

[docrobbysherry]

Makes the popular T phrase, "I feel like a woman", sound delusional doesn't it, Sophia?:battingeyelashes:

When I played 18 holes dressed in Vegas at DLV one year I wore some old, home made, foam forms. Never noticed them at all!:thumbsup:

But, I should have worn silicone. Then I would have had an excuse for my terrible round!:doh:

[Helen_Highwater]

It's only once you've fully dress that you start to appreciate how things you'd never have considered without doing so effect the behaviour of women.

Heels are perhaps the prime example and the effect they have in how you walk. And it was only after I'd bought a shoulder length wig with a side parting and sat down to eat my lunch that I realised why women angle their heads in a particular way when eating as initially I found myself having a mouthful of wig each time I tried to put food in my mouth.

Long nails effect how you do even simple things. Skirts demand that you sit a particular way for modesty. If you've put on makeup, blowing your nose has to be done with care if you're not to remove foundation. The correct way you carry a handbag (purse). So many small things that dictate the actions taken.

While we can never truly feel as a woman does we do develop a greater empathy for the lives women lead. Looking good can take a lot of work. We know not to ask, " What's taking you so long to get ready" when going on a night out. Those who go out at night will no doubt experience the anxiety that females experience if walking alone on a quiet street.

We do aquire more feminine traits, my speech patterns alter when dressed and out in the real world. I converse differently. I'm more likely to make eye contact and show greater empathy when listening to others speak. More tactile.

So I know I'll never truly feel as a women does, I'll have a much better understanding than the chap who's never dressed enfemme.

[Karren H]

My wife has always complained that nothing is designed well for women to use, like the car seat belts. She has always tried to readjust them and pulling them. Now that my breasts are larger, I am having the same issue. Always moving the seatbelt around to a more comfortable position. Plus I have a big issue with smacking them into doors what I used to just fit through without opening all the way. It is taking some adjustment but I would not trade them for anything!

[CarlaWestin]

I recently had the house to myself and did a complete bathroom remodel. Although the temptation was to be enfem,
the physicality required that I just stay in guy mode. Lots of crawling under the house where boobies wouldn't even fit.
But my morning trips for material included a little bit of underdressing with forms.

[Brynna M]

Sophia, As an occasional cross dresser your last paragraph really resonated with me. I love feeling pretty and gain some short lived insight into a woman?s life but I will never understand the reality of being a woman every day.

[Claire M]

I've run a few 5K races en femme with wig and forms. The first time, one of my forms came loose and wandered around inside my sports bra requiring a few stops off the trail to get readjusted. The next time, I made sure to use a little extra adhesive and get them really anchored so they were as close to being part of me as possible. At first, the constant bounce was a little exhilarating, but about 2/3 thru the race I decided I needed a better sports bra to confine the girls a bit more as my chest was sore. By the end of the race, my shoulders were also a bit sore. A better bra has reduced the bounce and chest issues, but not the soreness my shoulders. Maybe if I were forward-weighted full time those muscles would be more developed.

[Sherry Ann Evans]

One time I had to reverse my car, uphill, in heels, and it was a stick-shift. :bonk:

[Christie ann]

I had the opportunity to go rafting as Christie. The PFD certainly fit differently than I was used to. The other women thought it was a hoot that I had issues zipping up because things were tighter than before.

[Fiona_44]

I think many males really underestimate how difficult life can be for women. I have come to respect women even more since beginning to live as a woman a few years ago. Being trans has allowed me to understand the world of women much more than the average male does. It has also allowed me to feel very feminine even though I realize I can never feel exactly what a genetic woman does.

[JohnH]

I have been on estrogen for over 12 years and have developed DD bra cup size breasts. The growth was so gradual that I don't notice my breasts much in my day to day activities. And I present en femme virtually all the time, although I speak with my deep masculine voice.

John

[DianeT]

Boobs, the main difference between crossdressers and women. Women try to get them out of the way. Crossdressers try to get them in the way.

[Jane G]

I've been rock climbing a few times, with my forms in place. It makes a massive difference, much harder for me. Balance, weight and position on the he wall are all very different.

[Lorna]

As Helen Highwater says, just about every item and aspect of women's clothing causes different sensations and esperiences from those we have as men. I'm dressed only at home - and try to move and behave as a woman would - but have many times spent long periods underdressed and even that can produce quite a few challenges. Just one example: I was used to wearing quite a firm open girdle with stockings but, with the advent of tights and panty girdles (and with an away-from-home opportunity presenting itself) I bought a firm panty girdle with what were described (in the UK) as "short legs". This simply meant the legs were a little longer than the more common "brief" style. I wanted to find out how that girdle, worn over tights, would stand up to a day out. I was in one of Britain's larger cities and spent the day walking and travellling around on public transport and found that I was quite soon used to the somewhat constrained feeling around my hips, tummy, rear and thighs.

I needed to use a toilet (in a caf?) and, of course, found it quite a daunting process - had to use a cubicle, take down trousers, girdle, tights and panties and then get back into them afterwards. (Previously, it had been much easier: with an open girdle and panties over, with trousers lowered and panties pulled down, there was no need to disturb the girdle, suspenders or stockings - much quicker). There was also a more subtle difference (one that my wife had mentioned). When wearing the open girdle and nylons there was no question of ever taking the girdle down or off from morning to evening: it, and the stockings were there all day. Having struggled out of the panty girdle in order to remove tights and panties and experiencing a couple of minutes of "freedom", my wife confessed sometimes to wondering why she bothered to heave the tight panty girdle back on again when, unlike stockings, the tights didn't need it!

On my underdressed "day out" I found out exactly what my wife had meant. At lunch time I walked about half a mile up hill to a suitable eating place and discovered that it took rather more effort with my short-leg girdle and tights to move my legs to complete that walk, compared with normal male attire. It was also harder than similar walks in suspender belt and stockings, though a firm open girdle and nylons could also be more challenging.

Just a couple of observations....

[Claire M]

Lorna reminded me of a true female challenge... using the restroom. For men, walk in, zip down, zip up, wash hands and go.

In the ladies, stash your purse, raise your skirt, lower your panty hose and panties. If you're wearing shapewear that has to go too, except the ones with the gusset in the crotch (not designed for male plumbing). Then you have to pull it all back up and make sure everything is in place and smooth. And of course you need to be sure the back of your skirt isn't caught in your pantyhose!!. Then wash hands with a quick makeup and hair check. No wonder the lines for the ladies room get so long!!

I once bought a one- piece romper . It was amazingly cute and comfy to wear ... except I had the nearly completely undress (everything except my bra) to pee!!

[Sabine7]

Playing golf en femme seems to be ultimately exciting, always part of my fantasies. Starting play from female tee boxes, to feel the wind blowing under my short skirt... How could bras filled with forms impact my swing? One disadvantage - what would colleagues say?