How far do you need to go?

[CharlotteCD]

This is just a question which has crossed my mind and intrigued me.

For those of you with non-accepting wives - you currently have total restriction.

If your wife was to say you can dress, but only so far (e.g. only underdress, or only unisex clothing etc), what would the minimum o satisfy you be? There is no drip feeding or "she's been ok with tights, now I'll go for suspenders and stockings" - it's a hard and fast limit that is not allowed to change.

I ask because this is about compromise. You want everything, they want nothing, so could you accept a less than ideal compromise?

[KymG]

I cant go less than fully dress and made up. Theres no point otherwise, I just wouldnt get the same buzz. Luckily I dont have to compromise.

[JocelynJames]

IHave no restrictions, my wife is accepting. That being said, all days are panties, that?s my baseline. Many day I?ll wear performance leggings or yoga pants after dinner when I?m in for the night. Last night was a satin camisole, black lace garterbelt and sheer black stockings. Last Saturday was the whole 9yards. Guess it?s just depends on my energy level.

[Jane G]

Totally DODT here these days. If my wife comes home early and I'm fully dressed, no sweat, but I go and change. She is more important to me than dressing.

That said my wife is on holiday with a gf this week. So I wear whatever I like 24/7. Except the neighbours can't know. Hope none were watching as I hung out the washing today. (First world problems )

[docrobbysherry]

Charlotte, u could have titled your post "How far do u dare to go?":eek:

[SaraLin]

I ask because this is about compromise. You want everything, they want nothing, so could you accept a less than ideal compromise?

I've done it for 24 years so far.

Like you said, I want everything. She'd much prefer that I did nothing.

Way back when - when we decided to become a couple, we negotiated a compromise. She would allow panties and (not to "girly") nighties. Nothing more in front of her allowed. She knows I have a few more things than that, but she certainly does NOT want to see me in any of them.

It's difficult at times, but I manage.
She's still worth it, and always will be.

[Debbie Denier]

I would be happy with underdressing or DADT. Wife would not put up with either. There is no compromise unfortunately.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I know compromise is in order, but I like to go out with the girls. If underdressing was the compromise, without going out with the girls dressed to the nines, I wouldn't consider it an acceptable compromise.

[Staci]

I had to think about this for a while. The minimum would need to be wearing panties. The logic is it is always hidden to others and can be my wife an my little secret. Fortunately, I don’t have to make the compromise which is why I had to think about this one for a little while.

[KarenCD334]

My wife is not understanding at all. She wants an absolute STOP. We have now been married 50 years and even recently has brought up the divorce topic as an alternative. That being said, I do not use male undergarments at all anymore. My underwear runs a complete womens style spectrum. I wear panties 24/7 and that's what she sees in the laundry. I wear leggings in the evening and at night to bed. She knows I have a stash somewhere but not how extensive it is or that I much enjoy full-on presenting as a woman any time I get the chance in skirts or dresses, stockings and heels. She has complained that my underwear draw is actually two stuffed to the top and that I have more panties than her (and mine are MUCH nicer I might add).

[char GG]

@KarenCD334,

You could do your own laundry, then she wouldn't see your girl things.

[Stephanie47]

My wife and I are in a "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" and has not said anything since the early 1980's. On occasion she has found an article of clothing that I failed to sequester: bra or panty and told me she found it and placed it out of sight from any potential visitors. We sleep apart for medical reasons/comfort (snoring and bad aching joints/back) so I am able to sleep in a bra and panty under a slip under a nightgown. Last night and still as I am pecking away on the keyboard I am attired in a white bra and panty set under a white full slip under an ankle length pink floral design nightie from the Shadowline Petals collection. I wear an ankle length warm robe over this and she will walk in on my if she arises before I change. Does she know I am attired like this? At a minimum I would like to be able to wear this ensemble in front of her as we partake in breakfast. Maybe, she would laugh at her balding husband with need of a shave wearing this. I do not think she would ever concede the issue and want to see me totally (wig, makeup) emulate a woman: "If I wanted to be married to a woman, I would have married a woman she proclaimed decades ago. As I have stated many times, she did tell me it was alright with her if I joined a support group.

[Lacey New]

My wife does not know, nor would she understand it or tolerate it. However, if by some magic the ice ever broke (no climate change warming on this issue) , I would for the most part, be quite content simply wearing nylon brief panties. However, I still would try to sneak some time wearing my favorite bra, some pantyhose and a silky camisole or a slip

[BLUE ORCHID]

Dresed to the NINES,