Flr

[LianaT]

Just curious how many of you are in a FLR?

[andreanna]

FLR? Is this a new term I have to learn now?

[alwayshave]

Not I. My wife is rather passive relationship wise.

[Marketa]

TIL: FLR means Female-Lead Relationship.

Well, I lead when I'm at home so my male-self doesn't have to. Otherwise I'm single, so in total: it's simple yet bit complicated.

[chrissy111]

Well I'm my wife's wife now, so some would say yes. But I feel we are just a loving couple who are equals.

[LianaT]

Sorry i should have said FLR is a female led relationship

[JesseVF]

Well I take the lead on some of the more traditional male lead areas - like home maintenance projects and car issues. Overall I guess I have to say yes to FLR. Someone quite a long time ago made the remark the she wears the pants in the family which turned out to be quite prophetic in a number of ways. I think it seems normal to me as my upbringing was that although my father provided the income, my mother dominated pretty much everything else.

[Maria 60]

Same thing in my youth, dad was usally working and mom ran everything else. I could only answer in my house that I did two loads of laundry and made the bed with fresh sheets and vacuumed and washed the kitchen floor. I'm now ready to cook dinner dressed fem wearing and going to put on a pretty pink apron. My wife has been watching Virgin River on Netflix most of the day. Well technically I'm wearing a skirt.

[GretchenM]

My wife and I have a rather egalitarian relationship - we decide and do things as a couple. One gets to dominate in a few things while the other leads in other areas. But there is scant male and female division in that except that heavy things I do and she does the more delicate things - more or less. We don't intentionally avoid the usual male/female division of labor, but it does work out that way sometimes for logical reasons. I do most of the meal preparation; she does the dishes. But sometimes we switch. She does house cleaning, but sometimes I do. I do the heavier yard work; she does the weeding of our many flower beds in the summer. We tend to ignore the traditional roles.

[AmyJordan]

Hi Liana

I've raised this issue before wondering how many of us are in this situation.

My relationship is most definitely female led and has progressed to the point I am now the image of a feminized housewife.

Of course FLRs don't often result in the man being feminized but in my case it was my wifes dream and desire

It can be very rewarding but equally very difficult at times especially if like me you didn't have crossdressing tendencies to begin with.

Amy x

[LianaT]

Thank you all for sharing

[Jasmine23]

For all intents and purposes I'm in a flr, my partner definitely wears the trousers in our relationship! I've always been very submissive and a people pleaser, so tend to follow her lead. As our relationship has evolved I've fallen into the role of homemaker, doing all the cooking and cleaning while she relaxes, she hasn't demanded or forced me to do this, it's just happened organically. She doesn't know about my crossdressing.

[Meg]

I must say that I have entertained some thoughts about being in a FLR. I am widowed now, but did majority of house chores when wife's health was failing. That is quite different from a FLR. Often joked that I should have a French Maid's Uniform for my housework. My wife knew that I would love that, but was not accepting. There is quite the movement out there to feminize males. NewAgeMale.com is one site that I can think of. While it is not for everyone, but I am sure there are many who live it and enjoy it.

[audreyinalbany]

what Gretchen said

[SherriePall]

Now for an OT's answer. I give my wife a hand in doing things around the house (most it because her knees are shot from missing steps). So my answer is no FLR.

[LianaT]

Thank you all ever so much for sharing

[SophiaRose]

My wife is tough, strong willed, caring, nurturing, and has great fashion sense. I tend to defer to her on decisions related to vacations, dinner reservations, and friendships. I also have been known to fantasize about being her wife. Not sure if that makes our relationship an FLR. Oh, and Im usually the one to snuggle up to her at night in a somewhat submissive position if that makes sense. Maybe it is an FLR?

[Cassie Roce]

Since I started crossdressing about 5 years ago our relationship has evolved. I have gradually taken on most, if not all, of the household tasks and those that I don’t do on my own, such as shopping and cooking, are shared. I don’t feel under any pressure to do these tasks but they are things that I willingly do for us both. In addition, I continue to do the maintenance tasks I have always done. I don’t specifically dress in my female clothing for doing the household tasks, although sometimes I am, and that’s not an issue for either of us. I suppose if a FLR can be voluntary then that’s when mine currently is and I’m very much enjoying these added wife pleasing benefits of crossdressing.

[Kari D]

I am in an FLR relationship with my SO. I am retired and she is actively climbing the leadership ladder in her profession. She is at the office 2 days a week and works from her home office the rest of the week. I take care of all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. I do her nails and often her makeup (after she was impressed with my makeup). She is in charge of our intimate relationship and I?m expected to present as feminine at all times at home as long as we are not having company. She picks out most of my clothes.
We have a very functional relationship that works great for us. It?s not fantasy play or fetishy. It?s just what we settled into and it works for us.

[kimdl93]

I was in a FER?female ended relationship, despite doing a reasonable share of home chores. I guess that was not what she was looking for.

[MsEva]

Yes, I guess so but not sure if I would use that term. I am tasked with all the laundry. I love my time dressed and doing house chores and laundry. Doing tha right now three loads after Christmas vacation. DW is quite aware of that. I have multiple chances to dress and do my "chores"

[Jane G]

Not a term I relate to. We are equals in most things, others are led by whoever is best suited to that situation at that time. Seems a very odd term to me. I guess because of the way we share.

[docrobbysherry]

I tried putting on a sexy maid's outfit with the hope it would encourage me to clean up the mess I live in.:thumbsup:
It made me do a photoshoot instead!:battingeyelashes:

I've read many posts here by straight dressers who want to be with men when they dress. Dressing sometimes makes me think of sex but NOT change the body parts I'm attracted to.:o

I'm with Kim in having an FER relationship with my ex. I made a big mistake by stopping to fite back when she became increasingly bossy and naggy. Resentment built up in me and it ultimately affecte our relationship!:thumbsdn:

[_jenni_]

More like a MLR and handle all the FLR duties and at times seems to know more FLR things. 🤦*♀️

[Stephanie47]

I do all the heavy lifting. I also do a lot of the cooking and baking with the proviso that I do not cook what she is good at and she does not cook what I am good at. We share the laundry duties. After you do the "I do's" at the altar you learn a lot about your spouse. From her childhood experiences I had to deal with her self-worth issues and encourage her to breakout of her shell. I hate the fact she still will not voice her opinion and leaves me to the lead in the household decisions.