Anyone else or is it just me?

[BustyOlivia]

Sometimes I feel as if I truly am two people, if I see a girl walk by my guy self will admire her beauty or how she?s acting, but the girl side will look at her outfit, see how it works, imagine the feeling of it and what you might do differently. I?m sure those of you who are in a DADT relationship can relate.

XoXOlivia

[Helen_Highwater]

Olivia,

I know what you mean. Male me will spot a female with a good figure and be attracted to her while the femme side of me is jealous of her for having such a good figure or the clothes she's wearing.

[CharlotteCD]

I appreciate both elements of wanting to BE her, and wanting to be WITH her.

It doesn't make me two different people. It's just the two sides of one person's thought process. Nothing more to it than that, in the same way as I am not a different person when I dress - I am just a less limited/inhibited version of myself.

[Kris Burton]

This is a very fine line we must navigate. For most of us we always have admired a beautiful woman, but now must linger longer in our gaze as we observe her fashions, style, mannerisms etc. and allow our imagination to take over. We must now be doubly careful not to appear like we are leering, giving the wrong impression to not only our SO but to the person we are admiring. Subtlety is essential!

[SaraLin]

I guess I'm getting old.

I notice the outfit, etc. and then decide if it's put together well and if it works for the lady wearing it.
After that, I find myself wondering if it would work FOR ME. (hint- the answer is usually "no, sorry")
My lusting after the woman - well not so much anymore. Seldom, actually.

[SophiaRose]

I can totally relate. I?m most attracted to a women's smile and curves. I often have to remind my self to stop staring so I can learn a little bit about how they put their outfits together. Sometimes I wonder if this predilection for crossdressing is just an over reaction to being so attracted to the opposite sex.

[JesseVF]

When I?m in male mode I have the same reaction as I always have - admiring the female form.
However when I?m out en femme - at first I start to have that same reaction - then all of a sudden it feels weird because my brain is telling me I?m also a girl, so I tend to just look away.

[Marketa]

My very own existence is based on idea, that my male-self "dies" for the time being I'm in charge.

But in male mode there's always this "Nice butt...And dress" reaction.

[Meg]

I must admit, I love the female form. The curve of the hips is intoxicating for me. I was raised to respect a lady and I do. I do look at fashion and try to post a mental picture for reference though. I know I will never have that hour glass shape, but I do admire it when I see it. Meg

[Jasmine23]

I also have this reaction, I can appreciate her beauty and find her attractive, but, I often find myself admiring her outfit and imagining me wearing it and wishing I could look as good as her in it. I often find myself being jealous of how good she looks or for being able to wear what she likes. The attraction normally subsides as I begin to imagine myself as her and know she's clearly out of my league!

[Claire M]

I was people watching yesterday; a nice sunny day on Chicago's lakefront. I think the women I saw generally fell into four categories:
1) The stunningly beautiful. Pretty. Well proportioned bodies. Beautiful outfit that looked like it was made just for them. These are the women I could only aspire to look like. The one's I'm thankful for dark sunglasses so my wife doesn't notice I'm staring.
2) Women with interesting outfits. I don't so much notice the woman but study the outfit; the colors and how they work, the form of the outfit and how it fits with different body shapes. Shoes, nails accessories. Mostly, how I would look and feel in that outfit in this setting.
3) Women wearing outfits even a self-respecting cross dresser would not wear in public!!! (Yup ... there are actually quite a few!) The colors or style absolutely did NOT work for that lady (or anybody in some cases!!)
4) The mass of women who walk by without a second look; generally invisible to me.

I think more than half the women I encountered fell into the last category but I spent most of my time watching category #2.

[Julie Frisky]

Hi Olivia I like to observe the way they put their outfits together as well as their beauty and often wonder what I would look like wearing it and walking down the street without a care in the world

Julie xx

[Michaela Jane]

I guess I'm getting old.


I'm with you. I'm too old to really pay too much attention to the girl, more so her clothes and if they come in my size. :)

[CarlaWestin]

As others have said, I'm always astonished at how some women can have an appearance that would never ever work with me.
I always notice how much labor and material goes into a daily makeup installation.

[Brynna M]

You don?t have to be two people. You are one complete person with more than one side. Thinking we should or even can fit into one mold is a source of way to much conflict in so many people.

But I do get both seeing a woman?s beauty and appreciate details of her presentation

[NancySue]

I hear you. Even with a supportive wife, I don?t stare, but, like Meg, love the curves of the female figure, bust, hips, waist, hips, legs and feet in high heels. I?ve tried to duplicate with forms, hip/rear pads, etc. I also check out what they?re wearing, wondering how it?d look on me. It?s fun when my wife sees something nice and tells me she thinks I?d look good wearing it. I think I?m also two people.

[docrobbysherry]

Totally agree with Charlotte on this one.:thumbsup:

I'm ME no matter what I'm thinking about or the clothes I'm wearing!:tongueout

[GracieRose]

The dilemma has always been there. I recall going to high school formals and admiring how nice my date and all the other young ladies looked in their dresses. I was also jealous that they got to wear such nice things and I was in a boring suit or rented tux that I really had no desire to be wearing.
My wife has been on the planning committee a few times, for a fundraising luncheon attended by all women. All ages from teenagers to quite elderly. Each year, I was volunteered, along with a handful of other husbands, to put on a rented tux and mingle in the crowd selling raffle chances. It is so frustrating to interacting with a roomful of women, 95% of them in dresses, observing what they get to wear, and know that I am stuck wearing a crappy tux when I'd rather blend in to the crowd. First world problem. :daydreaming:

[Fiona_44]

I do that all the time Olivia. I have always admired attractive women of all ages. I still do but now I find myself checking out their clothing as much as their looks.

[Heather76]

I enjoy checking out about every woman I see. That said, most of the time I'm checking out how they are dressed, what looks good, and what looks bad. I am by no means a fashion critic, but I cannot believe how many women need to pay more attention to how they dress. Of course, the same thing can be said of men. If I'm in the middle of painting a room in the house and have to go to the hardware store, I will change clothes. There is no way I'm going out in public in rag-tag work clothes. But, that's just me. The fact I see women out in pajamas, dirty jeans, etc. gives me faith that if I'm groomed somewhat decently with a minimum of makeup applied, I may not pass but I will look better than 50% of the ladies I see.

[Debbie Denier]

I have done that all my life. I learnt from an early age to be discreet.

[Lorna]

While I still enjoy seeing good-looking women, very few of them are wearing clothes (my main interest) that I would want to wear. I know I'm old and "out of date" but, compared with my younger days when I would see many women wearing clothes that made me want to try and find out what it felt like to wear something similar, that is quite a rare experience today.

[alwayshave]

Olivia, I find myself doing this all the time.

[chrissy111]

That's why God gave me 2 eyes, one for their beauty and one for their clothes.

[sara66]

I feel the same way. You Check her out and see what she's wearing.
Sara :)

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

I'm very much one person. I'm a guy who can appreciate the beauty and appeal of a woman and who can also appreciate and envy the clothes she wears, and the freedom to do so.

[cd300]

I definitely can conccur your assessment.
I feel the same

[Christina89]

I have caught myself doing that a few times. Even at work with some of the Social Workers I work with.

[CDJoyce]

Yes, I do it too. I look at a woman, admire her beauty and her clothes. I love it when a woman is wearing a great dress. I have to bite my tongue and refrain from saying, 'lovely dress'.

[BustyOlivia]

Olivia,

I know what you mean. Male me will spot a female with a good figure and be attracted to her while the femme side of me is jealous of her for having such a good figure or the clothes she's wearing.


Totally feel you girl! It?s amazing to feel seen! Heheh

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That?s really well said! So eloquently put!

[danniUK]

I appreciate both elements of wanting to BE her, and wanting to be WITH her.

It doesn't make me two different people. It's just the two sides of one person's thought process. Nothing more to it than that, in the same way as I am not a different person when I dress - I am just a less limited/inhibited version of myself.

Very much this. Though these days I've found myself more leaning towards wanting to be her than with her!

[Niccar]

Me too Dani. I can totally relate.

[Jenn A116]

I'm in the category of admiring the female form AND admiring what she is wearing. I live in a very touristy area and enjoy seeing women out in their natural habitat on vacation. I'll often judge their outfit as to how it would work for me as well as how it is working for them.

[NatalieMN]

It is interesting to think about in terms of being two different people or, at least, two different sides of the same person.

In terms of the idea of looking at women I too have the thoughts of wanting to look like her but also finding her attractive. But I do feel as if I am two different people because while I will look at women and want to dress as they do or find their outfit intriguing, I also don't necessarily feel jealousy. I mean, I guess I do by how much better they look than I do :) But I have seen other comments here and elsewhere about being jealous about how women get to wear pretty clothes and we get stuck in boring clothes and I don't really see it that way. I actually like getting dressed up in boy mode too. Going to a wedding in a tux or a suit is just fine with me because I like how I look in those. Yeah, it might not be as colorful as a dress but I still like the look.

So that is how I see myself as two different people. I like being/dressing as a girl but I also appreciate being/dressing as a guy. This appreciation of both still has me questioning whether I am "just" a crossdresser, genderfluid, bigender, or something else. But I do like being both :)

[Cassie2024]

I do look at women. I am gay, so when I look, it's more admiring beauty, fashion, and style. I also look to see what women wear, wear they wear what, when, where. For instance, I love to wear pantyhose, but in Texas, women are not real big fans of wearing pantyhose. I understand why. One could literally melt in this heat while wearing pantyhose. So, i've learned to wear them only during winter, if I am attending a more formal event, otherwise, it's knee highs, or socks, or go without. In boy mode, I like to look stylish which I probably, no,,, I know I don't look stylish. Again, I think it's cultural and weather related. jeans and tee-shirts, shorts, 9 months of the year. Iam more practical as a boy, but definitely, a bit more attention is paid when i dress en femme.

[Jean O]

I still enjoy looking at a beautiful woman walk by. Her clothes, her figure and the natural ways she moves leaves me wanting to do better with my own appearance.
Always striving to do better.