Introvert or extrovert when dressed? Different than in male mode?

[SophiaRose]

A few days ago I had the opportunity to work from home and so I dressed wig to heels. Once dolled up I looked in the mirror and felt so excited all I wanted to do was take a few selfies and leave the house to talk to others and conquer the world. I'm not super introverted but am certainly not extroverted either so this feeling surprised me a little. I've never been out in public dressed before and now wonder how I would behave if I did so. Do you find yourself opening up or becoming a bit more demure when dressed?

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Sophia :hugs:, There is only one way to findout,

Open the door and take the first step out to the great outdoors,

[alwayshave]

Sophia, When I was younger I was super introverted. Now I am social but not an extrovert. It is the same when dressed en femme.

[Sometimes Steffi]

The last time I took the Myers-Briggs (introvert/extrovert test) at work, I pinned the scale on introvert. We were separated into groups and asked to discuss some social activities within our group. I strongly related to the responses to the other two men in my group. After this discussion, it was revealed that the groups were constituted based on the results of our Myers-Briggs scores. I was grouped with the two other most introverted men.

On the other hand, Steffi is quite extroverted. She loves being out in a crowd, at least a trans crowd. She is not afraid to walk up to complete strangers and engage them in conversation. She's even taught me that it's OK. I've had many wonderful conversations with GGs as boy-me. Many were about the clothes, shoes of makeup that they are wearing, but they are not always about girl things.

Myers-Briggs would be appalled because your I/E score is supposed to be static, never changing.

[Karren H]

I am typically outgoing in everything I do, no matter how I am dressed.

[Julia1984]

Sophia
I'm generally quite introverted (INTJ). But I'm also into performance: acting and music, and I have to do some (structured) public speaking for my work-life. In the earlier days of her knowing, my wife suggested my wish to go "out" was essentially performative, a sort of "Look at me!" wish. I don't think she was right about that, but it is certainly true that lots of "performers", eg actors, comics etc *are* otherwise introverts, so there may well be something in my wife's observation of general relevance, even if it's not right about me. I just want to go about my business as little-remarked upon as possible; it's nothing like the same buzz as going on stage.

[BrendaPDX]

More of an introvert, I go to parks and some shopping, but I am always watching over my shoulder.

[Jenn A116]

I'm basically an introvert. It doesn't really change no matter how I am dressed. But it's something I recognize and make a conscious effort to overcome when in social settings. That doesn't change when I'm dressed either. I work at it.

FWIW, I never cared for those MB tests. All they did was tell me what I already knew.

[chrissy111]

I can and will talk to anyone anywhere.

[Cheryl T]

Oh now you've got me.
Drab, I'm a loner. I prefer to be by myself (except the wife and family now and then). Friends, real friends are few.

Dressed, I love to be around people. I love to talk about everything from clothes and makeup to decorating and travel. I love to dance and don't care that I really can't, I just love to move to the music. Take me to a wedding, party or backyard gathering and you'll find me in the middle of the group.

[docrobbysherry]

It really depends on where I'm going. Dressed or in drab.:straightface::battingeyelashes:

If I'm going out to vanilla venues it's for purposes other than social acivities. Like shopping, stopping for lunch, getting gas, for a business related reason.
So, doing these things dressed interferes with the reason I went out in the first place!:thumbsdn:

On the other hand, going to clubs, bars, other social events is the opposite! I'm going out to see, be seen, and meet folks. Altho, I'm an introvert by nature?
Sherry is more attractive and interesting than a skinny, 80+ y/o man!:thumbsup:

So, I have more confidence out dressed in the rite venues than I do in drab among younger folks!:)

[Leah87]

Generally, I'm more of an introvert.

Have never been at ease with how I look as a male, especially during my teen years.

However, when dressed, I generally feel happy with what I see in the mirror. On the few occasions where I ventured into the outside world as Leah, I always felt quite confident in my appearance.

[Marketa]

Just like what it seems a majority here my male-self is introverted as heck. Not seeing and speaking with a human being for weeks is just pure bless as was proved during C19.

But I have a need to go out from here and there when dressed. Once I even had sudden irresistible urge when I saw myself dolled up without any previous planning, so I decided to go to a nearby mall.

[kimdl93]

I suppose I am neither or both. It seems to depend on the situation, not how I am dressed.

[Fiona_44]

I was much more introverted as a male. I am now more extroverted living as the real me.

[Sandi Beech]

I am probably more like docrobbysherry than most here. When I do get to go out it is mostly to clubs and bars. Many here would be mortified to do some of the things I have done like topless dancing and generally wearing skimpy outfits , very short skirts etc. I do not have to be that outgoing because others approach me. It is a totally different world when I go out as Sandi. I have a number of past posts about my outings. Some are pretty wild.

So yes I am very different when dressed up.

Sandi

[Sometimes Steffi]

@Cheryl Ditto, to everything you said.

[Jasmine23]

I'm definitely an introvert, and haven't gone out in public dressed, so don't know for sure, but, when I do dress up I feel better about how I look and more confident so I think I would be more outgoing if I went out in public and got over the initial fear.

[Kris Burton]

As my male self I wouldn't say I'm an introvert - perhaps reserved would be a better word. I'm comfortable in my own company, OK with others but do not seek out larger groups. As Kris I prefer group settings and enjoy camaraderie in a way I tend to avoid as my male self, yet am still OK going solo. So the difference between the two is subtle but I am aware of it.

[Amy Randal]

In male mode I lean toward extrovert. When dressed I am a bit more subdued.

[Verona]

I like the way I dress in both modes. I love how I look as a guy and as a girl. I lean more towards being an extrovert in both modes. Like to look good and stand out a little. X

[Pauline Quirky]

Normally an introvert, but there's always been a part of me that wants to go a little crazy from time to time. I think that's why I started dressing as it allows me to express myself and break free from my usual shy self 😎👧

[SaraLin]

Introvert here (INFP). When dressed and in public, it only gets worse.
As the years go by, I'm getting a little bit better, but I'm far-far from an extrovert.

[Geena75]

I'm generally a dedicated introvert and keep to myself when I'm out and about, just interacting with people I know well at social events. Now, as Geena I still generally keep to myself, unless I'm with other dressers at a meeting. I don't hesitate to introduce myself and initiate conversation. I guess since they already know my deepest secret, I have nothing to lose.

[Andrea Renea]

I think most people and my wife would would define
me as a ambivert.

I'm the same no matter how I dress.

I adjust to the setting I'm in.

I'm quiet around the house but I like engaging in conversion
with people at parties and restaurants.

[GretchenM]

I have always been a bit on the shy side, private, and introverted. But in a small group I can be quite jolly and open in conversations. Being pretty much gender fluid implies a bit of moodiness a lot of it depends on what my psychological state is which creates the moodiness. Gretchen is quite shy and generally avoids groups, but with one or two others she can sometimes be quite active and social. My male-like side is quite a bit more open and social but even there it depends on my psychological state and the subject matter at hand. When the Gretchen part of my total identity is active in a male-like expression she can be very sensitive and caring toward others, i.e. a male with a large feminine side. In short it depends on the gender formula and mixture being expressed at the time. That can sometimes change quickly.

[crobeson96]

Quite introverted but after high school I found I could 'put it out there' quite readily, essentially for mating or for professional purposes. Always, always required some quiet time to myself to recharge on a daily basis. Dated successfully, successful in my professional life but my desire for quiet time took a toll on my personal life as it always came out of family time.
Life went on, I retired and my opportunities to dress increased. These are (inherently) part of my quiet time.

[abby054]

I was an introvert for many years, both as male mode and in the closet as Abby. Then Abby started to go out and about. It took a while but in recent years, Abby has become more of an extrovert. In so doing, she dragged male me out with her. As an example, I went to an Oktoberfest last month, one day in drab and one day as Abby. I was dancing and singing, eating and drinking, talking with strangers, all day long in each mode. I still have plenty of introvert left but Abby has led the way out.

[Shelli]

I think I am about the same when drab as when dressed. However, I find it much more enjoyable conversing about what would be considered feminine topics openly when dressed and that makes me a little more comfortable and animated. My girlfriend and I engaged in a conversation the other day about some nice clothes she got at the thrift store and I found myself so happy to be openly and easily discussing clothes, fabric, feel, fit, colors.....it was just a normal conversation between girls and it made my heart warm.

[Julie Frisky]

I am an introvert in both male and female mode, being dressed does not change that side of me at all.