Any problems

[crissy7]

Planning on going out dressed to a gay bar.Has anyone had any problems or bad reactions when dressed?

[Cheryl T]

I've never had any issues. I've never been to a gay bar so I have no idea what reactions you might get.
We always go to average places, malls, restaurants, movies and such. I was with a few other girls after our meeting. We were at a diner that we frequent and these guys were a few booths away and began making a few comments loud enough for us to hear. The manager spoke to them and that ended that. We never said anything.
I've had interactions with people, mostly women, along the way and they've always been positive.

[chrissy111]

Was at a few when I was in my 20's and never had any problems. Gay men want a man and tend to leave us alone.

[Sallee]

never had a problem at gay bars once some one commented to me that this was a gay mens bar and was curious as to why I why I there. I responded that I was in drag so i fit right in I guess I passed well LOL

[Aka_Donna]

I've never found gay men to be accepting of non-gay men and seem to strongly dislike females. Perhaps a neutral venue, or gay women bar would be better. Just an idea.

[Helen_Highwater]

Are you talking about exclusively male Gay bars or LGBTQ friendly establishments? If the latter then I've never had any issues. That said I've never been in the former.

[BrendaPDX]

Me, I can't comment on the bar seen, but shopping or parks none yet. I will be following intently.

[Sandi Beech]

I have been to many bars and clubs and I can say there is a wide variety. I have never had problems with acceptance however I will say that the ones with mostly men are generally not all that interested in talking to crossdressers. The most accepting groups are when drag shows are going on or when dancing is involved. Many women tend to be at drag shows. Often they are with girl friends just to have a good time, and they often enjoy socializing with people like us. I posted most of the places I have been in the places to go forum. There are quite a few listed around the US but none in Ohio. The closest was in Indiana.

I would say go for it. I have had a great time going to such places. If nothing else, the bartenders will at least be friendly so I tip well to show my appreciation.

Sandi

[alwayshave]

Crissy, I have been to a LGBTQ+ bars many time and no issues per se. I have been hit on. I just politely turned him down.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Freddie's Beach Bar is really the only one gay bar in Northern Virginia. It is described as a straight-friendly gay bar. It's probably an LGBT bar. When I first starting going out with the girls, I went there quite a bit. Then one of the girls offered up her house for meetups. We quickly grew out of her living room, dining room and kitchen. We then moved our meetups to straight bard in hotels.

I did get hit on a few time at various locations. I was even hit on by a GG. Bur no other problems. Since I was often out with 50 or so TG girls, I don't think anyone would dare mess with us. While it wasn't advertised, I know for sure that there were a number of military veterans in our group, in addition to various "three letter agencies."

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Crissy :hugs:, Just be Careful ,

[kimdl93]

I have never encountered any problems in 15 years of going out in public. That includes everything from the grocery store, bank, coffee shops, restaurants, gay bars and traveling cross country, staying overnight in small towns in the middle of the us, and so on. Not one uncomfortable moment. Never a moment feeling unsafe.

[prene]

I have never had a problem.

A matter a fact the guys left me alone, they all want guys.
I found the gg's there were very accepting and curious ....
The last time I was in a bar in Vegas ... the girl who came and talked to me complemented me on my figure(boobs) and look.
They were there just to get away from the guys and the guys there were not bothering them . . . they just wanted to dance and talk.

[SaraLin]

I guess I'll be the voice of dissent here. It seems that EVERY time I go out, I encounter at least one negative reaction from someone.

But to be more specific and addressing your question about gay bars:
A GG friend and I went to a gay bar once, with me in full femme.
I was rather aggressively "hit on" by this one guy and I might have been willing to play along (I was single at the time), but he constantly kept using the term "drag queen" and saying how he always wanted to be with one.

That was NOT the response I was trying for and it quickly became apparent that he was looking to "score" and wasn't interested in really getting to know the real me.

Needless to say, my friend and I made a hasty retreat. The mood was ruined.


This was quite a while back and times have changed since then.
Hopefully, you'll have a much better time.

Sara

[Genifer Teal]

Don't expect to be met with open arms. Your reception will vary. Most could care less. Some might be less enthusiastic. We are not their cup of tea.

It may not be smooth sailing though you might meet some smooth sailors. :-)