Str8,Bi,or other

[SuzyZahn]

Not sure if this has been determined before. but the title asks. For me id say a blend of str8/bi. Keeps my mind wondering.

[MissSixties]

80/20 str/bi here

[Steph_CD_62]

I am 100% heterosexual (straight).

[DianeT]

It seems to me you are either straight or you are otherwise. 80% straight puzzles me a bit. Is it slightly curvy?

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

As Andrew Dice Clay said, ...... uh, never mind.

Average ordinary straight guy here!

[Mercedes]

Straight, I have never even imagined myself with a man. “Not that there is anything wrong with that.”

[Snide_lobster]

As far as relationships and sexual acts go, completely straight. The biggest catch is that the idea of crossdressing is arousing, and it certainly has to do with blurred gender lines. But as far as anything in the field, I've been hit on by guys (lookers and otherwise) and it sparks nothing in my old noggin nor below the belt line. Contrast that to that one pan girl who was a pretty heavy flirt with yours's truly in a skirt and 6-inch heels (perhaps I should have perused her a bit more) who definitely got my motors running.

[Genifer Teal]

You can make up whatever name you want to call it. I like people. If I like you we'll figure the rest out.

[Kris Burton]

I am straight. I can also find a well dressed CD with a lovely presentation attractive.

[alwayshave]

I'm straight. If I wanted something other than women, I wouldn't have gotten married.

[siva]

Totally Str8 as Male. Dressed as CD, still like women, don't know how to call at that time.

[Meg]

I have always been in the straight line. But I must say, I seem to be getting bi-curious. I am not cruising the gay club scene, but given the right moment, ???? Hugs, Meg

[JohnH]

I'm a straight male despite my appearance and attire.

John

[CharlotteCD]

I questioned and believed I was Bi many years ago, but this wasn't a "I'm dressed so I like men now" situation.

It was something that was pushed on me, because my (Now Ex) wife said that I must be gay for some of my bedroom preferences that she refused to partake in.

Her manipulation led me to believe I must be gay since I enjoy those things, when I should have actually been saying "Yes I enjoy these things... but only with a woman"

I don't find men, or male parts attractive. I don't emotionally fancy any men.

[Breezy]

I?d say bi, with a sprinkling of other. Being aroused by crossdressing always led to wanting to look sexy in a female way. Which is arousing to look at from a male view:)
Which goes into me wanting to arouse a man with my appearance but also I see other beautiful crossdressers and get aroused partially from the sexy feminine appearance but also because I know how it feels to be wearing all of the pretty attire! Long road! But that?s where my feelings land:)

[Andrea Renea]

Definely straight.

After 45 years of marriage not looking to change.

[SophiaRose]

Str8. Always plagued with the question: Do I want to be them, or be with them???

[chrissy111]

Straight

[danniUK]

100% bi when we're talking about the physical side. Though never had an emotional connection with a guy, so long term relationships have always been with women.

[SaraLin]

As (male name), straight.
As Sara it's a bit more complicated. I'd have to say "lesbian with maybe a small dash of straight-curious," but I guess I'll never really know.

[Philippa Jane]

Kind of on the fence I think.
I have the equipment and sometimes I feel curious but I have never been attracted to men as such.

[Princess Chantal]

I am pansexual, however feminine looking folks primarily pleases my eye.

[Celee]

Emotionally straight physically bi. I have been married over 30 years and I am totally invested emotionally with my wife. I cant see myself doing that with a man. I am physically attracted to her but also attracted to the male body especially if naked. 😉

[kinky_caitlin]

Totally Bi, I love women and all that goes with it, but I also enjoy the intimate company of men as long as i can be the girlfriend.

[tifftg]

I have lived a very straight life and I find myself getting more curious about exploring with other cd's and being the submissive partner to a confident man. Not sure how I would actually act on those impulses if at all but I do think about them.

[Jessica S]

Straight guy here. Just like dressing up and feeling girly

[Natalie5004]

Well, In the past I had 1 sexual encounter with a man. I cannot count or remember the number of sexual encounters with women. I always told my wife that I must e a lesbian because I love women. I love the way they look, walk, smell. But I cannot really get my male brain around how most women think and communicate. So, I am a male from Mars. But I like to doll up and behave like a woman when I can.

I am thinking that I like new experiences and I do not care where they come from. Life is great. Heading to Ireland this Sunday for 2 weeks. This will also be a great new experience for me. By the way, All drab.

[LydiaL]

No doubt am bisexual but without any relationships

[Erin Lafleur]

I would have to say that pan sexual most adequately describes how I view myself sexually. As gender fluid as I am, I have found that the same freedom that I enjoy from a gender perspective extends to my sexual preference evolution as well. Our gender expression largely exists on a continuum as many of us gals know and I am no different.
Now that I am a single empty nester who is able to dress freely at home, I have found myself presenting as a woman almost 100% of the time. From a gender perspective, it's how I feel most authentic. I really enjoy my feminine self and it has proven to be a very genuine expression of who I am. It's been a long time coming.
Many years ago I might have considered myself to be bisexual but that more or less presumes that there are only two genders and I certainly know different, at least from my perspective. For many years now, my sexual interests have evolved into the non binary arena and I now know that is where I feel most comfortable and authentic.
A feminine presentation has always appealed to me whether it's myself or my partner and it's what this gal definitely prefers.
A Holy Grail I realize!

[kimdl93]

No interest in bi/gay encounter or relationship. Because of the stereotypical notions of the time, I was deeply conflicted in my youth. I could not reconcile my interest in cross dressing with my lack of interest in males.

[Debbie Denier]

Str8. But l too was confused with my passion for womens clothes , my love of women , but no attraction to male?s whatsoever

[NancySue]

Totally straight. Never a thought about anything else. I just enjoy the comfort and looks of female clothing especially hose. Even though it?s improved, at least around here, the general idea is that all cders are bi or gay, of which some are, and that?s fine, but don?t categorize all of us.

[oh to be rachel]

I'm straight, although there was the one time at a Halloween party when multiple guys grabbed my boobs, one put his hand high on my thigh, and several cupped my butt. It gets a little confusing.

On the other hand, I feel awful for the amount of blatant sexual assaults woman go through with drunken men.

[Christina89]

I am totally straight.

[Geena75]

I regard myself as str8t, with one point of confusion. Suppose I was dressed up and looking pretty and was with another CDr also looking pretty and a kiss should happen. The male in me is regarding it as kissing an attractive woman, not a guy. Still str8t, right?

[Sometimes Steffi]

I'm attracted to women. So as a guy, straight; as a girl, Lesbian. But I'm also attracted to good looking women who are really men is disguise.

[docrobbysherry]

Crazy post!:eek:

How can someone be 80% straight and 20% bi? What does that even mean!?:tongueout

[MarinaTwelve200]

That's part of the Definition of a Cross-Dresser-- A Straight man who wears woman clothing for various reasons. (The noun) That bi, gays, and trans folks might also occasionally cross-Dress (The Verb) does not change that. That's why the old term "Transvestite" was invented, to differentiate the straight CDer. Dropping the latter term because it could be "offensive", has only increased the CONFUSION in the general public, and other groups of men who cross dress. The Wife (Below) is a typical example who associated Cross dressing with "GAY", as lots of people erroneously do, even though the "dynamic' is entirely different.

[Bea_]

Monogamous straight male. Not sexually interested in men at all and only sexually attracted to the woman with whom I'm totally committed and invested. Women, in general, get my attention and I appreciate universal feminine beauty. But, sex without that commitment seems too problematic to even consider for me.

[CarlaWestin]

I regard myself as str8t, with one point of confusion. Suppose I was dressed up and looking pretty and was with another CDr also looking pretty and a kiss should happen. The male in me is regarding it as kissing an attractive woman, not a guy. Still str8t, right?

I'm sorta right there, Geena. Str8t and hetero but Carla is a submissive troublesome tart at times.

[Alice92]

I'm straight. A straight girl :)
I?m more attracted to men but I don?t say no to a pretty woman.

[RoseReve]

Hello,
I should say I'm queer at least:)

[JohnH]

I regard myself as str8t, with one point of confusion. Suppose I was dressed up and looking pretty and was with another CDr also looking pretty and a kiss should happen. The male in me is regarding it as kissing an attractive woman, not a guy. Still str8t, right?

I think I would treat the other CDr as a fellow man, no different than if he was wearing men's clothing. And no, the kiss would not happen.

John

[CharlotteCD]

Crazy post!:eek:

How can someone be 80% straight and 20% bi? What does that even mean!?:tongueout

It's called denial.

[Jasmine23]

I'm attracted to women and have only had sexual encounters with women. I also find that there are some really beautiful transwomen and crossdressers that I find attractive, but, have never had any sexual encounters with any, but, would not rule it out in the future.

I don't find men attractive at all, but, when in girl mode I do find the idea of men been attracted to me or been the girlfriend or wife of a strong dominant man really hot, but, that's just fantasy or girl me seeking validation. While I don't see myself ever having a relationship with a man, if I were in girl mode and a guy started flirting with me I don't know how I'd react, it's quite possible I might get carried away in the moment and go further.

I've also fantasised about being the wife or girlfriend to a woman, which, is much more likely to happen if only in a role-playing scenario! I suppose overall I consider myself to be straight with a bi element!

[siantv2003]

Totally Str8 as Male. Dressed as CD, still like women, don't know how to call at that time.

I call myself a straight lesbian :battingeyelashes:

[RoseReve]

About the "80% straight and 20% bi" stance: some call it "bi-curious". Someone mainly heterosexual especially in his/her practices, but feeling something like an inclination towards other possibilities, without any real experience of it. That can be denial, but that can also be lack of an environment where these experiences are possible, fear of judgement, a rigid education, even an unconscious repression of a latent tendency...These are complex psychological matters.

[Hannah878]

I'd say straight, only attracted to women. But, there is something about being dressed up like a girl, and the obvious conclusion that men might find you attractive, that muddies the waters a bit.

[Monique65]

I would have to say bi curious. I have absolutely no interest in men, but an attractive CD does get my motor running. Of course, being in a long term monogamous relationship, I would never act on such impulses.

[Genifer Teal]

I regard myself as str8t, with one point of confusion. Suppose I was dressed up and looking pretty and was with another CDr also looking pretty and a kiss should happen. The male in me is regarding it as kissing an attractive woman, not a guy. Still str8t, right?

A few people have commented on this, so I will add my thoughts. These are only for you to decide. Because only you know what's going on in your brain during that moment.

Depending on the other person, they may still look like a man dressed as a woman or they may cross the bounds of creating the illusion they are not. This could allow your mind to wander and imagine another woman. In many instances, this is not remotely possible. Then there's also the possibility of wanting to take it further or just the fantasy of such and how you think of that fantasy and what you might do, taking it further. It's your thoughts about the moment that matter more than just the physical clothing.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I regard myself as str8t, with one point of confusion. Suppose I was dressed up and looking pretty and was with another CDr also looking pretty and a kiss should happen. The male in me is regarding it as kissing an attractive woman, not a guy. Still str8t, right?

If someone were to see a pretty girl kissing another pretty girl, they would think Lesbian.

But why even worrying about labeling it.

As the line from the keynote song in the movie Casablanca says:

"You must remember this
A kiss is just a kiss, a sigh is just a sigh
The fundamental things apply"

If you close your eyes when you kiss, lips are just lips. Just hope that the lips are soft.

[RoseReve]

Very nice words Steffi:daydreaming:
Thanks
Rose

[Alice92]

I knew that most of the crossdressers were straight, contrary to prejudices, but I did not expect to find so few gays and bisexuals on this forum. Am I the only one currently in a relationship with a man and have dated mostly men?

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

Geena, no. If you're with someone who you know is a guy, and a kiss "happens", then you're ok with kissing a guy. If you're honestly fooled and believe he's a she, then that's different, at least until you learn the truth and what you decide to do next.
If you know and kiss anyway it's gay or bi. Nothing wrong with that of course if that's who you are, but I can guarantee that in my case that kiss will not ever "happen". Not enough beer in the world to make me even consider it.

[LIKETODRESS2]

bi sexual here. I been with my gf now for 8 years now and only her. But when single it was 100 percent sex with a male

[Sabine Janus]

Straight as can be

[Kitty Sue]

I am definitely Bi.

[Mary Loo]

Add another 100% straight and monogamous response to the list.

[Jessica Secret]

I considered myself straight in my teens but it's my opinion that wearing lingerie to bed every night is what turned me bi-curious. The urges to want a boyfriend grew steadily and by the time I was 20, I was in a relationship with a guy (and still am!). I am still attracted to women but but I can't see myself ever wanting a relationship with a woman even in the event that things ended with my boyfriend. Nothing, and I mean nothing, beats the feeling of wearing romantic lingerie to bed for a guy to have intimacy which is why I love being with a guy. There's nothing like it.

[Lacey New]

Completely Straight. Never had any interest in being with another male. And married to the same woman for multiple decades now.,

[Jenn A116]

No desire at all to be with a guy. Happily married to a semi-accepting wife for over 25 years now.

[Breezy]

I agree with you Jessica! My sentiments exactly ;)

[Jane G]

Never explored far enough to really know. Lesbian in my head, which is not at all straight. Just be yourself and forget the labels, much simpler life that way.:)

[EmilyShy]

I dunno to sum it up.
I love women and all the cool clothes they have an option to wear. Which is probably my main attraction to dressing. But separately I'm also interested in sex and all aspects of it. Dressing for me is sexual. Not having actual sex but feeling sexual/sexy. Now finding a woman that likes to dress up these days is rare, to find one who likes to dress specifically for sex is even harder. Add that to one that is actually interested in exploring the sexual world is even more rare and very very hard to find. So this is where my conflict arrises. First and foremost wearing the clothes is my main attraction (part because women dont) and then its only natural for me to want to take it the next level. Being the woman and acting the woman (sexually) appeals but I have never acted on it. Either with a male or with a CD I just dunno. If that makes me bi then so be it
Unfortunately these topics of dressing or sexual dreams (either with cis women or otherwise) are not allowed to be discussed as they are taboo and you get labelled a pervert or sexual deviant. Even the asking a woman to wear high heels is wrong these days let alone asking to wear them for sex. So i I'm resolved to dressing in private and dreaming lol


Emily xx

[TheHiddenMe]

That's part of the Definition of a Cross-Dresser-- A Straight man who wears woman clothing for various reasons. (The noun) That bi, gays, and trans folks might also occasionally cross-Dress (The Verb) does not change that. That's why the old term "Transvestite" was invented, to differentiate the straight CDer. Dropping the latter term because it could be "offensive", has only increased the CONFUSION in the general public, and other groups of men who cross dress. The Wife (Below) is a typical example who associated Cross dressing with "GAY", as lots of people erroneously do, even though the "dynamic' is entirely different.

Once again, the definition of crossdressing has NOTHING to do with sexual orientation, no matter how many times you repeat that. There are female, gay, bi, and straight CDs. Also, tranvestism preceeds crossdressing, so you have that wrong also.

The statistics suggest that most male CDs are heterosexual, but not all.

To answer the question, I'm a straight male, but if the circumstances were to happen (like attending a sex party that I am unlikely to ever attend), I would probably consider engaging in sexual acts with a male, from curiosity and trying something new.

[Jessica Secret]

I knew that most of the crossdressers were straight, contrary to prejudices, but I did not expect to find so few gays and bisexuals on this forum. Am I the only one currently in a relationship with a man and have dated mostly men?

You're not, I'm in that club also Alice! Isn't it great to be in a relationship with a guy?

[danniUK]

I knew that most of the crossdressers were straight, contrary to prejudices, but I did not expect to find so few gays and bisexuals on this forum. Am I the only one currently in a relationship with a man and have dated mostly men?

I've had roughly equal numbers of male and female sexual partners, though my few serious relationships have been with women. I wouldn't rule out a serious relationship with a man, other than I'm currently married to the greatest woman I've ever known and don't see that ever changing!

[RoseReve]

I thought I was exclusively attracted to women.

But there were lots of caricatures in my head about men: dirty, hairy, with a rough and irritating skin, offensive, sometimes violent, and so on. I think this was a mixture of repression of my desire to men, and a consequence of the bullying I suffered from men since my early childhood. Also the fact that I wasn't happy as a man, and thought all men were equally unhappy with themselves. Who wants to be with someone unhappy!?

As I discovered and accepted my femininity, and as I understood that I did want a man to be attracted to the woman in me, because I don't really feel like a man, as I gained trust in myself and in my desires, as I learnt not to repress them anymore, I began to look at men with the eyes of a sexually active women, and to understand what women do like when they are near men.

Now I fully accept the way some men turn me on, but it is also a very different way of turning me on than women do...

Cheers, have a nice time with whoever you desire :battingeyelashes:

Rose

[Sometimes Steffi]

RoseReve's response recalled a (suppressed) memory.

I was starting with a new therapist, and I told her in the first session that I "crossdressed".

At the end of the first session, she said, "You are gay. But don't worry about it. It's OK to be gay."

This comment was very unprofessional on so many levels. She shouldn't have told me, she should have led me in that direction and discover it myself. Plus, it was a pretty bold declaration to make after knowing me for only 50 minutes.

Aa an adult, I was more open to being gay. As a teenager, there's no way that I would calmly accept that "diagnosis". Well, at that time I went to the gym regularly, three times a week. I changed in the locker room each time. I decided it was a perfect environment to fact check my gayness. So, I surreptitiously checked out the guys is various states of undress. There were a few that I wanted to be (tall, chiseled jaw, muscular body), but there were now that I wanted to "be with". Yuck.

As an engineer, I used the scientific method, and it worked for me. No guys. Subsequently, I changed my view. I was attracted to guys, but only if they were wearing a dress and dressed to the nines.

I did keep seeing this therapist weekly for several months. I always arrived at her office en male, but I changed to en femme before my appointment. I got to try out a number of different styles from demure librarian, to office girl, to a mini-skirted teenager. She was always excited to see me dressed and even complimented me on my outfit a few times. We even talked about makeup, particular eyeliner, which she wore quite heavily. Once I told her that she could apply eye liner to me. She say that she could, but it would cross the professional line.

[RoseReve]

Absolutely Steffi, telling you "You are gay" was totally out of place, farfetched, unprofessional, what you want...I'm studying these matters with the desire some day to help other people, and it seems to go against all the aims of a therapy to express something so blunt.

Or she opted for a kind of warped strategy to get you to explore your feelings...But I don't think it's the best option anyway!

Cheers,

Rose

[Alice92]

You're not, I'm in that club also Alice! Isn't it great to be in a relationship with a guy?

Accepting my love for men saved my life, I?m the happiest girl now :)

[RoseReve]

:heehee::thumbsup:

[prw230]

I consider myself to be straight. I am attracted to women & not attracted to men. When out & about, a pretty woman gets my attention. Guys, I never notice.
That said, there are some sexual acts that I like & have done with men. It is only those acts that I am interested in & there is no other attraction. If someone wants to call this bisexual, I would not argue, but without any attraction to men, I call myself straight.

[Jessica Secret]

Accepting my love for men saved my life, I?m the happiest girl now :)

I realized around the age of 20 that I really wanted to be with a guy and it's been the BEST decision I ever made. Having a boyfriend is truly incredible and I couldn't be happier myself!

[danniUK]

I consider myself to be straight. I am attracted to women & not attracted to men. When out & about, a pretty woman gets my attention. Guys, I never notice.
That said, there are some sexual acts that I like & have done with men. It is only those acts that I am interested in & there is no other attraction. If someone wants to call this bisexual, I would not argue, but without any attraction to men, I call myself straight.

It's all on a scale, isn't it?
What you describe is (I think) heteroromantic bisexual which is kind of where I lean - have only had proper relationships with women but very much enjoy having sex with men.

[NaughtyMichelle]

Bisexual

[Heather76]

Straight here, but in the past 10 - 15 years I would admit to being bi-curious with a trans woman. Another guy does nothing for me in the slightest. That said, it would never happen so long as my wife is in my life. As I'm 12 years her senior and the one with health issues, I'd say the odds of me ever being without her are slim to none.

[prene]

I thought I was 100% straight.

I love going out as a woman and love women.

I always wondered what it would be like to be out with a guy as the woman, not to be with the guy but to be that feminine woman.

I did it once.

To be honest parts wear fun, and the power of a feminine body is empowering. Not sure I will ever do it again, parts were confusing.

[SylphDevine]

I'm straight, but one night I got too drunk and crossdressed in front of a male friend.

Won't ever do that again. Did not like being treated like an object for his gratification, and yes, while drunk I was a very willing participant.

So yeah, way in the past and never again.

[Stephanie47]

100% straight

[Sandi Beech]

I have to say I am Str8 just because I am just not physically attracted to men. The odd thing is that I am ok with them being attracted to me when I am dressed up. I think it is kind of a validation that what I am wearing is not only attractive to me but others as well. That does not mean I am going home with someone who hits on me. What I find odd is that I have seen posts where some say they would not know what to do if someone hit on them while dressed. It seems simple to me. You are straight or other, available or not, lastly interested in the other person or not. The decision is easy because you already know the answer to the first two.

Sandi

[Sometimes Steffi]

I like to make up lines to use in case I get into difficult circumstances.

So, the scenario is that I'm sitting alone at a bar. Some guy (from a table with a bunch of guys) come over and is chatting me up. I'm a friendly girl; I'll talk to him. But, if he tries to proposition me, I'll thank him for his offer, but tell him, "I'm kind of into chicks. But, if you want to wear a dress, we could discuss it further."

He can then go back to his guy friends and explain that he wasn't "shot down", but that I wasn't dating material. He gets to keep his pride among his male group, but gets the hint to back off.

[sometimes_miss]

Straight up, with a twist.

[racquelr]

I'm somewhere in between I would say - mostly straight, but fantasize about being treated as "woman", especially when dressed.
I woudn't classify myself as fully bisexual as I have no interest in men otherwise.
I'm never checking out men or attracted to men, nor could I see myself in a relationship with a man.
I definitely have fantasies about being with a trans woman and would definitely consider a relationship with one if I weren't happily married to a wonderful woman.

[KymG]

Straight. But that doesnt make me any better than anyone who isnt.
I feel the same as Sandi does about this.

[Raychel]

Definitely very straight. Doesn't matter how I am dressed or where I am

[Katherine L.]

I am straight. No interest in men whatsoever, whether I am dressed or not.

[Blynda52]

Straight, with a different sort of fashion sense them most men.

[CDMargret]

I love this line from a previous post. "I have absolutely no interest in men, but an attractive CD does get my motor running." My wife and I have had a few experience with another CD and found them to be enjoyable.

[samantha lane]

Well, In the past I had 1 sexual encounter with a man. I cannot count or remember the number of sexual encounters with women. I always told my wife that I must e a lesbian because I love women. I love the way they look, walk, smell. But I cannot really get my male brain around how most women think and communicate. So, I am a male from Mars. But I like to doll up and behave like a woman when I can.

I am thinking that I like new experiences and I do not care where they come from. Life is great. Heading to Ireland this Sunday for 2 weeks. This will also be a great new experience for me. By the way, All drab.

Wishing all the best on your trip to the old sod. Liked your commentary here about liking new experiences and not caring where they come from. Found myself attracted to a young gay pretty boy at work for his female features. Nothing happened yet surprised at my attraction and the experience of it.

[racquelr]

I love this line from a previous post. "I have absolutely no interest in men, but an attractive CD does get my motor running." My wife and I have had a few experience with another CD and found them to be enjoyable.

I could also see myself having relations with another CD, especially if they've put effort in to be somewhat passable (i.e., didn't just throw on a wig and a dress).
To have an experience with a CD, trans woman, or man with my wife also involved would be the ultimate fantasy fulfilled.

[FrannGurl]

Bisexual here, but I prefer men much more than woman.

[Lilly Diadem]

As incongruent as it may seem given the overwhelming desire to become feminine and an attraction to all the things that go with it, I am a Hetrosexual male.

There may be a bisexual or gay (lesbian) element in my some of my fantasies but that is what fantasies are for and whilst they remain in my imagination I am in total control, nothing is compromised and no-one gets physically or mentally hurt.

I have no desire to transfer any of those fantasies into reality :battingeyelashes:

[kimmy p]

I was talking with a gay friend of mine one day. Being friends we could be honest with each other. At some point in our talk I point blank told him that while I was an allie, the thought of even kissing another male was repulsive to me. He laughed and told me that he was repulsed at the thought of kissing a female. I said "cool,,,, we can hang together. I will admire the ladies, you scope out the guys." Worked out perfectly.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I have no desire to transfer any of those fantasies into reality

Yes, I fully understand that, but what if the fantasy came to you?

I was enticed over the line like that. I was at the Keystone Gala Ball, and I danced with this one CD girl a lot. When the music ended, she said, "I wasn't going to take my panties off for you, but I would have liked a kiss." Steffi was caught up in the moment, and without much thought, she replied, "I could do a kiss." And we kissed, more than once. But good girls don't tell secrets.

Another time, Steffi was sitting next to a GG. I don't remember exactly how this happened, but we decided to transfer lipstick to each other. It was the first time I kissed a GG while wearing lipstick.

[Lilly Diadem]

Yes, I fully understand that, but what if the fantasy came to you?

Maybe I would have done half a lifetime ago, if I knew then what I know now, but then an older and more experienced (if not actually wiser) head on younger shoulders may have have done a few things differently.

Back in the day when a younger Lilly was Lauren, 25+ years ago, her outlook and expectations were very different to what they may have been had she been born at that point. Continuing along that thought path, if Lauren was around 25 years old today I think her options for moving forward would have been more varied and there is a possibility that she may have walked a different path.
Lauren was much more active in going out and did come into contact with others on her travels where there was opportunity to live out some of those fantasies but was not confident enough in her sexuality to explore further without fear, guilt or remorse.
Reflecting on Lauren and her adventures, it not only feels like a lifetime ago but it also seems like I am reviewing someone's else's story.
There are certainly no regrets but the passing of time allows for reflection and consideration to what might have been had the situation and the World been more accepting to our community.

[Karren H]

I do not really like guys. I could not see myself with a guy. And I have seen some mighty attractive TG girls out there, I am attracted to their femininity not their maleness. But my faithfulness to my marriage keeps me from any any other path than the one I have been on for the last 7 decades.

[Kelli_cd]

100% straight. I just like to wear beautiful panties and bras.

[SuzyZahn]

Wow ,,,after starting this thread i`d never thought this amount of feed. I`m so happy that so many have responded. Anyways,,,,me,,,Hmmm,, for me the ,,,oh my,,im thinking,,,im an adoring sister as are many here, always enjoyed being, and feeling , and looking my softer side. Once I started,,,many years ago,,,it just happens today. I get to be thankfully for an adoring wife my softer side alot. That being said, I`ve always wondered about being the sub/fem side to and adoring male. Will or when it would ever happen,,,dunno,,,but damn,,its so fun to dream and ponder. I`d have to say it`s a bucket list item to ????:battingeyelashes:

[Julie Frisky]

I am Bi curious, i am not overly attracted to men, but when dressed for me the lines get a little blurred, I did make out with a guy once (in drab mode) and it was fun and something that I would like to explore more as it was fun and exciting.

[Georgina]

I have been straight all my life and expect to remain so.

[Skipper]

Not sure if this has been determined before. but the title asks. For me id say a blend of str8/bi. Keeps my mind wondering.

Living the straight life but can't deny my attraction to men and the bi lifestyle.

[Jean O]

I have had some experiences with a guy but only in a health club environment. I have not gone out in dress to a club where i might meet a guy. I would be nervous about the club experience but open to going to try. Then if something happens it happens.

[samantha lane]

I thought I was exclusively attracted to women.

But there were lots of caricatures in my head about men: dirty, hairy, with a rough and irritating skin, offensive, sometimes violent, and so on. I think this was a mixture of repression of my desire to men, and a consequence of the bullying I suffered from men since my early childhood. Also the fact that I wasn't happy as a man, and thought all men were equally unhappy with themselves. Who wants to be with someone unhappy!?

As I discovered and accepted my femininity, and as I understood that I did want a man to be attracted to the woman in me, because I don't really feel like a man, as I gained trust in myself and in my desires, as I learnt not to repress them anymore, I began to look at men with the eyes of a sexually active women, and to understand what women do like when they are near men.

Now I fully accept the way some men turn me on, but it is also a very different way of turning me on than women do...

Cheers, have a nice time with whoever you desire :battingeyelashes:

Rose Marveled at your insight after a daliance with a trans women. While dressed I experienced the role of a sexually active women and loved it. We both shared that experience at the same time. Afterwards my fear of being too involved I returned to my long term marriage, though greatly aware of my bisexuality. Finding a different way of turning me on than women do has been quite the roller coaster ride.

[BLUE ORCHID]

I am just a STR8 guy that likes to Dress Pretty,

[missynicole]

definitely gay and love being a woman in all respects.

[BrendaPDX]

I am kind of with SuzyZahn, Str8/bi Probably the first time I have ever said that. Brenda

[Sporco]

Bi. MtF trans but live as str8 man who underdresses. Wife knows I dress but not true reason why. She thinks I'm just a CD. Kids do not know at all. I'm not willing to sacrifice my wonderful family situation for selfish needs. Underdressing helps dysphoria enough that I can live with it and still be relatively happy. That's not to say I don't have struggles, I do, but I can deal with them. I will not go outside our marriage for anything.

[BiancaEstrella]

I stopped trying to fit my attraction into a singular label long ago. The umbrella term "queer" works, but that's as much about who I am as it is about who I like.

I am attracted to cis women, trans women (pre-, post-, or non-op), and MtF crossdressers (understanding the part-time nature of access to dress, accepting it at whichever interval it presents, and really only wanting to see that side of a CDer). I've known of my attraction to the first two groups since young adulthood but the realization that I'm also attracted to crossdressers is a more recent discovery in my life. From 2007-2017, the time in which I understood myself as a crossdresser, I looked at all other CDs as "member of a group I'm also in" and left out any judgment of "how good they look" beyond a kind compliment, but found myself deeply interested in, and attracted to, crossdressers as of 2019, two years after I came out as transgender.

What I find attractive in these groups of people varies wildly, and obviously I don't find all members of any given group attractive. There are commonalities amongst them but the differences in perception allow me to distinguish that, hey, I like crossdressers differently than cis women for reasons x, y, and z, which I will not expand on here mainly due to lack of eloquence on my own part. I understand my thoughts and the emotions which develop in a way that make great sense to me but I've found difficult to explain to others.

[Giselle(Oshawa)]

100% celebate

[HollyGreene]

Totally straight.

[Freddi]

100%straight Happily married. Just like to wear dresses

[Staci]

Straight. Never a doubt for me.

[Megan77]

I'm bi, but don't really find men attractive. Have an urge every now and then especially when dressed up to be with a man. Definitely prefer women though.

[countrygirl]

100 % gay. I like guys. It doesn't matter if I am dressed female or not. I guess Amanda is straight but I am gay as my male self.

[Pamcco-6005]

I'm bi. Love women and I've been with a few trans. Love sex with both but I do really enjoy playing with the latter more if you know what I mean, being able to wear pretty lingerie is the most exciting times I've ever had in the bedroom.

[Pauline Quirky]

Straight, but I do like any feminine image, so I've been known to appreciate a CD, trans woman and even myself while dressed :o

[missjoann49]

100% other, trans and very happy

[Abbycd41]

I think this is the first time I put it to word but I’m straight/bi.

[samantha lane]

Enjoyed your commentary to the topic here. My experiences are similar as yours. Married over 40 years and dressing since puberty off and on. Thinking about new experiences my imagination runs wild meeting attractive people. Read with interest about your trip to Ireland and planning to go some day to celebrate my heritage. Please share your experience with us as you return.

[Cheryl T]

Reading all these comments is making my head spin.
First of all what do you mean by "Other"?
Never would have thought there were so many variations on a theme.
Ok, enough of that. In my youth I experimented and had some fun but found I prefer women.

[Bruce64]

Can't say I am straight because straight Men don't wear Panties, Brassiere, Slips etc. Can't say I am Bi either cause I am not attracted to Men, I can say I am more between a person that likes being a Woman and still be a Man if that works

[Penny Daniels]

I think I'm bisexual/heteroromantic. But I've been presenting as a straight man most of my adult life, so it's possible the bisexual part is pure fantasy.

[Genifer Teal]

If you like someone specifically for what's in their pants or under their skirt, you might be gay. If you like the woman you're with and she happens to have a pen** you didn't know about, that doesn't make you gay in my book. SameIf you don't care what they have for special bits. This is why I don't like labels at all. I don't think someone should be called gay, Just because their partner affirms their real gender.

[Jane G]

Never tried anything but straight. Does that make me straight?

[Geena75]

I sort of muddied my water earlier. I must be straight -- I have no attraction to males whether I'm drab or Geena. But, as suggested earlier, I see an attractive CD as an attractive woman, not a guy. I don't know that it redefines me.

[HollyGreene]

This question comes up from time to time.

Totally straight.

[Amelie]

It's complicated cause in today's world what is considered straight, gay or bi?

I was with men, mostly for financial reasons or needing a place to live. I don't like women, cd's or other trans women.

Recent days I don't have sex with anyone nor desire to have sex.

[Harriet14]

No attraction to males. So straight.

[gabe]

Straight. It gives me immense satisfaction when I can give someone pleasure. I can be bi if that is to fulfill a fantasy, but I want to be able to charge a high fee for it. Weird, isn't it?

[CharlotteCD]

There's a lot of people refusing to admit they're not straight in this thread.

[Sabine7]

This is a tricky issue. When in male mode I am completely straight. It gets complicated when being en-femme when I can fully experience my feminine side and needs. I do not exclude that the whole crossdressing thing in my case could be an excuse for or work-around to my hidden bisexuality. In female mode both female and male bodies seem to be attracting me.

[oh to be rachel]

Straight here but it's soooo confusing when in girl mode and guys hit on ya.

[Breezy]

So true Rachel. I had a girlfriend for years who told me what?s the point of looking like a beautiful feminine woman if you?re not going to experiment with a guy .
🤷🏻*♂️

[mirima1992]

When I'm in girl mode I am attracted to masculine men. I have a man I met online and after a lot of vetting we meet from time to time. I always play a role. I'm a maid who did a poor job and now I have to "clean" a certain body part, or a schoolgirl who has to perform extra credit. He has a certain fetish so for Halloween I was a cat burglar caught by the house detective. To show me the error of my ways he bound me and alternated between tickling my feet and working my ribs. I was a quivering exhausted mess. But it was also a turn on being a helpless bad girl in her short skirt and nylons getting dominated by a big strong man who was really turned on by the act of controlling me. I'm a little weird.

[Breezy]

Love that Mirima!

[nalasirder]

I'm almost entire straight and have some bisexual fantasies while dressed. I'm married to a woman and have no intention of ever going outside our marriage so it will stay a fantasty.

However, when I'm all dolled up, I feel somewhat attached to the male anatomy itself. It's strange, I feel like I could give oral but the thought of kissing a man is off putting.

Complicated!

[Sometimes Steffi]

I just realized what the Kinsey Scale is.

There is also a more extensive Klein Sexual Orientation Grid (KSOG) evaluation.

[racquelr]

I'm almost entire straight and have some bisexual fantasies while dressed. I'm married to a woman and have no intention of ever going outside our marriage so it will stay a fantasty.

However, when I'm all dolled up, I feel somewhat attached to the male anatomy itself. It's strange, I feel like I could give oral but the thought of kissing a man is off putting.

Complicated!

Your feelings sound a lot like mine. I too am attracted to the male anatomy, especially when dressed, but nothing beyond that.
Kissing a man is not appealing to me at all, nor is any physical activity that doesn't involve the male member.

[Kitty Sue]

I am definitely bi.

[MarinaTwelve200]

I am straight, but then again, that's the most common definition for a cross dresser. (noun) (a straight person who "gets off" wearing opposite sex clothing) This is a whole 'nother "thing", so to speak, than a Homosexual, Bi or transsexual who does the same, as far as reasons go, with the straight CDers having a more complex and varied motivation set driving the condition rather than aspects of sexuality and identification associated with the other groups of people who Cross-Dress (The verb). With straights, we have all sorts of drives from fetishes, to humiliation SM, personal "escapism", stress relief, and even the "highs" associated with "Taboo breaking", deliberate personality disassociation, etc. I find it a very fascinating study that opens insights into how the brain/personality might function.

[Sabine7]

Basically, I am straight but when dressed as a woman the things get complicated. When in female mode, I desire to play the female role, preferably passive. I am attracted or even addicted to male anatomy but face. I don't know how much is this about fantasies only or just a real thing.

[candice_cain]

I've given this a lot of thought of late and think that I am pansexual.
Any feminine characteristics attract me.
I also love the male physique as long as it is fit although I'm not crazy about body hair.

[valerie anne]

I seek relationships with women and transgenders where they dominate me and I can nurse them.

[racquelr]

I've given this a lot of thought of late and think that I am pansexual.
Any feminine characteristics attract me.
I also love the male physique as long as it is fit although I'm not crazy about body hair.

Ugh, yes, body hair is a huge turnoff for me as well, and I'm not a fan of facial hair at all.
and yes, although I'm mainly attracted just to the male's main part, what they are attached to needs to be relatively fit as well or that's a turnoff too.

[Sasha_inside]

I'm Bi. I have done some things with a couple of guys, and honestly would like to do more. When I do go to the internet to "surf" it's men I look at and watch and enjoy seeing them nude and wearing lingerie or just panties.

I've been married for over 30 years and love my wife, but fully admit to checking guys out. My wife knows that I crossdress and is fully supportive of it. She also knows that I am attracted to guys as well and we have had many conversations about it.

[Joannie]

Yes, and complicated.

[lance150]

I'm not sure exactly where I fit into the gay/bi/straight spectrum. I'm only physically attracted to women, but don't mind playing with other men on occasion, especially in a public setting.

[JustineFallow]

Can't say I am straight because straight Men don't wear Panties, Brassiere, Slips etc. Can't say I am Bi either cause I am not attracted to Men, I can say I am more between a person that likes being a Woman and still be a Man if that works

THIS one does, thank you very much.

[Olivia J. Robinson]

I am drawn to the feminine. That's what makes me want to be Jenny in the first place.
I claim the title hetero
Truth be told, I have not had nearly enough time "out" to have experienced attention from males. It will be an interesting experience if and when it happens.
Truth be told, I draw far more energy from my interactions with GG's when dressed. I know that I'm paying laser-focused level attention to all their little mannerisms and movements, as well as seeing how their clothing works with their natural curves.
<shrug>

Jenny

[Chloe Servante]

I experimented a little bit with two male friends in middle school/high school, but I quickly determined that it wasn't for me.

I consider myself straight, and I have always exclusively dated women, but I am attracted to other convincing cross dressers and trans women. I sometimes fantasize about being with either sexually, and although part of me believes I'd actually give it a try, another part of me is unsure.

Just like many others who have posted to this thread, I'm also attracted to impressive male genetalia and, while I'm in girl mode.

But aside from a guy's male parts, I'm not turned on by the rest of a man's body much at all unless they are hairless man dimes haha

But even then, my attraction to women is waaaay stronger and I find every aspect of a pretty woman to be attractive and a turn on.

So, yeah. Maybe I'm more bi-curious than straight. But my thoughts, fantasies and attractions to men are so infrequent and uncommon compared to women that I still feel as though straight is the most accurate label for me for now.

[Vintage4sarah]

What a diverse and fascinating topic this can be. I have found all of the replies both heartfelt and a good look at how we view ourselves. Basically, I am that round peg that just can't fit into a square hole (or is it the other way around?). Like many of us, I have struggled to find a label to describe Sarah identity. It is useless fit into a catagory as labels are really for soup cans or wine bottles, not humans.

I have checked many of the boxes on my male side over the last seven decades (yes, I am that old). At times, I have tried too hard to be masculine but still successful at many of them. I first accepted that I had a female side in my late forties and I totally started to embrace that side which evolve to who I am today.

Now back to the original question, I would reluctantly label myself as flexible (or other) and maybe now beyond being just bi-curious. As Paul, my real name, I never seem to be attracted to other men. When I think like Sarah and become Sarah that all changes and I have discovered that I enjoy attention of men as it validates all of the work it takes to enfemme. I find their attention very appealing and exciting. So yes, I have dated select gentlemen for both platonic good times as well more intense relationships.

Labels are labels, square pegs don't fit into round holes and many of us don't fit into a perfect definition of straight, bi or other?

[Lacey New]

Again, never had an interest in another male. No matter how dressed up he might be. But I think it would be fair to say that when I am dressed up I have fantasized about being a male lesbian to a GG.

[Julie Almoni]

I'm somewhere in between I would say - mostly straight, but fantasize about being treated as "woman", especially when dressed.
I woudn't classify myself as fully bisexual as I have no interest in men otherwise.
I'm never checking out men or attracted to men, nor could I see myself in a relationship with a man.
I definitely have fantasies about being with a trans woman and would definitely consider a relationship with one if I weren't happily married to a wonderful woman.

I 100% identify with the first 3 lines of that reply. It's exactly like that for me...

[KarenCD334]

Now back to the original question, I would reluctantly label myself as flexible (or other) and maybe now beyond being just bi-curious. As Paul, my real name, I never seem to be attracted to other men. When I think like Sarah and become Sarah that all changes and I have discovered that I enjoy attention of men as it validates all of the work it takes to enfemme. I find their attention very appealing and exciting. So yes, I have dated select gentlemen for both platonic good times as well more intense relationships.

Sarah you eloquently expressed much of my feelings and perspective. When in Karen mode, I can be physically attracted to men but not emotionally. When in Mike mode, No attraction at all to men. Attraction to women - ALWAYS !