First therapy appointment

[Danica F]

Hi all. It's been years since I've bothered to post here, but I've been lurking most of the time in between.

Last month I needed to get a refill on medication from my psychiatrist. It happened to coincide with a peak of my crossdressing interest which was really stressing me out. I took the opportunity to tell him about my crossdressing and ask what to do to figure things out. He recommended a few services, through one of which I found my therapist. My first visit was on Thursday afternoon.

I have never had any form of counseling like this, so I didn't know what to expect or how reserved I would be. I don't have a big support structure with this at home, so I never get to be too comfortable talking about it. My wife of 18 years has known since before we were married, but she doesn't want to participate (much or often).

Oh my God. This therapist was so good. This was only the introductory session, but we covered so much. I even asked if there's still more to go over. She responded, "Oh yeah. We're gonna keep on digging." It feels amazing to get support like this (even if it's only because I'm paying for it). I have never felt so comfortable talking about crossdressing like it was not an issue. Her questions got me to open up much more than I ever imagined I would.

My next session is on Friday morning. I cannot wait to continue this and see what it really uncovers about me.

[Sometimes Steffi]

That's great that you found such a wonderful therapist the first time out.

Therapy is supposed to be a "judgement-free zone".

TBH, I've gone dressed to many therapy appointments, but it was probably only after 2 or 3 years before I broke through the pink ceiling.

But, You Do You.

[danniUK]

So good to hear you're benefiting from it!

Being a Brit, we're all stiff-upper-lip and have a cup of tea instead of talking about stuff.

Of course we're not all actually like that... I'm actually pretty good at talking about "stuff", which is why it's surprising that I've not been in therapy. I had a fairly rough childhood and my wife's suggested repeatedly that I should find a therapist.
I've given it serious consideration over the years but never done anything. Now though... it feels like there's more to talk about, now I've finally admitted to myself who I am.
So I'm thinking about going for it, but I'm just worried I'll make it all about my CDing and potential trans stuff that's on my mind. Which I guess does all need talking about as part of "me".
So I'm still currently doing nothing about it! But we'll see.

[kimdl93]

Your first session went much better than mine. My therapist was very capable and trying to draw me out, but in retrospect, I remained somewhat guarded and evasive, especially for the first three sessions. Therapy is like anything else in life. What you get from it depends on the effort you put into it.

[docrobbysherry]

How interesting Danica. So different from my councelling experience!

My therapist asked what problems my dressing was causing? When I said "none" she suggested we move on to my REAL issues then!:eek:

[Fiona_44]

You are about to enter a very interesting part of your life Danica. She's right, there is a lot more to discuss. Therapy can often prove to be a very helpful experience.

[Philippa Jane]

My first encounter with a psychologist and from there to a psychiatrist was not the best.
That was back in 2009 when I began seeing myself as a CD at that time.
My new psychologist from back in 2021 has been a fantastic connection. I still see her to this day.
I long for the day when I can just go and see her socially without an issue to discuss.
She is someone that I can be completely open and honest with.

[Kris Burton]

My therapist was very capable and trying to draw me out, but in retrospect, I remained somewhat guarded and evasive,

Such was my issue as well. Although I have been in and out of therapy for years, I realize now I was as guarded with with them as I am with everyone. I think if you are upfront about all aspects of your life you will be able to maximize your time with your therapist and gain overall benefits even beyond the understanding of your CD tendencies.

[Natalie5004]

I have never been to one. I kind of use this forum for my sessions.
But then again being a middle child in a big family I don't think I have any real issues.

( mu subconscious mind speaking here. What are you nuts? You are full of ....isms)

[AmyJordan]

Like Natalie never been to one and to be honest not sure I ever would, I think this is more common and acceptable in the States we still have the stiff upper lip mentality here, but I don't judge whatever helps the person in need is the right thing for them.

Amy x

[prene]

I have been seeing a therapist on and off for a while.
it is great to be able to freely talk and get support.

Irene P

[SophiaRose]

I started seeing one recently and usually feel great after talking through a few issues. I dove in head first by writing her a letter ahead of time listing the things I wanted to work on. The letter was brutally open and honest to make sure I wouldnt hold anything back out of fear while being face to face. If you have the courage to lay everything out early its helpful to get to the important stuff asap. Seems to be working so far anyway.