Will I give up Sherry and dressing?

[docrobbysherry]

Those of u who don't know, I began dressing out of the blue in my 50's. I had countless opportunities to try on girlfriend's and wife's clothes for 30 years. But, it just never occurred to me to do that before!:bonk:

Anyway, I'm not sure why I started dressing when I did 25+ years ago. But, suspiciously I began taking meds to reduce my prostate at about that same time. And, I was warned there mite be fem side affects.:battingeyelashes:

So, I just had a new type of operation Tuesday to shrink my prostate and if it works I can stop taking those meds.:thumbsup:

Now, I'm wondering after all my years of dressing and going out all over the world as Sherry will end?:eek:

Your opinions or advice appreciated!:)

[Debbie Denier]

I don?t think so Sherry. You love it too much.

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

Is it all about the dressing? Or is it just as much about the costumes and the stories you create?

[Jillcder]

I certainly hope not! It will be a sad day on this forum if Sherry ends her girly adventures.

[CarlaWestin]

Trying to read into it a little. I remember one gal here that got to a point that every bucket list item had been achieved so she just said bye-bye to it all.
Is it just too much trouble? Have you grown bored with it all? Personally, I look on Amazon and just see same dress, different color way too often.

[Stephanie47]

I personally believe there is some hormones or body chemistry that can bring out feminine traits that can manifest in a need to express that side of a person. I think if one has accepted that journey it is difficult to just stop. Too many cannot handle those desires or needs and live a life of turmoil and fight against it due to conflict with societal norms and expectations. I don't think once the Genie is out of the bottle, she can be stuffed back in. Enjoy.

[mykell]

sherri i think those side affects are Gynecomastia breast growth :o most of us would enjoy that side affect :battingeyelashes: so if your years of sherry do end i believe you wear a shoe size 11, certainly would have some interest with that :devil:

[docrobbysherry]

OAG, very perceptive comment! My picto stories r pretty fetishy.:o

I started out as a fetish dresser before entering my trans phase.:battingeyelashes:

Maybe I could go back to just fetish dressing?:straightface:

Thanks for reminding me, Mykell. They warned some breast growth could occur from the meds. I checked myself carefully for a year!:daydreaming:

But, still nothing there after 25 years!:sad:

[audreyinalbany]

Probably nobody knows exactly how meds will affect each individual. Maybe your dressing was brought on by the meds...ya never know. But once you stop the meds maybe you'll want to keep dressing. maybe not.Just have to wait and see

[Sandi Beech]

I know you have experienced some of the same experiences I have had. Is it not a thrill to be in a club dancing with young women a fraction of your age? I know it has been a thrill for me. So just think back to your best outings and ask yourself if you could have had such experiences in drab. For me, not in a million years. Something to think about anyhow.

Sandi

[Brynna M]

I'm sure we'd all miss reading and seeing your adventures. At the same time all of this is about what makes you comfortable and happy. If you lose the desire to be sherry and are happier that way, that's just as good as continuing to be sherry. Don't pressure yourself to be something that doesn't improve your life if you've changed. But do keep saying hi here as you would still be missed even if you gave up dressing.

[CynthiaD]

I’ve had the “roto-rooter” surgery and I still cross dress every day.

[Traci H]

Sherry I took those same meds for the prostate. All the warnings about possible breast growth. OMG, that would be terrible, wink wink. Nothing at all happened. Eventually had the laser to slice out a bit of the prostate. Slick procedure in the hands of a competent doctor. Now I can write my name in the snow again, just like when I was ten! No more meds either.

[Robyn n TN]

Sherry,
I too started dressing late in life less than 8 years ago. And like you, I don't know what caused me to start. I look back at my life and see so many things that have brought me to this point but I don't have a clue why I started. I have said many times that if I was to get into a relationship I that Robyn would go into a suitcase. But really thinking about it I am not sure that would be the case. Robyn is when I am the most at ease and I don't know that I could kill her off easily. Hopefully you can get off of the meds and I hope your decision is an easy on what to do with Sherry.

[docrobbysherry]

Thanks for that, Robyn. The way I dress, all the way or not at all, is significant. Because it requires a lot of work and planning.:sad:
But, then again? My social life is based around Sherry. I'm wondering if I COULD give her up even if I wanted to?:straightface:

Sandi, you're so rite! And, your post made me think: I just went to WonderCon and chatted and took photos with so many young women. Yes, I mite have done the same going as a male character. But, I have NO INTEREST in presenting male!:thumbsdn:

Brynna, thank u for your post. It brought tears to my eyes!:cry:

Cynthia, I've been looking at that roto rooter option for years. So, I can sleep thru the nite again. But, I was just offered ANOTHER OPTION! They blocked the blood supply to my prostate 2 days ago to shrink it! A fairly innocuous procedure. I hope it works.:)

[JoyceAnn]

Whether you give up Sherry or not, what's important is that you are happy. We all support each other. We are here for you, whichever way it plays out. Who knows, maybe the meds have nothing to do with it. Maybe the gift of desire to be girly was just a wonderful coincidence?

[alwayshave]

Sherry, You would seem to have a lot invested in your femme self. I certainly hope that you do not stop.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Sherry :hugs:, Don't Worry, It just AIN"T Gona Happen, >Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**

[docrobbysherry]

JoyceAnn, u may be rite? We'll see what happens after I quit taking them. But, I'll never know for sure!:straightface:

Jamie, u have no idea! At first, I bought all my things for near nothing at the thrifts. Guilty about spending ANYTHING on my silly "hobby"!
But, now I have all these costly silicone prosthesis and custom costumes and outfits!:eek:

Blue, words of wisdom. Us old timers have watched T's and CD's come and and go over the years. But, very few have quit dressing completely!:heehee:

[kimdl93]

Darned if I know. I do know that testosterone can contribute to prostate enlargement, so those meds presumably were testosterone antagonists. Some people experience things like breast development/tenderness as the balance of testosterone and naturally present estrogen shifts.

I also know that testosterone levels do decline as one ages. For a while I took testosterone injections, but it certainly did not deter my desire to dress. However, that was just me.

[JulieC]

Hormones are very, very powerful things. We've all heard the jokes about teenage boys walking around with nothing on their minds but one thing, entirely driven by hormones. Well, hormones keep affecting us in dramatic ways throughout our lives.

Is Sherry really only contained in a pill of hormones? Is that possible? Maybe. I doubt it, but it's possible.

[Shelly Preston]

I don't know if you would quit completely.
A lot will depend on the circumstances. Yes the reduction in meds may have an affect on your desire to dress.
However I am sure you know having been here a long time, that things can change.

Reasons for dressing can vary from a fetish or just being part of a normal day.
That is why there a lot of questions on how do I know if I am trans or not.

The main thing is to be happy whatever you decide.

[docrobbysherry]

Excellent advice, Shelly!:love:

Altho, that's NOT as easy as it sounds! I thot eating ice cream made me happy at age 6. Until I tried to eat a 1/2 gallon and got very sick!:doh:

But, every year as I grow older I learn more about what truly makes me happy!:battingeyelashes:

[April Rose]

You can't really make yourself be happy. All you can do is create the conditions that make happiness possible. Take care of your health, don't trip yourself up by drinking to much, watch your finances.

After that, just follow your path. It's obvious that that you are creative enough and brave enough. So ultimately, it doesn't really matter if that creativity is expressed through cross dressing or not.

Just don't stop posting here, because we need the entertainment!:devil:

[kayegirl]

Doc, .whatever happens, I hope that you do not change. I did worry when I had my prostrate surgery but it was total removal and has not required any further treatment./ medications after 7 years. Neither has it resulted in any decline in my dressing or need to dress, in fact if anything, I now spend more time, and money, on my femme persona.
Stay happy and keep posting your adventures.

[Sandi Beech]

If you were a stay at home dresser, I can see how a change in hormone levels might affect your desire to dress up. But like you, I have been one to go out and experience acceptance and friendship that I cannot attain in my drab life. Your routine has in part revolved around the CD lifestyle, almost like a habit or hobby which is not necessarily hormone driven. I know when I was putting my St Patrick?s day green outfit together, it was the creative part of me that was more at play than hormones. Just another thing to consider because you above most others here have your creativity in the forefront. I do not see how the creative part of you would be affected by a hormone change.

Sandi

[Karen RHT]

But, every year as I grow older I learn more about what truly makes me happy!:battingeyelashes:

Couldn't agree with you more Doc. You've experienced a lot over the years and I'm sure you'll know what's right for you as time goes on.


Karen

[docrobbysherry]

I somewhat agree with u, Sandi. Except you're forgetting one big difference between us:

U get dressed and you're Sandi. I can only dress up as Sherry at home. When I go out dressed, unless it's Halloween or private special event, I go out as an old man in a dress! Something I have ALWAYS detested!:sad:

I can only be Sherry for a few minutes while taking photos or I freak folks out!:eek:

[Sandi Beech]

Oh, I was not really thinking you rarely have a mask on when going out. But just so you know, my fav club in south Florida would be totally cool with you wearing a mask. In fact there is one crossdresser I have seen wearing a mask every time I have been there. Their dress code says, there is no dress code ; ). You might want to vacation there someday.

Sandi

[Genifer Teal]

To anyone confused, it's not hormones, it's to shrink your prostate. My doctor and I had a laugh when he told me about the side effects. I asked him if I could increase the side effects.L, o, l, he knows my situation.