Where do you find the time?

[Bianca Star]

I've been trying to dress for weeks now but I just can't seem to find the time. I work from home but I'm constantly working on projects, video calls, and heading out to run errands. Weekends are no better but for very different reasons. That's social time. time for me and my wife or for me to hang out with the fellas. where does one find the time? It's just me venting a frustration. Do anyone else have this issue at all?

[Kris Burton]

It's an ongoing issue for those of us who are part time . I try incorporate CD into my daily activities, perhaps run some of those errands or grocery shop en femme. I often get up early to dress, perhaps going out for a walk or bike ride en femme in the early morning hours. I also try to schedule some time with CD friends for outings and be sure to attend the larger CD/TG gatherings like Keystone or Diva Las Vegas which you can prioritize.

[JocelynJames]

I struggled with this for the longest time therefore restricting dressing to weekends only. Then about a month and a half ago I went to a cd/TG get together. I was already in the pink fog, but since that gathering, I?ve dressed every night after all was done, just no makeup , and sometimes no wig as well. I still enjoy the full 9 yards, but needed more. Sometimes you have to make concessions. I?ve been so happy

[Michaela Jane]

I have adapted my dressing to fit in every day. Today is a good example, I am picking up my daughter later, so I have to be in Dad mode. Then we are meeting a former neighbour in town for lunch. He is a manly man, ex truck driver and all that motor cycle stuff. I have to be in man mode for that. So, today I will be wearing bikini panties, sports bra, womens Dickies socks, womens boot cut jeans and a unisex teeshirt. I will have womens New Balance sneakers on my feet. I'll just leave my forms and wig at home. It works for me to feel femme, but look like I am expected to.

[CarlaWestin]

Well Bianca, just set aside a time for it. Like you would a vacation. My ongoing issue is DADT and nowhere to go at 6:00am.

[Raychel]

I have lived thru that portion of my life,
Retired now, and divorced.
Now every morning I get time for me, until I get ready to do whatever
I will do for the day. But Coffee and Raychel time come first every day
at least everyday when I am home. :heehee:

[Stephanie47]

I retired before my wife, so for many years it was great. She worked full days several days a week. She is a non-driver, so I dropped her off and picked her up from work. No surprise "Honey, I'm home!" I would spend the day doing domestic chores and relaxing en femme. In the fall she would visit our daughter and a cousin who lived in another state. Then it was 24/7 for seven to ten days. Then she fully retired. Then our daughter and her family relocated back home. At best my wife will stay over at our daughter's abode to play grandma. That is a rare occurrence. My wife and I sleep apart for health and comfort reasons. That enables me to sleep in a bra and panty with a full slip and/or nightgown. She is a late riser so I can bang away on the computer for several hours in my sleeping attire or change into a dress. However, that is not the same as spending a full day en femme and accomplishing numerous domestic chores. Needless to say, I envy those who have a supportive and full engaged wife.

[docrobbysherry]

What do u do evenings and nites that u can't dress, Bianca? Unless you're a TV sports nut or soap opera addict I don't get it?:eek:

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

I have a few hours most every morning to dress as trampy as I like :) Then during the day depends on where I am, most days working in the yard or on the house I can wear whatever's practical, whether skirt or shorts or leggings, whatever top is right for the temp. Evenings is usually shorts or skirt and a cami, or sometimes a thong and a cami. MIL doesn't know what I'm wearing and my lovely wife doesn't care. If I have to go to work, of course, the rules change. That'll be tomorrow. :(

[kimmy p]

I hear and understand you. It isn't more than half a dozen times a year that Kimmy comes out fully. It takes me about 90 minutes to fully sgave, shower, paint and pad. And I need help with my eye makeup... my vision causes me poke myself in the eye way to easily.

[Christina89]

For right now, due to an extended not so fun medical leave from my job I?m mostly finding my free time to even dress is around this time, mostly due to part time doing DoorDash until 8pm. And it?s mostly for a bit while I play a game or two. When I?m working my normal job and schedule it?s mostly after work around 430pm and on weekends after errands are done.

[Genifer Teal]

It's all Gen time, even for the mundane activities. It took a while to get comfortable with a casual look. I embraced the challenge. Now it's easy. Finding the least amount of necessary makeup and being comfortable with it was the hardest part.

[Natalie5004]

Gen, Good girl. I love it.

I find the time because my wife is still working and I work from home. So, I can dress at least 8 hours every day if I want.

Today I dressed cute.

[Petra1]

I struggle with this, as well. The only time I seem to get anymore is if I wake up early on the weekend. And then it's only 2-3 hours before the wife awakens.

[Mercedes]

Yes, time alone in my home is unpredictable making a significant time allocation for Mercedes a rare occurrence unfortunately. A wife and two adult children in the house means little precious Mercedes time.

[SophiaRose]

Does your wife know about your need to dress? If so, perhaps an agreement for one morning or evening a week to yourself? I find myself in that second honeymoon phase where the kids are out of the house, both my wife and I work, and she is very busy. She knows that I like to spend Saturday mornings dressing head to toe while she's out exercising and being social. It can be inconvenient when she tries to explain why I don't also go and workout with her or want to meet up with her/our friends.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Bianca :hugs:, You just have to get your prioritys in order, >Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**

[Andrea Renea]

Most times I go out as Andrea in the mornings Monday thru Friday.

I do my grocery shopping and other errands.

No issue since I've been retired since 2020 so
I have plenty of time now.

I get treated great by pretty much everyone
They all address me as ma'am or miss.

[JohnH]

Oh, I can find the time to "dress". But for me, that's all the time. I no longer have a "boy" mode, as the last time I wore trousers was late September of 2024 to attend my mother's funeral. I always go by my name of John and I talk with my masculine bass voice.

[alwayshave]

Bianca, I have to schedule time. I can't dress at home due to an adult child living with us. So, it is off to a hotel for an evening out as Jamie.

[Stacy Darling]

I'm going to be straight with you Darling. If you are CD and Girly like the rest of us. YOU NEED TIME, you need time to frock up , have personal girl time etc..

I nearly? when I didn't have my Girl time. Now have my Girl time back and am quite happy!

Just saying! xx

[Heather76]

Regarding my time for dressing, I'm fortunate that I have always been pretty much of a loner. Yes, I certainly have friends, but my social life is quite limited. I dress every night after dinner as my wife and I very rarely are with others in the evenings. I dress a lot during the day, but being retired allows me that luxury. In your case, I'd figure out a day, or days, when you aren't with others in the evenings and be sure to dress those times - assuming your wife is okay with that. BTW, even sleeping in panties, a nightie, and a bra and forms can help satisfy your need to CD.

[Jessica Secret]

For me it's simple, every night at bedtime (romantic lingerie). I'm very lucky to have an accepting and supportive boyfriend.

[Lacey New]

With both of us being retired, I might get a few hours in a week when she decides to go run errands. If I?m lucky.

[Deborah G]

This is my problem currently; still working and too many other activities to fill-up my time. I know how I get when when Deborah doesn't get her time; as such, I whittle away some moments here and there, as best I can.

[valerie anne]

My regime requires several hours per day. Ask Karren!

[luuv2dress]

I've dealt with this many times, I learned to just take a day off now and then.

[Judy-Somthing]

I had a Girl-Cave in an apartment building for years that my wife and I owned.
Two years ago she wanted to sell it, I said "I think we should keep it".
Well we sold it. I lost my Girl-Cave and purged 200 dresses.
I haven't been able to dress in two years. ARRRRRRRRRRRR!!!
She watches me like a hawk!

[JulieC]

Bianca Star, it absolutely is an issue and I can relate.

I have a very supportive wife, but up until about 1.5 years ago, I struggled to find any time to dress at all. Kids (who don't know and whom I don't want to know) at home. I took advantage of the very few days when they were both away even if for a few hours. But, that was quite frustrating because too often plans would change, be cancelled, or I'd have to do something during that time that would prevent getting dressed. I took to dressing and driving as a relief valve of sorts; I'd take my 'jump bag' (a smallish bag with a change of femme clothes, heels, etc.), and change somewhere away from home. Sometimes this would be on the way to an appointment I sometimes have just over an hour away. Sometimes it was just to drive. It was something.

1.5 years ago, my wife and I started sleeping apart. There's nothing wrong with our marriage. I just have serious sleep issues at times, and find it very difficult to get healthy sleep. She will get up 1 or 2 times during the night, which if it wakes me means I'm done sleeping for the night. She can go right back to sleep. Not me. So, I sleep in a separate room now, a room that I can lock. Since I started doing this, I sleep en femme every night. I occasionally get an hour, sometimes more, in the morning to change into femme day clothes before having to change into male/dad mode and begin the day. This has made a lot of difference. I no longer feel disconnected from my crossdressing, and feel much more at ease about it, much more like I'm embracing it being a part of me. Before, it was always hammered into a chest, and not allowed out except on the odd occasion. Now it's me.