Panties to the Doctor?

[StephanieCLT]

Hi ladies,

I'd love your perspectives here. I have two doctors appointments on Thursday - first to the dermatologist for my semi-annual check-up in the morning and a second to my internist for my annual well appointment in the afternoon. I have considered wearing panties to these appointments, something I've never done before.

For the dermatology appointment, the doctor is a 30-something year old female, who I have seen for about 5 years. About half the time I am asked to put on a paper gown for a full body scan (I suffer from vitiligo, which treatments can cause basil cell carcinomas). The internist is a 60-something year old man who I have seen for about 15 years. Again, about half the time I'm asked to put on a gown for a thorough screen. In short, I don't know what situation I'll find myself in in either case.

I've wanted to do this for a while, to just "be me." However, while I dress plenty, I'm in the closet, and I certainly don't want to put "my kink (though it's not really a kink, but not sure how to describe it)" on anyone outside who hasn't expressed a desire to be a part of it. I guess you could say that's true anytime I dress, but given the nature of this, it feels different. So, I'm back and forth. Do you have any thoughts or advice?

Thanks in advance,
Stephanie

[Laura912]

And here is your answer, “ I'm in the closet, and I certainly don't want to put "my thing" on anyone outside who hasn't expressed a desire to be a part of it.”

[Raychel]

Plain fact is doctors don't care, They have seen more than you know.
They have a job to do and will do it very professionally.

I wear plain white panties to the doctors, have never hear a word.

[Jillcder]

Interesting I have a DR appointment in 10 days also now you have me thinking about wearing a cute pair of my Bali panties with a small bow on the front. I say heck yeah panty up and put some thrill in your appointments.

[Traci H]

I have thought about this quite a bit lately. My one fear is that this distraction could in fact detract from my medical care. I want my doctor to be 100% able to focus on any issue I might have. His or her thinking about my attire might cause them to lose some focus. Now I know it will be said that they are professionals and seen it all. But they are also human and subject to distraction. So I refrain and don?t bring them into my closeted world, as much as it might be fun, so to speak.

[kimdl93]

I am of mixed minds on this subject. If you (or I) were wearing panties or whatever, solely for a dopamine rush of revealing oneself, then it seems like an imposition. But where is that line. As you mentioned, each time we go out, we are to some extent putting our personal thing on those we encounter. I know I am uncomfortable with the thought that my behavior may be some sort of exhibitionism. There is that mixture of excitement (and apprehension) involved anytime one goes out in public. Is that exploitive? I suppose one could point towards other kinds of public presentation that are likely to provoke perhaps intentionally reaction from observers.

The question needs to focus on why you would want to do this. If its simply for the thrill, then I should advise against it. But it seems to go beyond that. You are presenting as a woman weekly as part of your real life. While there may be that dopamine boost involved, this is also a substantial part of who you are and want to be perceived of as a person. Going out gives you a chance to express this part of yourself.

When I started going out in public, I emphasized doing everyday things, like picking up the dry cleaning, grocery shopping and going to the bank, even things like brining my car in for service or repairs. the point was not to get a rush so much as it was to see just how comfortable I was with presenting as a woman routinely. And to see if I wanted to take it further. In the course of that process I did (and do) go to eye and medical exams fully en femme.

Ultimately, I end up at the point of asking does the provider need to know in order to provide care effectively. That includes both physical and psychological dimensions, even if you are not contemplating transition. If you are thinking of expanding your experience beyond evenings on the road, maybe consider coming out completely to your primary care provider. That is, just tell them and explain that in the future you may prefer to present as a woman at future appointments. That feels less exploitive that wearing panties on the odd chance that they might be noticed.

[Aroara Xanthemae]

Panties! Panties! Panties! All the time everywhere lace ones satin ones, leather ones mesh ones!
Yeay panties!!!

[WandaRae2009]

I had kept a couple of male briefs for that purpose. A couple of years ago, I was going to the DR and went to put them on, but the elastic was pretty much shot. So now I wear white panties for my DR visits. Never a comment from the DR.

[Michaela Jane]

I go to the doc & dermatologist wearing panties. I have done for years now, I don't have any male underwear in the house. My choice is mid rise bikinis, and for the dermatologist, the ONLY one who requires me to undress (but keep underwear on), and put a paper gown on, I usually chose a solid colour like grey or white. I can't understand the reasoning behind keeping underwear on, especially the dermatologist, she pulls my knickers down to see my butt anyway! LOL

I just choose Walmart brands like Fruit of the Loom or Hanes.

[Stephanie47]

I've said many times here and elsewhere that you, and you alone, bear the consequences of your actions. Once done, you cannot walk it back. Sure, a medical provider probably has seen it all, but will it potentially change your relationship? Just pondering.

[Cheryl T]

Well, coincidentally I have a Dr. appointment Thursday as well.
Since I've worn only panties for the last 20 years I suppose I really have no choice do I?
If you want to wear them and not appear too overt just wear a plain white cotton pair if you have them. If the styles you wear are more feminine in nature and you don't have any plain ones then put your concerns on the shelf for now and don't wear them to the appointment.

[Natalie5004]

Drs have seen everything. So NBD. There should not even be a blink from them and the nurses.

[kirsten82]

While I'm a (mostly) closted crossdresser, I've worn my Hanes nylon briefs to my annual physical for a few years now. It's nice to underdress, and my doctor hasn't said anything about it. I don't think your doctor will care.

[gownman]

I have been to the emergency room twice while wearing panties. Nothing was said. The staff acted as if they didn't even notice.

[Jamie001]

I've said many times here and elsewhere that you, and you alone, bear the consequences of your actions. Once done, you cannot walk it back. Sure, a medical provider probably has seen it all, but will it potentially change your relationship? Just pondering.

Is it really that big of a deal? Are you making a mountain out of a molehill? You are not doing anything illegal. What about people that do to the doctor with tattoos all over their bodies? What about women that wear male underwear?

[CynthiaD]

Go to Walmart and buy a pack of white cotton panties. The are less than $20 for a pack of 10. They are androgynous enough that no one will notice. I have no male underwear, and would refuse to wear them anywhere even if I did. I’ve been wearing white cotton panties to the doctor for years.

[Stevann]

As with some others, I own NO MALE UNDERWEAR. My panties are bikini style, and that's what the various doctors/nurses see when necessary.

[Teresa.Smith.VA]

I like kimdl93's comments that make total sense to me.

[Adelaide]

We're talking panties here, right?
You're a beautiful woman, out 2-3 nights a week and sharing with us your stories....
You're probably wearing panties at work too, right?
So, go for it. Just be who you really are. Be confident.

[JesseVF]

Medical professionals are so busy and overworked I believe the last thing they are going to notice or care is what clothes anyone wears. Once at my annual I forgot I was wearing white panties - almost had a heart attack when I was undressing but had no option at that point. That part of the exam over in a second - I doubt she even noticed and sure she certainly couldn?t care.

[alwayshave]

Stephanie, when last I went to the dermatologist I wore boy shorts which are rather androgynous.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Stephanie :hugs:, The Doctors have seen it all,

[Crissy 107]

I wear my Jockey NPLP bikinis in black, never anything said.

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

I too no longer own any male underwear, but I have some solid color no lace pairs that look like men's bikini briefs of the sort I used to wear. I pretty much only wear these to the doctor just in case, or if I'm going somewhere where I might be talked into jumping into a hottub with people who don't want to see me naked (they're pretty much the same coverage as a Speedo-type swim suit of the 80's.) The color isn't important, the lack of lace and flowery prints is. That way I can still enjoy the comfort and thrill of panties without subjecting anyone who might see them to an uncomfortable situation.

[prettytoes]

I have several pairs of "lady boxers" and "booty shorts" that are very similar to snug fitting boxers and boxer briefs. I usually wear those for appointments rather than a thong or anything lacy or frilly. That way I know but they don't. Lol

[Nyla F]

This decision is really only about what distress or anxiety it causes you. Are you more distressed by not wearing panties, or by wearing them in front of your doctor?

[jjjjohanne]

My first thought is "No, don't do it." You might get excited and THAT would be awkward.
I always wear loose-fitting athletic shorts for the dermatologist visits. I feel better about wearing only those in front of the doctor and the other person(s) who might be in the room.

BTW: I have gone to the dermatologist on several occasions while dressed pretty. (I present male and wear skirts, etc.) I just change into my athletic shorts (no underwear) for the exam where I am supposed to be under the big paper "napkin of shame".

I have also gone to my normal doctor a couple of times while dressed in a skirt. I stopped doing that because my blood pressure was always reading high for those visits. (Also, it was dumb to go there. It is too close to home for someone who is keeping their crossdressing a secret.)

https://joeypress.wordpress.com/2024/11/11/crossdressed-at-the-dermatologist-2024/
https://joeypress.wordpress.com/2024/06/11/doctor-visit-and-antique-store/

I will add that both experiences (dermatologist and family doctor) were basically normal experiences for me.

[StephanieLake]

I have been going to the same doctor for over 25 years. Since I restarted cross dressing, I have kept a couple pairs of men's underwear when I have an appointment. He is retiring at the end of the year so we need to find a new doctor. My wife wants a female this time and I have no problem with that. Since she will be new and never seen me in men's undies, I'm thinking of wearing panties from the start with her. I like the idea of plain white cotton ones, at least to start.

[NancySue]

I totally understand your dilemma. I?ve given this a lot of thought, but am still on the fence. Yes, Dr?s have seen everything but they still talk. My dermatologist, a female, always has an assistant in the room. Bottom line, while hugely tempted, I hold off.

[Brynna M]

I would just wear whatever you wear on a daily basis. If you want to wear panties to be you there are 363 other days you could do that. If you want to show someone your feminine side that's more a thing for a therapist or trusted friend than a doctor. If you want a thrill of maybe being discoverd thats up to you if it excited you.

[Pantiesnhose]

I don't see this as a problem. I have been going to my dermatologist ( female) for about 8 years and never had a comment about my underwear. I underdress everyday so it is just what I wear. I did wear a plain pair nothing with lace or bows. I have even gone in the past year with my toe nails painted. I had forgotten about my Dr. appointment and had just gone for a pedicure with color a few days before. I didn't want to have to redo my toes so I said to myself the heck with it. Not a word was said. I also wear panties to my annual physical but don't normally have to undress.

[JulieC]

The thing that would concern me about going in any form of non-male dress is the level of care that I would receive. I mean, I don't think discrimination would happen, but we know from multiple other sources that discrimination in other forms definitely happens in the medical field. I don't need that stressing my mind.

This week, I had to see a doctor on relatively shorter notice than I was expecting. They gave me a same day appointment, or the following day. I chose the following day because at the time they wanted to see me same day I would not have had an opportunity to go home and get changed out of my underdress attire. Further, I didn't want them to see impressions of bra straps on me. As expected, I had to undress fully for the visit, so I'm glad I took the following day.

Plus; I imagine the same problem would happens to my blood pressure as jjjjohanne; I would get a fairly higher reading. My BP is good (not perfect, but pretty good). I don't need to bump it up into danger levels for an appointment.

Crossdressing in public is not my normal attire. In fact, I rarely dress in public. Going to the doctor dressed in anything femme would not feel right; I would feel like I was involving them in my adventures.

But, all of that is just me. Your mileage may vary :)

[Snide_lobster]

I'm in the boat of it depends upon why.

Do you want to do it because you underdress all the time and don't want that to change?

sure go for it, you're not really doing anything different than you would for anything else


Do you want to do it to elicit a thrill out of the dr. seeing you in them?

that feels too much like exhibitionism for me (which is something I'm personally very cautious of, and admittedly have overstepped once or twice, not that I'm proud of it).

[jjjjohanne]

There are some very insightful answers on this post. Good job everybody!

[Heather76]

The ONLY underwear I own, and wear, are lace hipsters in a variety of nice colors. I wear them 24/7, including doctor appointments. I also, if the weather is cool and dictates a light jacket or windbreaker, always wear a lace bralette. I've no idea if my panties have been seen, but I suspect they have. I know my bralette has been detected whenever a doctor, nurse, or tech has used a stethoscope to listen to my heartbeat. Nobody has ever said a thing. What could they say other than, "You're wearing a bra/panties?" The only answer can be, "Yes." It's a total non-issue and I am basically in the closet with regard to all family and friends (except for 2 trusted people). Go for it.

[Fiona_44]

The key is that you're in the closet. Letting others see you in lingerie will open that closet door a bit.

I live 24/7 and have been to a variety of doctors and my dentist as a woman and have never had a big problem.

[April Rose]

I am out to my (female) physician about having gender dysphoria. But I have yet to wear panties to a checkup, because 1)I want my medical visit to be about my medical condition and nothing else, and 2) like JJJJohane, I have a blood pressure issue, and don't want to do anything that would raise it in an exam.

[Maid_Marion]

If you are going to wear panties I'd suggest shaving off body hair for painless EKG tests!

[KarenCD334]

I wear ONLY women's panties anymore. I have many different styles and colors but one thing is for sure; they are clearly feminine underwear. The male underwear is gone. I have even had three surgeries and been hospitalized twice in women's panties. There has never been a comment about them except from my wife.

[Michelle1955]

Panties are underwear to me, worn for many years. 1st pair like at age 5 was a friends of mine. We switched underwear while playing one day. So basically 64 years of panties.

My many style is slip shorts, I worn black before.
Typically they leave the room for you to undress, for the exam.
Then come back in the room.

I have had a shot in the rear before wearing black slip shorts.

Would I wear colorful / lace to the doctor no.
Slip shorts have very few color choices.

[Kari D]

I only have panties in the underwear drawer now. I have a couple pairs of Jockey briefs in black and navy that are hard to differentiate between panties and men?s underwear. They are my go-to for doctors visits! Only the discerning healthcare provider would notice the difference, which is a bit exhilarating to be honest!

[Jeri Rene]

It's been said but Doctors (of all genders) have seen it all and are just there to do what they have to do. I wore (and wear daily) panties to my last prostate exam. Doctor (M) did not bat an eye or say a word when I was asked to drop my trousers for the exam... no gown and he never left the room.

[Kelli_cd]

I've seen the same Primary Care for 20+ years. 5 years ago, I started wearing panties and the occasional bra to appointments. But, I don't wear a bra to my annual physical, as I know my lines will be obvious. I know her well enough that if we had a conversation all would be cool. And I don't think she would slip and say anything to my wife about it.
Last year, I went to a dermatologist for the first time. My Primary found a couple spots that looked odd, so she gave me a referral. I had a full body exam. I was wearing panties of course ( that's all I have), but wasn't sure about the new doctor. She's also a young 30-ish female.
I was told I could strip all the way or leave my underwear on. Since I wasn't feeling so certain, I took everything off.
And I felt very awkward being completely naked!
So, at my first follow-up visit, and every visit since then (every 3 months because I've had 2 melanomas), I leave the panties on. Somehow, I felt way more comfortable wearing panties in front of her than being completely naked. I don't understand it. I'm sure I'm not the first she's seen, and of course she doesn't say anything about it.
Now, going to the doctor is just something else I do underdressed every time.

[Melanie Therese]

I have spoken to my wife and other GG?s about what they wear and for them they just go basic panties. Not the sexy Lacey or thong etc. I have always gone drab but more recently I have some boyleg panties that aren?t super obvious. I have worn for my skin cancer checkup regularly and even my GP and specialist recently as I have a bit of a downstairs problem requiring attention and nothing said.

[Bea_]

I went to a dermatologist appt wearing a pair of athetic branded bikinis (rebock i think). I'm not sure anyone who wasn't really interested couldn't tell they weren't just some nice men's underwear. My pink toenails were more of a distraction than my panties when the full body scan took place.