Answering the door en femme

[CynthiaD]

The other day a neighbor lady came by looking for a package that was marked as delivered but never actually showed up. I told her I hadn?t seen it and we commiserated a while because I?ve had similar experiences. After she left, I realized I was fully en femme and had been speaking in my normal male voice. She never batted an eye. Upon reflection I realized I felt really good about the encounter. This is who I am. Female clothing is my "regular clothes". Why should I hide it?

Have any of you had similar experiences? And if so, how did it make you feel?

[NatalieMN]

Good for you :) And good for your neighbor for rolling with it. Hopefully that doesn't make things awkward for either of you in the future but it is nice to be our true selves whenever we can.

I think the only situation that has been close to this is meeting up with some of my partner's friends in San Francisco while out as Natalie. I tend to worry a lot about my voice when out as Natalie and the last time I was out on New Year's Eve I worried about it even with it being loud. But, when out with her friends, since I was talking a lot, I sort of just let my voice do its thing. I still wish I had a better femme voice but I will say, in the moment, being Natalie and not worrying about every little thing that might not be as feminine was liberating and fun.

[Marketa]

I encountered my neighbours in two or three occasions, but it was always just for a second or two while passing by, but I didn't enjoy either of them. And I hope they think I'm my male self's girlfriend.

But once in October or November I was hungry and lazy to cook, so I ordered doordash sushi on my name and picked it up from the driver fully en femme and that was fun. I did my best femme voice with "Good afternoon" and "Thank you" though.

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

I went to my waxing appointment today in flowery leggings, does that count? She didn't bat an eye at my leggings, for that matter neither did her husband in the barbershop as we waved at each other. Almost like it was normal.

[GraceH]

I was at a restaurant in the waiting area en femme last year, and one of my neighbors came out of the dining room and started talking to me using my male name, as if nothing was unusual. She introduced me to her daughter, who also didn't bat an eye. Since then, I've heard nothing of this encounter. She still smiles when we pass each other by. I'd love to know what went through her mind-- she seemed like she totally accepted me that way.

[kimdl93]

Many times over the years. My neighbors have seen me working in yard in grubby clothes, going out to the mail fully en femme, and relaxing on the patio in a sundress. I have never had any problems.

[docrobbysherry]

Never in a million years would I answer my door dressed!:doh:

You're quite brave, Cynthia!:thumbsup:

[bridget thronton]

Glad it went well

[alwayshave]

Cynthia, I'm glad your neighbor just acted as all was as usual.

[Sabine7]

It didn't happen to me so far. However, I used to spend so much time en-femme recently having that as a natural and preferred form of my existence that it seems to be a matter of time I will do eventually, willingly or unwillingly...

[Georgina]

I have answered my door en femme on a few occasions. I did know in advance who was coming. I have a few friends that know I dress and they visit a few times in the year. I really enjoy inviting my friends in while dressed.

[Raychel]

I have had a couple of instances where I opened the door while dressed.

One time the mailman knocked with a package I had to sign for.
I opened the door, greated him normally, Signed for the package.
And the day went on. No issues ever came of it. I talked to him other times in drab.
He was a super nice guy. Never mentioned it again.

Another time I was living in Tennessee.
The back inside door was open. I came from the living room to the kitchen Fully in Raychel mode
one of the neighbors was standing at the door. He never knocked.
We were face to face. I told to hold on a minute and went and changed.
He wanted help with his car. I was happy to do it.
No mention of that every again either.
Which surprised me, I totally expected pitch forks coming out after that one.

[chrissy111]

I always answer the door dressed, otherwise I would be naked.

[Kari D]

I was in full femme mode (wig, makeup, dress, and heels) and was in the garage weaving dried garlic plants together. The garage door was open but it?s barely visible from the road so I wasn?t concerned. Suddenly, I was surprised to hear a woman say, Hello! I turned around and there was our mail lady holding a package that had been too big for the mailbox. At first, I forgot all about the way I was dressed, but as she quickly scanned me from head to toe, I realized the situation we both found ourselves. She smiled and handed me the package. I thanked her for bringing it up to the house. I was still holding a braided garlic bunch. I asked if she liked garlic. She said, yes. So I offered her the garlic. She was very thankful and offered a ?have a great day? as she turn and walked back down the driveway. The whole interaction was quite pleasant, actually.

[CharlotteCD]

I've answered the door dressed only once, and that was because I had missed a delivery and this was the re-visit - miss it then and the parcel (a corset) would have been sent back to the supplier. The post lady had a smile that said "Oh, you are embarrassed aren't you - don't be, it's fine, I am just giving you a parcel"

I'd never answer it otherwise. My house is opposite a builders merchants so during work hours I do not want to be visible.

[Sabine7]

It sounds like you were doubly guilty: you have taken the parcel/corset being just dressed. It's funny!

[Joanie CD]

Once I would have been scared out of my wits, but nowadays, I answer the door whether I'm en femme or not. Usually it's someone selling some home improvement thing that I have no interest in and I send then on their way. I once had a long conversation with a woman trying to sell me a new phone and internet plan. She was very sweet. I take my trash and recycling out en femme if I happened to be dressed, and get into and out of our cars in the driveway, so I am pretty much out to all the neighbors, who have never mentioned my dressing.

[danniUK]

I always cover up to answer the door, if I'm dressed I either have a cover-up plan (quick pull-on clothes and little or no makeup) or do not intend to answer the door for a given period of time (so that's only really ever at night time).
I think it's mostly becuase my wife wouldn't approve of people (that we know, whether neighbours or postman etc) seeing me, but I know it's also partly that I'm a bit nervous about people we know too.
Out fully en femme in front of strangers? Very much looking forward to doing that for the first time in May. But the same in front of the guy next door who I've got to see regularly? It does still wierd me out a little.

But the question of close-calls: a month or two ago I answered the door with jogging bottoms covering my tights and skirt, and threw on a hooded top to go with it, since I had a turtleneck top covering my lady bumps. What I only realised after closing the door and looking in the mirror was that it wasn't zipped up enough to cover the chunky pearl necklace I'd recently bought!

[Debs]

I was in an hotel the the other week, there was a knock on the door, I answered it with my baby doll nightie on,full makeup and wig, it was somebody knocking on the wrong door for there friend, they just stared at me, give me a look up and down, then walked off very quickly, lol

[valerie anne]

I've come to the conclusion that in general its best not to answer the door.

The exceptions being when I am expecting a delivery (usually timed) or I am expecting friends.

Otherwise you are annoyingly interrupted by Jehovah's Witnesses, various doorstep salesmen, charity beggars, lost pizza delivery drivers and so on.

The en femme bit doesn't worry me. I'm carrying 36 DD boobs, so even when not explicitly dressed, I am fairly busty with an obvious bra.

The phone is similar, if not worse. Despite belonging to spam blocking sites, I still get regular calls for double glazing, solar panels etc. I tell my friends to expect the answerphone, and I will pick up once I know it's them.

Iv'e never had a call for bras, stockings or makeup!

[DianeT]

It's official. You passed!

[HollyGreene]

I have answered the door to the postman/post lady a couple of times while dressed. I have no problem doing that if I am fully dressed with wig and full makeup because I am not particularly recognisable as me once dressed to that level.
It's not something I would choose to do too often though - it's quite nerve-wracking.

[jjjjohanne]

Only once have I answered the door while dressed pretty. A delivery guy was dropping off a package and I answered the door in a skirt. I knew he package was coming that day and decided to dress pretty and receive it. It was scary. I assume he saw what I was wearing. It was a normal exchange. No mention of my clothes.

[BrendaPDX]

I am kind of like Doc, but once a couple of cops came to the door knocking hard on the second time, I was caught. I opened the door and the senior asked to come in as they were looking for a suspect that apparently gave a similar address to my address as where they were looking for them. I had my en femme clothes on and stacks of my other clothes in the living room, I said no. The cadet was shocked but the other senior officer just said okay and they left. Yikes!