I can' believe your name is John

[JohnH]

Last month I attended a funeral at my church. I wore a black dress with makeup and heels. I walked up to an elderly lady and introduced myself as John. The lady replied, "I can't believe your name is John". I replied, "If you don't believe me, I'll show you my drivers license".
I guess I did not come across as a man in a dress; rather, I came across as a woman.

John

[JesseVF]

Very nice for you John that must feel great. I recently joined a welcoming church - present and introduce myself as Jesse. Not fooling anyone but everyone I?ve met so far is very nice.

[Jasmine23]

Hi John,
It sounds like you pass as female, do you present full time as female and if so is there any particular reason you don't use a female name. For me personally taking a female name makes me feel more feminine, even though my real name is unisex and more commonly given to girls than boys, I still perfer using a different feminine name. If I ever did transition I'd probably just stick with my real life name as from a practical and legal point of view it would make things more straightforward

[JohnH]

Yes, I present full time as female except for my bass voice. The reason I use my real masculine name and not a feminine name is I would REALLY like men to broaden their clothing choices. In particular, men by convention are restricted to coats, ties, and trousers for formal wear. I rebel against that by going full bore with wearing dresses, and for formal occasions, makeup, heels, and hoop earrings.

John

[Traci H]

John, I give you credit for your willingness to put yourself out there to push for more options in men?s clothing. I often think, yes I would love to put on a pretty dress. I?m a big chicken, especially with my wife?s disapproval. Keep up the fight!

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi John :hugs: That was a very interesting incounter,

[Debbie Denier]

Hats off to you John.You live your life on your terms.

[bridget thronton]

I admire the way you choose to live

[JohnH]

Another reason I dress en femme is I'm sick and tired of seeing so many women wearing trousers to church, especially wearing jeans and sneakers. One chilly morning (-7 deg C/15 deg F) in 2024 February, I was sitting at a table during Coffee Hour after the service, wearing a dress along with trouser wearing women, and said, "Sometimes it takes a man to wear a dress." ��

John

[jjjjohanne]

Something that I have never done is to go to a wedding or funeral while crossdressed. I think that would be a sign that I have really come to terms with my crossdressing to be able to go to one for someone I actually know.

[JohnH]

I have several V neck wrap dresses appropriate for a wedding guest but I have not attended a wedding en femme yet.

john