Does lack of sex increase the crossdressing needs?

[tamara]

I am not sure if this has been already discussed or not, but here we go...

I have noticed that when I am having sex with my wife in a regular basis, my need to dress as Tamara drops substantially.

But when we have long periods without intimacy (For whatever reason), Tamara comes back with a vengeance!!!

Do any of you gurls go through the same, or is it just me?

[Sasha_inside]

For me - no.

I have regular relations with my wife and with ... myself ... and my dressing/desire to dress stays the same.

[Jessica Secret]

My boyfriend and I have sex on a regular basis and it only *increases* the desire to dress given I wear lingerie to bed almost every night.

[Cheryllynn]

For me, nothing that I have noticed. Seems pretty consistent.

[Sabine7]

No, certainly not. Crossdressing ceased to be a method of or a replacement for having sex a long time ago. I would rather say that having a regular crossdressing experience increases my sexual arousal and need.

[Raychel]

For me there was a direct connection.
When we were first married and had kids.
I had very little to no desire to dress.
As my wife's desire faded, the desire I had to dress became
increasingly greater. She eventually became an ex-wife, not
caused by the crossdressing, It was 1000% her personality that
ended the relationship. It could have been a Hallmark movie.
the events over the years, OMG Makes me shake my head.

Anyways back to the point. After our seperation, My dressing became a daily thing.
My minds was so much calmer, being away from the stress of the marriage
and being able to dress like I prefer,

Now because of meds and other reason. I am not intimate with any woman.
I relax in my prefered dressing style every day.

So fo me yes it is absolutely connected

[BrendaPDX]

I have really never thought about it so I assume that there is no connection for me.

[Traci H]

I believe there is a connection for me. I am not sure of the causes, but my wife has not been intimate with me for many years. Sometimes, I thought maybe the crossdressing had turned her off, but I stopped for several years and it made no difference. The other factors are menopause and her body image, having gained a lot of weight.

I know that an active sex life reduces my pink fog a bit. Doesn?t eliminate it but can reduce its intensity. These days it?s pretty thick as a result.

[docrobbysherry]

Tamara, it makes a difference in how u finish your dressing sessions!:o

If u simply take your clothes off when you're done I'm not sure why lack of sex with your SO makes u dress more?:straightface:

[Karren H]

Ahhh, No.

[chrissy111]

No not at all.

[NatalieR]

Not for me! But my desire to dress does seem to increase if I am feeling stressed...

[Brynna M]

My desire to dress does fluctuate but I can't correlate it with my sex life. Not a lot of data to be had.

[SavannahVee]

There is a connection for me. The desire does increase if it's "been a while".

[alwayshave]

It has no effect on my need to dress.

[Maria 60]

I wrote about this a while ago. I have to go back and try to remember the reason but I believe I was about to do something with high risk with my dressing. My wife told me that we had to have sex so I won't do anything stupid. I believe after the sex she was right and I didn't do what I was intending on doing. So for me I believe it matters and makes a difference in my dressing

[DianeT]

If your crossdressing has a sexual driver (even if it may not be the only driver), it makes sense that less sex with your SO increases the need for this outlet.

[sometimes_miss]

For me, my mind subconsciously represses the GID when everything else in my life is going well, so the need to crossdress is kept in the background most of the time. It's what I experienced in my twenties and early thirties, when I didn't crossdress or even think about it for over ten years. It was only when I lost my job, had to take another for less than half the salary, then add in going back to school, and wifey getting increasingly critical of me, that the crossdressing urge came back with a vengeance.
So; introduce any kind of stress, at some point the mind cannot repress it any longer, and the need to crossdress comes front and center into consciousness. And it might not take much additional stress; if you're already dealing with several other thing, all you need is 'the straw that broke the camel's back' type of thing to push you over the edge.

For the computer nerds; look at it as diminishing resources to the point where the processor is working at maximum already, memory is all in use, the machine is thrashing the fixed disk trying to move all the bits about in the page file, and then adding in too many additional tasks, and soon you're at the 'blue screen of death', and have to reboot to escape the frozen up machine.

[Cheryl T]

No, not at all.
Either way my desire to be me remains the same.

[Heather76]

At my age and the fact we've been in a sexless marriage for 17 years due to medical issues, my 4 1/2 years of Xdressing has nothing to do with sex other than I enjoy dressing like the fairer sex.

[ClairFlair]

For me, I feel that there is a very strong correlation to having sex and my dressing. When we are in our intimate cycles I rarely underdress or even feel the need. When we're not, I often find the need to be much more feminine.

[Amy Lynn3]

For me it is all about the cloths. I just love to wear what the gals wear. I do know circumstances that come along in life had reduced the amount of dressing I do.

[audreyinalbany]

I've gotten on in years now, but back in the day where there was more of a sexual component to my dressing I worried that it subtracted sexual energy from our relationship. There isn't much sexual energy our relationship now and there only occasionally is in my crossdressing

[April Rose]

I am, newly remarried and am having more sex than I had for more than five years. I am married to a woman who enjoys and encourages my cross dressing. But I don't have an answer as to whether its really correlated to sex. I enjoy feminine expression in many forms'

At seventy four, I'm still exploring what it means to be myself.

[Melanie Therese]

Definitely not for me. Lucky to be married a very long time and maintained a healthy relationship in bed. Keeping my female underwear on increases the mood.

[Geena75]

Not consciously, I'm sure. As I look back over the years, I noticed that my dressing (minimal back in the early days) disappeared when I was in a regular sexual relationship. When that waned, the urge seemed to resurface. As the years passed, and the kids moved out and I found more opportunities to pretty up I took advantage of it. Now at an age where intimacy is rare (I settle for snuggling), more rare than dressing up. I think there is a connection, but not a strong one.

[SophiaRose]

I suspect there's a link. Many crossdressers report that after dressing and having a "release" there can be a feeling if shame, guilt, and less CD interest which causes them to remove their clothing as fast as possible. Neurotransmitters like dopamine, Oxytocin, Prolactin, Serotonin, are released, which may cause this, and might linger longer for some. It's an interesting question and I wonder if this has been investigated further.

[JulieC]

SophiaRose; sadly, there's precious little psychological science that has been done on our particular corner of transgenderism. There's a lot of supposition and guesses that sustain as "common knowledge", but much of it is completely unfounded in any real science. I'm ever hopeful that as times have changed and society's acceptance levels change that more grants will be forthcoming to support research, but to date there hasn't been much of a shift. Some, but not lots.

I agree it's an interesting question though. To the general question; I don't know that crossdressing should be taken in isolation in evaluating post-release reactions to things. It could be that crossdressing is one of many things that are affected in post-release mental state.

[Jamie001]

It must be wonderful to have sex with you boyfriend when dressed as a pretty girl.

[Stefanie Taylor]

For me, absolutely yes.

I crossdress because I love to wear the clothes and it makes me feel calm and just "right". There is also a strong sexual component. That certainly gets a lot stronger with I've not had sex with my wife.

[_jenni_]

That?s a negative, ghost rider.

[jjjjohanne]

If I have not had sexual release for ~4-5 days, then I start having sexual thoughts, etc. It is as if the build-up of fluids stimulates cravings/hormones. I don't know the science. I have observed that I am more likely to crave dressing up during such times. I have also observed that I am more likely to take foolish risks with my crossdressing when it has been a while.

Interesting additional note: I took a medicine for a few months that said that one side effect was sexual disinterest. I experienced just that. I felt like I was as disinterested in sex as my wife typically is. I could feel that I biologically needed to get stuff out of me, but it seemed like too much trouble. During that time, I remember feeling like underdressing was also too much trouble. I looked at my blog and I do not see a significant gap in blog posts about crossdressing during that time.

[VickieBonne]

Its rare that I'm not wearing a nightgown to bed which is where 95% of our love making starts...
I can't say it affects our physical passion at all. The other 5%, I probably have at least panties on.

[Monique65]

For many years my wife showed little interest in sex, and I used dressing to compensate for this disinterest. Since she has accepted my feminine side, my desire for sex has lessened. I’m content to wear panties, leggings, and gowns in her presence, and the urge for a more physical relationship has diminished. It’s as if once the taboo aspect was lifted, so also went the need for release.

[snoostrawberry]

My wife's going through menopause so the pink flog has come with a vengence. It also shows up alot during stress.

[bra]

I need a release at least once a day and if the wife isn't up for her duties, I slip some lingerie on and take care of myself in private. I make my wife wear bras and heels during sex, it's quite nice when she obliges for me, but it's been rarer. She's quite beautiful. but overworked lately, so I dont want to burden her, the poor lovely thing.

[EmilyShy]

Yes 100%

If my wife wore heels stockings and dresses or skirts then definitely my desire to dress diminishes. Desire is still there but less. Sadly the world where women wear these things every week is a world that no longer exists.

Emily xx

[Cheryl T]

No, there's no change.
I dressed before I knew what sex was and nothing has changed about my dressing.