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rachellegsep
12-28-2024, 03:52 AM
A bit of background 1st.
My wife and I are finally parting ways after 30 years. We have been separated for the last 10 but are still good friends and Business partners working together. With a recent restructuring of our businesses it has finally allowed the amicable non contested divorce to proceed. I made the mistake of not having the talk before getting married thinking I could put CDing behind me. We all know that is not possible and she obviously found out. As many others have said it was more the sense of betrayal of not having the talk before we got married. She did eventually come around and even bought me clothes and was comfortable with odd appearance Rachel enfemme in the comfort of our home. The reasons for the divorce are not crossdressing or infidelity. We have just grown apart with different interests and have fallen out of love. Several months ago she told me that I must move on with my life and be happy in finding a new women to share the rest of my days with, and she would have have no problem of me dating and it would have no effect on the divorce proceedings.

Long story short a women friend and partner in a separate business who knows the whole story about our marriage, gave me a number of a friend from her church saying that she thought we were very compatible. I told me wife about this and she said you must ask her out. I picked up the courage phoned her and we conversed online, realising we had a lot in common and similar circumstances, both with sons that are grown up and are out of the house. We set a time and convenient place to go on a dinner date. We talked for hours and hours until they ended up closing up the restaurant around us. At 1st I didn't feel the spark and thought we would just be friends, but after the second date with both of us more at ease with each and lots conversation we both felt the connection. We have been seeing each other almost everyday for the last 2 weeks and its like 2 teenagers in love. We both never thought we would feel this way again. My wife is happy for us.

Well last night as the relationship is getting serious, I decided we needed have the talk. I was sh--ing bricks, thinking I would lose her. I told her about Rachel and answered all the normal questions and more to put her mind at ease. She was very happy that I trusted her with the information and was glad I told her beforehand. She understands that its part of me has no problem with it. She even said that she had noticed that there was something about me that was different, in a nice way, to any other man she has every met in her life. I told I will not reveal Rachel to her unless she asks and that its only done in the comfort of the home unless by mutual agreement like in the case of themed fancy dress parties etc. Slow steps going forward but exited for the future.

LianaT
12-28-2024, 04:09 AM
Good for you Rachel. You handled everything beautifully and I hope you have a very nice future. Well done!

Kris Burton
12-28-2024, 04:16 AM
Well done Rachel! Another example of how full disclosure pays off.

chrissy111
12-28-2024, 08:42 AM
Great to hear, honesty is certainly the cornerstone of any good relationship.

kimdl93
12-28-2024, 08:57 AM
I am glad that the conversation went well.

Stephanie47
12-28-2024, 09:31 AM
Getting negativity out of the way in the beginning with truth is the best way. As in any relationship, it does not matter the issue, one believes he or she can overlook any negative quality or change a person's behavior, then it goes off the rails. Hope you and your new friends can live within the same comfort zone.

alwayshave
12-28-2024, 11:45 AM
Rachelle, I'm glad the discussion with your girlfriend went well.

Maria 60
12-28-2024, 02:38 PM
That sounds great and it must feel like a building is lifted off your shoulders. You must be very proud of yourself, it took a lot of confidence and courage to do what you did. Especially with that great outcome. Let us know how you two teenage love birds are doing going forward.

Steph_CD_62
12-28-2024, 05:07 PM
I am glad the talk went well for you. Honesty is the best policy.

I was nervous about telling me wife when we first met, but I have never regrated since.

Marketa
12-28-2024, 06:45 PM
That's great, Rachel! I'm glad it went that smooth(-ish).

Good luck and best wishes with your new girlfriend.

Fiona_44
12-30-2024, 04:42 PM
I'm so glad to hear that things turned out well with your new girlfriend Rachelle!

Mercedes
12-30-2024, 05:07 PM
Thank you for sharing your story Rachel! Wishing you the best of luck in your new relationship.

_jenni_
01-05-2025, 11:32 AM
Sounds like a fun start.

DianeT
01-06-2025, 01:35 PM
Well done, congratulations for being honest up front. It must not be easy.

rachellegsep
01-07-2025, 06:04 PM
Thanks all for the comments is going really well. We are very happy together. I haven't revealed Rachel in person yet and will only do so if she wants to. She has however seen 2 pics of me enfemme from the 2 fancy dress parties and she was surprised as she thought they were GG's. I did mention her that I normally sleep in a nite dress, which I find far more comfortable during the hot summer months. She told me to continue as this was not an issue to her. In fact we both have several matching nite dresses.Truly I have found a Unicorn

BLUE ORCHID
01-08-2025, 09:34 PM
Hi Rachelle :hugs:, That was an Interesting Story,

The Ball is in her Court now, Go slow & Easy and be careful not to over whelm her, it is her Lead Now,

I wosh you both luck & Happenes, >>Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**

Crissy 107
01-08-2025, 10:08 PM
As everyone here that has had the talk knows it is not an easy thing to do but you did it and so far so good. I wish you both continued good luck going forward.