Not True

[Hidey]

Hello now that I live on my own my wife having passed away at the beginning of the year, dressing around the house and garden has become more my normal mode. No make up or wig but I am growing my hair and it's cut in a femine style work in progress. Been out shopping dressed entirely in womens clothes and shoes but with womens trousers no pockets so handbag essential with a padded bra, no comments made. Recently visited a Marks and Spencer store with self service tills selected a bra and packet of tights went to pay and the barcode did not scan but no problem with the assitant who helped. Now yesterday I decided to push a little further dressed with a midi plain skirt went for a drive parked determined to go for a walk, left the car set off an older lady was coming towards me she was wearing a dress came over and said "How nice to see someone else in a Skirt". Rather taken aback by the encounter turned round back to the car. Slightly unerving expirience buy I will try again,

Hidey

[bridget thronton]

Very nice post

[Helen_Highwater]

Hidey,

One thing you learn as you go out more is to embrace encounters like that. If you're read, and I am always, having a friendly conversation I feel goes a long way to proving we're human and not some monster. Hopefully you can get to the point of being able to instigate conversations, say when standing in a queue in M&S. GG's will do that, just converse with total strangers. Forget you're dressed, just chat as if you were in drab. Do it once or twice and you'll soon get the hang of it.

[Suzie Petersen]

Hidey,
I am wondering about your choice of title for this post. It's the story actually "Not true" ... or am I missing something?

Assuming it actually is true, I will agree with Helen, embrace such small encounters and interactions with people you meet and you will soon be much more comfortable with it.

[docrobbysherry]

Hidey, if you're obviously a MIAD and u go out amongst the Muggles? I believe you'll find that most will avoid or ignore u!:daydreaming:

[Fiona_44]

You will need to learn to embrace encounters with women while out and about. For the most part, they are accepting or tolerant of CD's. No need to be unnerved, just politely say "Thank you so much" and keep on walking.

[VS Fan]

I agree with Fiona... I LOVE it when I get compliments from women. I'm happy enough if men just pass me by and say nothing. One time I was walking into a salon fully dressed, wig, makeup, etc, and a man said "good morning!" to me... I was stoked it was not a negative comment, and then smirked when I thought maybe he didn't clock me and thought I looked good hahah. Even not fully dressed, if you get a compliment from a woman, or even just a "hello" or a smile, be grateful, and embrace it.

[alwayshave]

Hidey, I'm sorry about your wife's passing. However, I'm glad that you have been able to more easily accommodate your femme side.

[Hidey]

Suzie No True as in no would comment but within a few minutes of stepping out of my car a lady came over and spoke very friendly I was just taken back. Will certainly go out again....
Hidey

[Helen_Highwater]

Re-reading the post reminded my of the time I was about to catch a train while enfemme. My platform required crossing over the footbridge and right on cue as I walked towards the entrance an elderly gentleman had called the lift so I though beats the stairs. Anyway seeing me approach, being old school he showed his manners and said, "After you m'dear". Well it would have been rude of me not to thank him. We exchanged a few more words while going up to the bridge, I bid him to take care he responded similarly are we parted company.

It those little moments we should grab with both hands and enjoy them for their normality.