Does dressing have an erotic side for you?

[Ashley050]

Ashley loves to dress in all ways. Casual under for walks out, dresses, skirts always and often sexy lingerie.
Always panties and bras but sometimes more exciting bodysuits and hose and garters etc.
I do find this and other outfits stimulates the sensual side of dressing for me.
Some girls don?t seem to find dressing sexual and others do.
Where do you stand?

[docrobbysherry]

Nearly every CD has been turned on at one time or another by some aspect of their dressing, Ashley.:o

But, trans dress every day. So, like GG's, the thrill fades over time. The same may be true for CD's who dress often. Especially those that go out often to vanilla venues and dress to blend.:straightface:

Personally, I want every outfit I wear to blow my hair back. Or, I leave it hanging in the closet!:tongueout

[Kris Burton]

Erotic? Sensual? Absolutely for me! Wearing an outfit that makes you feel sexy - who wouldn't want that feeling?!

[Verona]

I love doing both, I was 90/10 in favour of sexual when younger but now i am 80/20 dressing for acceptance.
I get turned on now by wearing sexy lingerie for bed like most gg do.
But love looking sexy during the day without it ending in a sexual way

[Ashley050]

Thanks for that and yes with routine the excitement can fade. Ashley is only able to dress sometimes so its pretty exciting still for her

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Thanks Verona,

I am like you, maybe a bit more 50/50. Yes the lingerie is hard not to get a bit excited for.

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Yes dressing is exciting in so many ways. Just looking in the mirror and seeing yourself as a girl or woman is a rush...sexier clothes make the temperature rise for sure

[Bobbi46]

I never thought it was erotic thing to do because i am? trans and dress 24/7 it is the mosty normal thing for me to do every day esp?cially when I go out to the shops or a cafe

[DianeT]

It definitely has, it had in the early days, it still has now, even if the dressing has become a richer and more complete experience now. I may say that feminine clothes like pantyhose, form fitting dresses and heels are the reason of the erotic undertext since I like to see them on women, but after much thinking and analysis of my crossdressing, I suspect that it is much more complex than that. It seems to revolve around the magic of transformation, the act of finding myself "suddenly" dressed as a woman. If I explore this logic a little, there is an element of submission in it, an element of control, in the sense that the whole idea is more exciting if I wasn't the one dressing myself like this, but I just happened to be dressed, by some mysterious external agent. And the very rare times I dreamt about crossdressing, there was always a feminine presence that laid out clothes for me and expected me to wear them. There seems to be an erotic aspect of letting go and let someone else be in charge. I reckon it finds its roots in a childhood episode where I was forced to wear tights for an occasion. And the reason for the very "feminine" clothes (pantyhose, heels, bodycon dress), probably because they are the antithesis of male clothes, and reinforce the sensation of being transformed. In the past years, this sensation has left room for other interests, such as trying to see in the mirror the girl that I may have been with a different set of chromosomes. I don't roleplay when dressed because of that. I want to be transformed, not changed. And I want to see what girl-me may have looked like, and not a random girl.

[Ashley050]

So nice Dianne,

We share a lot of what you laid out. Interesting you have a bit of a sub leaning in how you relate to dressing. I sense you may love to dress in very femme outfits, maybe lots of frills, maybe some sissy tendencies which I certainly have as well.

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Yes I agree, I often find it very erotic to dress. Sometimes not so much but getting fully dressed in very femme or sissy type outfits can be very arousing

[docrobbysherry]

You're stepping around the edge of 2 dresser fetishes.:eek:

Forced Feminization and Sissy Dressers. I know a few dressers that went thru a FF stage. But I don't think you'll find many of the SD's here.:heehee:

[Ashley050]

Yes there are some themes in the CD world and you mentioned two. Not really aware of what FF is but I can figure. Probably cages and lots of behavioural aspects. The sissy piece is interesting as dressing in major frills, maid outfits, sissy panties etc. is actually really fun to do if you are into that. Being in the closet you can do and be anything you want.
Being a sissy and dressing like one for others is a whole different game I would assume.
Ashley is just a newby to any social side of being a CD

[Rhonda Darling]

Ashley050:
FYI, FF = Forced Feminization.

FF is the subject of MANY CD/TG/TS fantasy stories found on the WWW, and often in the imagination and fantasy thoughts of many CD/TG/TS among us.

[Ashley050]

So? what is it really?

[sometimes_miss]

Initially, no; my mother dressed me in my older sister's clothes supposedly to save money when I was a toddler. Then later molested, the sexual act was for the other person to enjoy, but I was too young to feel any sexual excitement. However, as I got older and puberty, pretty much anything made me horny, so I misunderstood that I was just horny and it wasn't actually connected to crossdressing, it was just because at that age, I was just horny pretty much all the time, and it didn't take much to get me 'excited'. As I got older and understood what was happening in my mind, I never got any sexual thrill out of crossdressing. Still don't.

[Lacey New]

When I first put on a pair of nylon pantkes many years ago, it was instant arousal with the obvious outcome. For me, the behavior was addictive. If a pair of panties was good, then panties and a bra were even better, and so it went. And who.e the same instant arousal is no longer there, yes it is still a pleasant erotic feeling. I guess that is why I keep coming back to dressing after many years.

[DianeT]

So nice Dianne,

We share a lot of what you laid out. Interesting you have a bit of a sub leaning in how you relate to dressing. I sense you may love to dress in very femme outfits, maybe lots of frills, maybe some sissy tendencies which I certainly have as well.

It's not submission in the sense of "sub". It's the fact that control is left to an unidentified agent, it happens by magic so to speak, so I am free of any responsibility (or guilt, but I never felt any guilt about the act of dressing), and even more important, I have no idea what will happen next (which I never found out because even in my dreams it stops before anything happens beyond the dress up).
My dressing isn't about frilly things, I'm not into sissy things, French maid costume and alike. Rather slim and elegant attire, business-like or mundane, and when I was young, spandex because that's all I could easily steal without being noticed for months.

[Sabine7]

Being dressed completely as a woman makes me always feeling good and excited. When in female mode my heart rate rises at least in the first 1-2 hours. I am not sure how is it balanced between being accomplished and sexually aroused but I think the latter is not so much important as one would expect.

[GretchenM]

Dressing used to do that to me, but that pretty much faded away about 7 years ago or thereabouts (about age 72). Now it causes me to become very happy and comfortable, like settling into your favorite old chair - it just fits. A bit of euphoria and a profound calmness. I have no idea why but I think it is just cuddling up with the real me; not necessarily the person I should have been but completely enveloped in who I am.

[Sometimes Steffi]

When I first put on a pair of nylon panties many years ago, it was instant arousal with the obvious outcome. For me, the behavior was addictive. If a pair of panties was good, then panties and a bra were even better, and so it went. And [though] the same instant arousal is no longer there, yes it is still a pleasant erotic feeling. I guess that is why I keep coming back to dressing after many years.


Yes, to all of the above.



You're stepping around the edge of 2 dresser fetishes.

Forced Feminization and Sissy Dressers. I know a few dressers that went thru a FF stage. But I don't think you'll find many of the SD's here.




Ashley050:
FYI, FF = Forced Feminization.

FF is the subject of MANY CD/TG/TS fantasy stories found on the WWW, and often in the imagination and fantasy thoughts of many CD/TG/TS among us.

I am not at all into the sissy aspect of crossdressing. But when I was young, before I had any level of acceptance, I fantasized about FF because then I had to do it. It wasn't a choice that I had. That way I didn't need to feel guilty about it. Now, I accept my crossdressing.

[Jillcder]

Absolutely Ashley, especially when Im dressed like you in your avatar picture.

[Cheryl T]

Years ago it certainly had an erotic side, especially when I was much younger.
Over time that faded, changed actually. It's more sensual now, not erotic. At times there is nothing sexual/sensual/erotic at all. Others it's an inner feeling that makes me tingle. I feel attractive and sensual. It's just different.

[MarinaTwelve200]

Of course. That is how it started. I STILL turn myself on. It feels great to be "pretty". However, that is only a SECONDARY bonus effect now. My primary reason is to be able to totally RELAX and de-stress. By becoming "Not ME" I can escape all my worries and responsibilities, at some level at least, and completely "zone out".

[CynthiaD]

When I was a teenager, there was a strong sexual component to crossdressing. This always annoyed me. As I grew older this went away. There was still a strong emotional reaction on my part, but I began to recognize it as a surge of feminine energy. It was so strong it was easily mistakable for sexual energy. But it wasn't. It was my true self shining through. The strong feelings have subsided. Crossdressing has become my normal mode of self expression. And that's the best feeling of all.

[Tamsin Englefield]

Often. But I sometimes think that this is because I?m not quite sure what else to do once dressed. I?m firmly in the closet so venturing out is not an option. I love the act of getting dressed and can make this last for several pleasurable hours but once dressed just getting undressed again without an intervening act seems a bit pointless.

[Geena75]

When I was pretty young there was definitely an erotic side to it. Now I can get fully femmed up and feel hardly a tingle, just the excitement of being feminine. Yet, once in a while the feeling strikes. The erotic/sensual feeling isn't why I get dressed, though.

[prene]

I agree, when I was younger and just starting it was sensual.
But now "vanilla venues and dress to blend".
I do not want to stand out I do want to blend in.
I did start some hrt and that killed the erotic side which was fine.
It is just me now. Now if I looked more erotic I think I would but my wishes have not come true.

[Monique65]

Like many have said, dressing has always been a turn on for me, but since my wife’s acceptance, the erotic feelings have been replaced by a calm sense of being who I am. It’s as if the taboo aspect was my primary stimulant, and now I’m just content to to be myself.

[DianeT]

Monique I will join you there. After I told my wife about my secret, the excitement (not necessarily sexual) of dressing, the troubling feelings, went down a notch. Or maybe a whole staircase. Less taboo, more self consciousness, still interesting and fun, only less thrilling (maybe after all I am into thrilly things...). It's like my dressing entered adulthood (actually it had started a little before that... but it quickened that pace). And probably the reason why when my wife offered to do MIAD sessions I accepted.

[lance150]

It's definitely erotic. My favorite place to xdress is at nudist camps. I'll put on my pink see-through panties and nylon stockings, then walk along the nature trails. I may be alone, but my heart is beating fast, my adrenalin is running high because I know someone else could walk by at any time. I could be a straight guy who hates queers, perhaps an entourage of lesbians, but most likely a gay man who will take notice of me. So while I'm walking the trail, I'm excited and nervous at the same time.

[Jessica Secret]

It definitely does Ashley! I wear beautiful/romantic lingerie to bed almost every night and in top of it I have a boyfriend to wear it for, and let's just say intimacy between us is incredible. I feel so sexy when I wear it to bed and especially on those "special" nights with my boyfriend. ;)

[Debbie Denier]

It used to. I think it diminishes with age. As Geena pointed out the excitement doesnt diminish. Its why we are here.

[Jasmine23]

I started dressing at 4 or 5 so it definitely wasn't a sexual thing, in my teenage years there was a sexual element to it, but everything is sexual as a teenager. There is definitely something sensual and erotic about transforming into a woman. I like to dress up how I'd like to see my girlfriend dress, so I essentially become the girl I always wanted to date! I don't think it's really sexual now, but, I do feel great when I dress up, part of that is because I think I look much better as a girl than as a guy

[Helen_Highwater]

Like Jasmine I dressed In female things from an early age, too young for it to be sexual. During puberty let's face it, everything seems to have a sexual facet to it. However arousal was never the driving force. It did for a while, really before I found out there are others like me thanks to the Internet, serve as a way of ending a dressing session.

As online shopping enabled me to have clothing that wasn't salvaged from charity bags my SO put out and the look and fit of clothes got better, as I discovered more about myself, any sexual element faded away.

Now I dress because it's how I like to dress. I feel comfortable. And like a lot of GG's dressing in basic femme day wear makes you look and feel better than basic male day wear.

Yes, there are times, those when I've gone all out on the shapewear, corset, padding, smoothers, all under a well fitting dress that allows me to show off some cleavage and rounded out with jewelry and heels that I feel not so much sexual feelings but certainly sensual one's.

There's the joy in trying on a new pair of heels and seeing a pair of shapely legs sticking out from a skirt and thinking many a GG would envy me. Things that make me feel sensual and I suppose a little sexy but not sexual in the true sense.

[CarlaWestin]

OMG! Uh, all of the above. And probably even more!

[CDMargret]

When I was very young I just loved nylons. To young to understand why or be sexually excited. I loved there feel and look. I wanted to wear my sisters dance recital outfits and slipped it all on one night. Again nothing sexual. During my first marriage there was lot's of dressing for sex. Got kinky. Today I dress for of course the look and feel of the nylons. Also for the look and feel of all the wonderful choices in women's attire. I mainly dress now for my soul. I have changed. The world seems balanced when dressed. I am at peace and powerful dressed. My true self. Not so much turned on by dressing these days. Still totally kinky though...lol

[NancySue]

Like others, at 5 nothing sexual, but after slipping on my first pair of nylon stockings, it was all sensual. I couldn?t believe it. To this day, I look forward to daily carefully slipping on nylons, now thigh highs and smile, feeling sensors comfort . Looking back, I?ve really enjoyed the progression from one item to another to another, etc.

[racquelr]

My interest in women's clothing and dressing started when I was a teen, so it was an erotic/sexual thing from the beginning.
Now, 50 years later, it's still an erotic/sexual thing when I dress up.
I want to look and feel sexy and dressing nearly alwyas leads to some sort of sexual activity.

[Chloe Servante]

CD has always been extremely sexual for me; especially in the beginning and for the majority of my life. It began as something that I had to keep deep in the closet and I told nobody about it. But dressing up was frequently accompanied by some kind of sexual behavior. Eventually, however, I met a girl whom I fell in love with and who not only accepted my CD, but she was also sexually aroused by it. This, in turn, transformed my CD into something that I could do solo, but also with my now ex-girlfriend. We would do all kinds of role play, etc. I'll keep this PG rated.

Anyway, we ended up breaking up and I decided that I wanted to be more open about my CD. It's 2024 afterall. My ex was the only person I had ever told by that point, but now I was feeling more comfortable -- even proud -- of my CD. But I still couldn't tell just anyone, as I feared being judged and mocked. But over the next several months, I met four different people who, after carefully vetting them, I told that I am a crossdresser. 3 of them were men (one gay, two straight) and one woman (my current neighbor where I live). And, much to my delight, everyone I've told has accepted it completely, and I feel zero judgement from them.

As a result, I've had somewhat of a metamorphosis. My CD began as an almost exclusively sexualized activity into something that is more about expressing myself, wanting to feel pretty, loving fashion, being excited about makeup, and even having strong urges to eventually dress up and go out to some kind of safe event, like perhaps a pride parade, where I can publicly express myself and hopefully even meet other people who CD or make some trans friends; or, heck, just meet anyone who appreciates me as a female.

CD has become more of a pastime, an artform, a hobby and ***a part of my identity*** than it ever has been previously. But for me, CD will always be sexual. Seeing myself in, and wearing, bodycon outfits, or pantyhose, heels, nice jewelry, etc. has always -- and will always -- sexually excite me. Hell, simply putting lip gloss on gets me aroused. It will always be a sexual fetish that I want to share with whoever I date next as well.

But I'm no longer the terrified crossdresser wedged deep in the closet. I've proven to myself that people can be, and oftentimes are, fully accepting of my CD. So now I want to level it up as much as humanly possible and enjoy CD more frequently, more publicly at times (someday soon), I'm going to buy more female clothes, watch more makeup tutorials/practice makeup more, and buy/learn about all the girl stuff that my heart desires.

At the end of the day, it doesn't have to be about sex anymore, but there will always be sexual arousal. I just like feeling pretty and girly. CD, for me, is a lot like a hard drug. It generates stimulation, mood lift, euphoria, anxiety relief, relaxation, etc. and those feelings are very addictive. Of course I still sometimes also feel shame and embarrassment and confusion about my CD also, but most hard drugs will also give their users a "crash," because what goes up must come down.

Anyways, I tend to ramble. Thanks to anyone who actually read this. I'm new to the forum and this is my second post. I hope everyone has a wonderful day!

[Karren H]

Well, since I started dressing when I was 7 and did not even know what sexual really was, So I can not say that it has been the basis of my dressing for the last 6 decades. But I do admit that there are times when I am wearing black lingerie, a tight shelf bra and heels that I can get a little excited. Lol. More recent I have discovered various forms of bdsm while dressed which opens up all kinds of new sensations.

[Kate Jennings]

In my younger days dressing always resulted in, and seemed to be about, sexual thrill. Today, it's more about felling comfortable, natural and being the female within. The erotic aspect for me today is about relating to sexual situations as a woman.

[Stacy Darling]

YES!

I'm DRAG and fulltime Half Dresser 50/50?
Dressing does get me!

[Veronica Lacey]

If I explore this logic a little, there is an element of submission in it, an element of control, in the sense that the whole idea is more exciting if I wasn't the one dressing myself like this, but I just happened to be dressed, by some mysterious external agent. And the very rare times I dreamt about crossdressing, there was always a feminine presence that laid out clothes for me and expected me to wear them. There seems to be an erotic aspect of letting go and let someone else be in charge.

To the above I can recognize a bit of that in myself. Should my wife lay out various attire for me to wear (no, it doesn't happen) I would be excited not so much for an erotic reason but to the notion that this opportunity would be a form of permission, an invitation to this part of my often dormant personality. If I'm feeling good about myself then I'm more likely to feel aroused. If this ever were to happen I would also be inclined to confirm that it was, indeed, my wife :eek:

To the OP, there can be occasions when dressed that I feel aroused. Sometimes it is from the pure excitement of being able to wear something I find visually stimulating, for how it feels on my body. Other times it is merely that I feel amorous anyways. I believe that I can feel sexually interested in my wife in male or female attire and that would be emotionally "standard". Having said this, when wearing forms and dressed, well, the question remains to whether it's autoeroticism or genuine physical love for something, a combination?

Honestly, I think it can be some or all of the above. I don't mind that it's this way although I like the idea of just wearing what I want and feeling what I feel as it comes to me. Now, when I find a pair of comfortable heels that actually fit, well then. All bets are off on what kind of internal reaction that generates! :)

[Rachelakld]

When I was dressed at the age of 4 - no, but when I was in my late teens and early 20's, heck yes.
But the last 20 years, it's just nice and comfortable.

[Georgia Rose]

I only got in to crossdressing in my late 50's/early 60's but in the early days there was certainly an erotic aspect to it. This has faded over time but is still there in the background.