The Compliment

[JayBird]

I am staying in a nice resort/casino and in total male mode. In the elevator there are three people including me. Woman says to other guy, I really like your necklace. It was definitely a statement piece for sure. She said I really like your necklace, and I am not sure if it has deeper meaning,but really is beautiful.

He says thanks, and gets off on his floor. She turns to me and says was that weird to compliment him? I said I think people don?t compliment men?s jewelry enough, so I thought it very nice to do so.

Meanwhile, I complimented her necklace , which had a nice silver pendent, and she complimented my necklace,which was a simple gold chain of my grandfathers.

I?ve written this before, that practicing the compliment in girl mode is something I do to feel comfortable out and about. I?m glad I got the practice in male mode

[Jenn A116]

Great observation! I've noticed it as well. Women almost always find something to compliment another woman when first seeing her. I try to practice it when I'm in girl mode.

[kimdl93]

Unusual, but not weird. I recall checking out a bag of dog food at Petsmart(in male mode). The young male cashier paused for just a moment as he ran the credit card and remarked ?You have beautiful eyes?. No one has ever made that observation before. I said thank you and went on with my day. My wife insisted he was hitting on me, which never even occurred to me.

[JayBird]

Kim, I think he was definitely hitting on you. That situation just seems to be a come-on line to me. In male mode, complimenting a woman you do not know has a line that cannot be crossed. Problem is, sometimes the line is blurry. Complimenting a woman's skirt or dress whom you do not know as a man is going to seem like a pickup line every time.

My coworker has some new earrings that she has been wearing about 1 to 2 times per week. I did say something like, "those earrings are really cool, in how the colors flicker", and I thought that was safe. But again, I know her and complimenting jewelry is going to be less like a pickup line in any situation.

[Sometimes Steffi]

As I've said many times, I complement girls quite regularly. Sometimes I preface my complement with:

This is not a pickup line, but ...

I know a guy is not really supposed to notice and not supposed to say something if he does notice, but ...

I was waiting one time at the deli counter at the supermarket, and this girl also waiting has this reall beautiful and exotic necklace. I said, "I love your pendant". I know, TMI. What regular guy knows what kind of necklace a pendant it? She thanked me, and then I asked, "Where did you get it? The response, "Hawaii." I said, I guess I won't be able to get one then.