It's a cycle

[Sharon budd]

I've been here a few years now, and I've seen sisters come and go. I have often wondered why some leave, but I now think I'm seeing a pattern. I think that the same subjects get discussed as new and brilliant ladies come to this site with earnest questions, but which have been discussed many times before, and to me are a little stale. I often look at old posts and think I'm detecting a pattern.
When did you first dress?
What was your first trigger item?
When were you caught?
Do you go out dressed?
Are you planning to go out dressed?
I've been out dressed for the first time?.
How do you survive a DATD relationship?
How good are pantyhose?
Don't get me wrong, these are great and very relatable questions to pose, but I can see why, after awhile they become predictable in the responses they illicit.
This is just an observation and I've no axe to grind with anyone. You are all fabulous but some of you are so enchanting,whch is why I keep coming back.
Hugs, Sharon x

[Aka_Donna]

True, but with each wave the accounts many time contain entertainment.

[alwayshave]

Sharon, Sure there are repetitive questions and answers. But there is also, new questions, growth and camaraderie.

[Brynna M]

You just described life. While every story is unique in its details in broad strokes there aren't that many themes in life not just crossdressing.

[Heather76]

I would agree to a certain extent. However, I would add something from my own experience as I have found myself on this site a lot less than I was for the first few years after joining. I have reached a very comfortable stage in my cross dressing that will likely satisfy my desires ro CD. My wife and I don't talk about the subject often, but we agree I can CD at home whenever I want. Thus, I dress on average between 14 and 16 hours a day. I'm approaching my 3 year anniversary of ALWAYS being dressed in nylons, panties, bra, and forms when I go to bed at night. My wife will hug me tightly now whule I'm dressed which she was reluctant to do early on. I have more dresses, bras, and panties than she has. However, I'm not in her class when it comes to tops and pants. My point is, as some of us reach our happy places, we don't feel the need to seek acceptance as much as we did at one time. I used to check in here 2 - 4 times each day and now I check in about twice each week.

[Shelly Preston]

Questions do get repeated but not everyone has heard them before.

There is always someone new who may learn from the answers.

People leaving may will also have their reasons.

Maybe this site is not what they we looking for.
They could have transitioned and not need the support, unless they tell us all we can do is guess.

[kimdl93]

I suppose some individuals come here seeking answers to common questions and stop visiting once answered to their satisfaction.

[CarlaWestin]

I've seen very elegant and mature ladies in their twilight just simply stop posting and wondered if they've made their way to the great beyond.
I've seen a few that proclaimed that after having done it all while being pretty the excitement just wasn't there anymore.
I keep coming back because there's always a party going on and I've enhanced my existence with finding many good friends here.

[Sandi Beech]

Sharon,

Posts are often repetitive, but some of us have no one else we can talk to about all things CD. So we end up hanging around.

Of all the people who have left since I have been here, I miss the posts from Lux more than anyone else. I wish she would return. She was very entertaining. Like this one.

https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?275559-Do-you-dress-like-an-woman-of-your-age/page2


Sandi

[GretchenM]

You certainly have a valid point. I have been here for ... well, I can't remember but it is a long time. Those questions help members connect with the new member and understand more about who they are. And believe me, it gets tiring to be asking those questions of new members, over and over - but it is how we communicate and learn about our diversity and specifically about them. In that regard, I think Kim's answer is very applicable.

But I would also like to point out that through those questions I have gained a lot of friends that are scattered all over the planet and once we get over the initial stuff we talk about all kinds of things and not just our genders and their issues. In fact, after awhile we don't even talk about gender or dressing or anything like that except once in a great while. It is kind of the way forums work and it is very effective. One of my favorite friends here is Crissy107. We can't even remember when we started communicating privately, but our relationship has grown to the point that we feel almost like next door neighbors even though we live 2000 miles apart. We help each other with personal difficulties that have nothing to do with CDing or gender, we tell jokes and compare notes - no subject is really off limits, except maybe politics - we are quite different in that department. We are like best friends and yet we have never met. That is the beauty of this forum - to meet and get to know someone who may become a very good friend in life and with whom you share an interesting aspect in our lives - sometimes we like to be girls.

I am always sorry when I notice some one new is no longer around. I wonder what happened. Not really my business and they had their reasons. We are all different and that is the exciting part.

[BLUE ORCHID]

This is a great Forum, It is great that we are here for each other,

I always try to help when I Can,

[Aka_Donna]

The most interesting part about the forum is the people. Sure the dressing stuff comes in waves BUT each generation has a slightly different view of CD and the reactions of family members and friends and just being out and about are different for the different age groups. I always find any insight to our discussions to CD that we might learn from to be very interesting. Keep on posting....

[SophiaRose]

When I first joined in July I no doubt asked some of the same ol questions. While the feedback was great, the real value I was getting was having a group to communicate with. After feeling alone with this stuff for 50 years I am grateful to have landed here. The empathy, wisdom,
and patience everyone has makes a huge difference to new comers.

[Tamsin Englefield]

Just like dressing itself I find that my urge to communicate about it and the reassurance I get from reading the comments of others who are experiencing/have experienced similar things comes and goes. So my visits to the board as both a lurker and a contributor ebb and flow.

[Fiona_44]

Some questions do get repeated but I think that is a small price to pay for having new members join us here. It's always good to see new faces and hear new stories. And a decent amount of new ladies usually stick around to become more frequent posters to the site.

Through contacts I've made both here and on another site I belong to I now have friends and acquaintances throughout North America, Europe and Scandinavia. It's nice to be able to get to know others like you and be part of this friendly and supportive community.

[NancySue]

There?s no question repetition will occur simply by the web site topic. Even so, I?m one who still enjoys reading everyone?s posts. While we all have many commonalities, we?re individuals with different origins, experiences, favorites, etc. I believe it?s these common denominators that lets us know we?re not alone.

[docrobbysherry]

I guess I haven't been here long enuff for things to get old?:tongueout

What Shelly said:thumbsup:!

[Maria 60]

I remember already lurking here for about a year before I took the dive to join. My wife was accepting of my situation and willing to help but could never understand some things like the great people here. That being said I could relate to newcomers who speak for the first time with the curiosity and excitement, just like I did.
Just like my grandfather who loved telling that old war story over and over and he knew we heard it a thousand times he just loved telling it. I'm the same, I don't mind telling it a thousand times over and over and I hope just like I enjoyed hearing it over and over there was always someone new there that never heard it and hopefully it made a difference in someone's life. For myself it's more about what's going on in my life when I have time to visit here more then getting bored or discouraged with the topics. There may be same topic questions but there's always something new going on to keep educating or journey.

[Debbie Denier]

There is a cycle but why not go around again and again. Its why we are here.

[CDMargret]

Such a pattern. And it's wonderful to discuss the old stuff with the new ones beginning their adventures in dressing. Remembering that I was there once too. Seeing how I have changed. Laughing and admiring everyone's stories. Sharing it all.

[Traci H]

I don?t mind going back over some of this stuff again and again. I always like hearing about makeup, purses, clothes etc as well as our interactions with the outside world. There?s always a spot to learn something new along the way. Besides, who else can I talk with but you girls, being in the closet and DADT. The more posts I see in the morning, the happier I am.

[Jasmine23]

Most girls on here or even those just lurking, don't have any other outlet to discuss any aspect of their crossdressing, so while a lot of the stuff is a repeat of what's gone before, it's a good place to get advice, share our problems and support each other. Also you can pick and choose what to read, so don't see the problem.

[BiancaEstrella]

I was away for a while so I could figure out some things in my life, but I consider this place a community so I’ll be here for the long haul, offering support and friendship to my favorite group of people. Hanging around crossdressers makes me happy, even if I don’t always write up a reply, just know that I’m cheering all of you on!

[CynthiaD]

Yeah, it’s the same stuff over and over, but it never gets boring. Besides, where else can you go and say "I’m really tired today because I stayed up all night looking at high heels online." And have everyone else say "Of course you did, dear."

[Sabine Janus]

How much in life is truly new?

SJ

[Leah87]

Long may the recycling and repeating of such questions continue.

This place has been the mother of all learning curves for me, as far as CD is concerned.

I may not always contribute but, repeat questions, or not, there's always something to learn and discover from members old, or new.

[chrissy111]

If hearing someones story helps one of our new community members than it is all worth it to me. I was blessed to have help when this was new to me, so what the girls do on here is amazing.

[Fiona_44]

I agree Margaret. I too enjoy sharing things with newer members hoping that they may find something I say useful or encouraging.

[danniUK]

I love the sense of community here - we all have something very dear to us in common. I get that some girls may come here and leave after they've asked questions and had answers, and there's many other reasons why they might leave too.
Not me, I'll be here for the comradery til then very end!

[Kari D]

I?m new here and haven?t had the privilege of sharing in all the previous posts, threads, stories, questions, and advice that many of the long-term members have experienced. Please keep bringing up the same issues and discussions that have helped so many others who share this exciting lifestyle!