Venturing out

[Nikkilovesdresses]

For many of you, wearing a skirt in public is nothing new, but for me it is.

I don't really feel the need to fully crossdress in public, mostly because I'm far too old to pass, and I sorely regret not going for it when I was young. Today I'll settle for MIAD. The snag is that I live in rural France, a conservative country at the best of times, and hereabouts crossdressing doesn't exist. You might very occasionally see a man who is effeminate, but he'll still be wearing jeans and a shirt.

I haven't yet walked through the village - and probably never will - but I've visited several friends while wearing a skirt, and it has felt comfortable, though one of them was clearly a bit nonplussed. Apart from being ridiculed, which I could handle, what stops me is my wife's feelings. She accepts my love of women's clothes up to a point, but feels very uncomfortable about me wearing them in public.

But she's been away for 3 months, and my euphoria at having lost a lot of weight has caused a wave of pink fog. Or perhaps that's pink frog. So I've been pushing the envelope.

Both times I wore a navy and white polkadotted A-line skirt, above the knee, and a simple white untucked tailored cotton blouse, with pale grey ankle socks and cream tennis shoes. Totally comfortable, and apart from the skirt, basically unisex. The feeling of air moving around my upper legs is a magical experience, and most men do not know what they're missing.

I feel sad that we live in a world where society still frowns upon such behaviour. It's so harmless, and it brings such joy. There's a deep irony in male/female roles when it comes to the conventions of clothing. Men dominate the world, control most of what happens, and say what can and cannot be acceptable. Yet a few square feet of gauzy fabric threatens the poor darlings worse than almost anything they can imagine.

As if we don't know they've all tried slipping on a pair of girls' panties when nobody's looking...

[Crissy 107]

Nikki, If only more guys would try a few of the things we do I think many of them would love it like we do. In many ways the members of this site are so very lucky.
That said we all have varying degrees of acceptance but I take what I can and enjoy life.
Good you are getting out some, enjoy!

[kimdl93]

One can?t help but wonder how many of the males we encounter might share an interest in wearing women?s things.

I know it?s for you to decide, but as a person of a certain age, I would mildly challenge your notion that you can?t present well as a woman. I would have assumed the same about myself, but I have been pleasantly surprised to learn that I actually have passed on a number of occassions and blended in convincingly enough most of the time. At least for me, this is liberating.

[docrobbysherry]

Glad you're pushing your boundaries, Nikki.:thumbsup:

But, I believe you're mistaken about regular men. Because I was one into my 50's. Up until then, even tho I had countless opportunities?

It NEVER occurred to me to try on women's things!:battingeyelashes:

[Nikkilovesdresses]

Thank you all, and so good to see familiar faces are still here.

Kim, thank you- you're right of course. To clarify, if I can't satisfy my own fantasy of how I'd wish to look, which is like a 21 year-old model, then trying to pass doesn't appeal to me. I see that this is sheer vanity, and of course it's probably also just an excuse, but that's where I'm at for now.

You've come a long way from that avatar of a multi-winged aircraft! Obviously you've taken off.

[Helen_Highwater]

Nicking,

I have to agree with Kim being a person of age myself. True I don't pass close inspection but my experience tells me that by putting in the effort to look the best I can then blending into the crowd is more than possible. You can move things way beyond being a MAID. When walking around a town centre it's a handful of people will read me, a tiny percentage of those will give me a disparaging look. Yet to have anyone comment adversely.

The point I'm making is you're potentially missing out on so much enjoyment. You've done the tough things, making those steps out. Honing your appearance will take things to a new level, one that brings such a feeling of satisfaction.

We'd all like to look like a 20 something model but that ignores that there are many older women who still can turn heads. None of us want to reach the end of our lives and have regrets that we didn't do something, that we let opportunity slip by. My advice would be, give it a go, work on your look, seek the help of cosmetic sales staff and hone your makeup skills. Trust me, putting in the miles is all worth it when you see the results looking back at you in the mirror.

[Celine 9]

I don't venture out when its raining, snowing and cold outside. I like to venture outside during spring and summer. When I move out, I will have more time to venture outside.