What is most embarrassing?

[Julie York]

If you are a closet dresser and no-one knows your secret....and your Mother/Spouse/Partner opens a drawer or cupboard...Which is most embarrassing to you?
1) Find women's underwear.
2) Finding breast forms and a wig?

Enquiring minds need to know.

Thank you.

[LisaMarie]

How's this for embarrassing? I use an email for store websites etc where there is a chance of being spammed etc.
Lows is one of the places I use that email, well now they have a rewards program that uses your email. And it shows up on their screen when you tell them your phone number.
I won't put my whole email on here just the first part of it... It's Loveswearingpanties.
I never thought in a million years that it would ever be seen by any human, just who ever or whatever sends out emails for ads etc.
I haven't delved into it yet to see if I can change it or remove it all together.

[JulieC]

Oh my LisaMarie! That is embarrassing and funny too! :)

Julie; my spouse does know (and supports). But, I find this still relevant. I'm definitely more self conscious when my wife sees my breast forms than, say, a skirt. I feel a bit more like I'm invading her world with the breast forms than a skirt, or most women's underwear. Odd, that.

[Kris Burton]

My wife is fully supportive and encouraging, but I did find it embarrassing when she caught me searching online for new breast forms and hip/butt shaper.

[Lacey New]

I might be able to survive her finding a pair of panties. She wears Vanity Fair Ravissant nylon briefs in the same size I wear. Oh my! They must have gotten mixed up in the laundry!

[Lorna]

I wonder if there's a significant difference between, say, a dress and breastforms. A dress or skirt or slip or bra - can be justified as a preference for female clothing. Breastforms (and perhaps other artificial padding, etc) suggest, perhaps, going beyond crossdressing and into a desire to be seen as female. I don't know - just asking.

[Traci H]

I am with Lorna on this one. Clothing can be justified as wanting to experience women?s clothing. Breast forms on the other hand get into a form of body modification that seems to express deeper desires. My wife recently found a set of my forms and it did not make her happy. She is not accepting anyways. Good thing it wasn?t my bigger ones!

[Natalie5004]

Embarrassment is a funny feeling and one you can control. If in your mind you think that you have every right to express yourself in any manner as long as you are not hurting anyone. Why be embarrassed?

I am not speaking about people that want to control you. That is a different subject all together.

If you feel like you have to crossdress and you do, why get embarrassed? You are being you, true to yourself.

[JesseVF]

Agreed Natalie - easier said than done but think I?m gettin there. I have actually just recently rearranged my clothes in our shared closet so my one drawer which has had my panties for a couple years, now includes my bras and a couple sets of breast forms, the forms I do cover up with a small towel as others have said they seem particularly difficult for SO?s to accept - understandably so. Also my fem clothes and shoes in sight. Shapewear and wigs close by but not in plain sight.
For me some of the issue is embarrassment but some also is just not wanting her to have to deal with all of it.

[cdinmd206]

I was in a local thrift store that family uses a lot. I saw a pair of black pumps and just had to have them. I bought them home and showed my well aware of my dressing wife. She laughed and said those are a pair of shoes our daughter bought on line but were too big and not returnable and she donated them to the thrift store.

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

Julie Y, either will tell her that you're a CD, or worse. Either will result in "the talk".

LisaMarie, why oh why did you use that email for Lowes??? Surely you have a "normal" email....

Danielle, that's hillarious and awesome! Did you keep them? It would sure be weird if your daughter found them in your closet.. I have a great women's t-shirt that I don't wear in front of my daughter, I don't know but I think it might have been hers. I found it in a bag my wife was donating and she didn't know where it came from either.

[LisaMarie]

I used that email addy because I knew that they'd probably sell it as all companies do to make more money and I don't want spam or any unsolicited emails going to my regular email addy.
I originally just wanted to get ads and special offers from Lowes. I never expected that they would come out with this new rewards program.
I really don't know why anybody's emails show up on their screens since they use your phone number to get to your account to add the rewards points to your account.
Like I said before, I never expected anybody to especially anybody I know, and I know just about everybody who works at Lowes, to ever see the addy. I figured only some stranger somewhere in the vast depths of LOwes corporate center or a computer generated program would ever see the addy.

[alwayshave]

My wife knows, so I don't worry about her. I have thought about my step children finding out though. I have one who is particularly nosey, so our bedroom has a locked door. Breast forms would definitely be the more embarrassing issue.

[CarlaWestin]

I snapped a quick picture of something in a store and emailed it to my wife.
When I asked if she got it the reply was, "Why, yes. Yes I did. Carla."

:straightface:

[Stephanie47]

My wife knows I wear women's clothing, although I believe she does not know the extent of my wardrobe. It's a deep "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" with some slip-ups along the way, like failing to sequester a panty or bra after a Stephanie day. In those situations she has folded them and puts them behind closed doors in the laundry. What was embarrassing is not finding a bra or panty, but finding a pair of pseudo breast forms, filled white water balloons, in the kitchen sink. Yikes. That is the primary thing I make sure does not happen again.

[Shelly Preston]

I would suggest the underwear would be less of a problem.

You may be able to pass it off a as present for your partner.

Thankfully I never had that issue.

[DianeT]

Both would be embarrassing. But having kept it a secret would be the most complicated thing to explain.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Julie :hugs:I thought I was all Cleaned up,

We were in a store and Mrs:love:Blue looks at me and says You have Lipstick on,

Luckly it was a light shade , Not the Bright RED, >Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**


We do have a very workable DA/DT !

[April Rose]

Being in the closet always carries stress, and the potential for embarrassment.

[Stephanie47]

Yes, being in the closet certainly poses a great risk, especially if your wife does not know or throws a serious fit if and when the subject arises. I take the position of not "rubbing it in her face" as in pestering her for freer expression in our home. Comments from her are rare and never condescending or hostile. The latest comment had to do with both of us having too much"stuff" that our kids would have to dispose of, when we pass on. She made the comment that maybe I should start getting rid of some of my "stuff" without specifying what "stuff."

I had an interesting observation the other day. My wife is addicted to her tablet. She spends way to hours of it. She left it open on the kitchen table when she went to check on something. When passing I noticed she had it open to a Reddit cross dressing page discussing a situation where the woman's husband was picking up their child from school in drag. She had two pages open on the screen with the other just daily mundane checking emails. Now I am thinking, if she is perusing the Reddix site for cross dressing issues. is she perusing this site?