After a while it?s evident

[Angela Marie]

I have been in therapy for the past few years trying to come to terms with my gender issues. The first therapist I saw diagnosed me with gender dysphoria. I started seeing another therapist (no issues with the first just too far away). In any event the second one rendered the same diagnosis. Both said they would write a letter if I wanted to go further. I.e. hormone therapy. But at 70 years old, and with an understanding spouse, children and grandchildren that ship sailed long ago, but it is nice to have an affirmation of your feelings.

[bridget thronton]

You are lucky to have such great support

[alwayshave]

Angela, I am glad that your family is understanding. I get what you are saying about having aged out. However, I belong to a large group of trans/CD girls and did meet a woman in her 70s transitioning after her wife had died.

[kimdl93]

As Jamie observed, I know of at least a few 70-somethings who have elected to transition after their wives passing. It kinda makes sense to do so, if one has suppressing the need to transition for many decades in deference to their wifes preferences.

[JohnH]

My wife encouraged me to go on estrogen when she saw I liked to wear dresses. She noticed I was a lot calmer with the HRT.
Whenever I got cross and angry she would say, "John, it's time for your hormone shot."
My wife sadly passed away on 2023 April 4. She was under a lot of pain and I had to extensively take care of her. So I elected to transition physically while my wife was still alive with her encouragement.

John

[Cassie2024]

Hello Angela Marie (pretty name :battingeyelashes:), I can relate. About ten to twelve years ago I was at the point where HRT was the next step, and my therapist was ready to write the letter. My life took a tun as I became caregiver for my mom and the next fourteen years proved to be the most poignant period of my life. Part of that experience was that I had to put my life on hold and that including transitioning. My caregiving role ended last year when mom went home and I retired after 33 years of service, both within two weeks of each other. So, my life once again changed. It's been a year, tears, resolution, tears, re-awaken dreams, more tears. But i am here, at age 64. I just applied for Medicare...lol. oh boy. The decision to begin HRT is in front of me. It's possible, even at 70. It's never too late the professional say. But like you, i think that ship has sailed. I am probably, technically wrong, but emotionally, and physically, I may not be wrong. But at this stage in my life, I do not wish to disrupt or stress my heart or any of my internal organs. They have 64 years of operating with testosterone levels for a male and I feel to change that now could damage the efficiency and effectiveness of my organs. i could be wrong, but i've known a few gals who have passed due to heart problems. and one gal that specifically had to stop HRT due to heart related issues. it got me thinking. So, like you, I feel that ship has passed as well. i don't know if you ship passed for the same reason, but the outcome sure is the same.