Never enough time

[snoostrawberry]

I work from home, and my wife is home quite a bit too. She's a freelancer, working 2?3 hours at a time, multiple days a week. I?ve been finding it really difficult to dress and do makeup within an hour, and even then, I?m constantly worried she?ll come home unexpectedly or that I?ll leave something behind, like a lipstick on the counter. It makes it hard to enjoy the process at all.

I know many of you might suggest just telling her, but that?s not an option?she wouldn?t be okay with it. It hasn?t been a huge issue since I only feel the need to crossdress a few times a month, but I?d really like to hear from others who might be going through something similar. How do you handle it? I really wish I traveled for work.

[Debs]

"but that?s not an option?she wouldn?t be okay with it." something must have happened for you to say this ?, so does she have an incline that you dress ?, if so my answer will be a whole lot different than if she knows nothing at all

[Marketa]

I haven't been in this situation, but I've read enough posts here to know, that this is bad and it will only get worse.

One day you'll have to face it and solve it in one way or another, because this is unsustainable.

[Helen_Highwater]

I would suggest foregoing the makeup. If you don't look in the mirror then it doesn't need to be there. Simplifying your dressing will free up time to enjoy it more as will removing those stress points.

Although in a DADT situation, I get time to dress most days but for a limited period. I go PF, Partially Femme. Skirt, hose, bra, forms, top, no makeup or wig but usually some kind of footwear.

And with on bit of practice it's surprising just how quickly you can go from PF to drab or as I often do, just pull on a pair of joggers, a fleece top and socks and underdressed, possibly something more problematic for you, less so for me with DADT.

[HelpMe,Rhonda]

There are apps that will give you a 'live' shot of your face with makeup on, I used those in a similar situation, and then during early covid when everyone was home all the time. Of course, the danger is you realize you want to look more like that all the time.

[danniUK]

I'm with Helen - I rarely apply makeup on a regular week-day. Not because my wife doesn't know or disapproves (she's accepting but still working through things) but because there's lots of scope for surprise visitors. Most outfits I wear can be hidden under a hoodie and tracksuit trousers in no time at all, but makeup is harder to conceal.
I do miss it though, makeup is something that makes me feel particularly girly.

[Maria 60]

I'm going to agree with others here and maybe don't waste to much of your time with the make-up. In the winter months I dress a lot after work and weekends. For me the make-up is a lot of work to apply and also to make sure we remove it all properly. I have striped my clothes off in seconds if one of my children came unannounced but to remove make up and women have that instinct and notice a hair out of place not to mention if you don't remove it all.

[snoostrawberry]

It's great to hear everyones perspectives. I really enjoy the "art" of makeup and the process of learning and improving my technique, but the fear of being caught does take away some of the joy. Right now, I'm completely in the closet when it comes to dressing, and while I don't feel the need to do it every day, a couple of times a month works for me.

That said, I had a close call yesterday. I had left a couple of beauty blenders out, and the dog got hold of them and destroyed them in the bedroom. When my wife came home and found the pieces, I had to think on my feet and told her they were sponges for my art supplies. It was nerve-wracking, but thankfully, she didn't question it further :sad: I going to heed everyone's advice and just forgo makeup for awhile until I have a bigger window to work in.

[Jillcder]

Well as someone who had the opportunity to Crossdress on my business trips its definitely a double edged sword on one side I was able to dress while driving long distances, eat at restaurants and sip a glass of wine, mingle around the hotel and most importantly spend many hours working on my style and makeup skills now the downside since retiring all that stopped and I miss it dearly like you I have not came out to my wife either. So be careful what you wish for crossdressing while traveling for work is very addicting and will take you deep down the rabbit hole.

[Helen_Highwater]

And there will, I guarantee, be a time when you don't clean off all your mascara. You think you have but......

[audreyinalbany]

I also don't know many genetic women who apply full make up unless there is a VERY special occasion. for me its a five minute process....a daub of CC cream, well blended....Eye shadow, maybe some cover stick and lipstick. Usually forego mascara unless I'm going to have extended time.

[docrobbysherry]

What r u going say when you're caught? Often, that u were lying for so long is worse than the dressing!:doh:

That's why after doing what u r for years I told me family. To be able to dress stress free again made it all worth while!:battingeyelashes: