Accidental text to my wife

[april1978]

Ive been using ChatGPT asking it questions about transgender and things of that nature anything really, Anyway, I accidentally texted my wife a question. I wanted to ask ChatGPT. This was meant for ChatGPT.

my wife knows I crossdress. But not that Im into guys. I really would like an open swinger style marriage. Im not sure how to ask her.

We talked a little on the phone afterwards. She wasn't angry. She said I love you. I just don't know where I go from here.

[kimdl93]

Eh, a word of caution. Lots of things seem appealing in the abstract, but are potentially destructive in practice. Open, swinger lifestyles are in that category. Open relationships rarely endure. Be wise and leave these things in the realm of fantasy.

[april1978]

We?ve done a little swinging many years ago that not exactly a big deal. It?s the fact that I told her I?m into guys.

[docrobbysherry]

You're still quite young, April. If u don't talk things over with your wife u may be tempted to sneak around behind her back. Nothing good will come of that! You may be better off separated.:doh:

Think back to how u two discussed swinging for the 1st time and maybe try that?:straightface:

[CarlaWestin]

Lots of things seem appealing in the abstract, but are potentially destructive in practice.

This could not have been said any better!

[JulieC]

I don't want to disagree with anyone, but I do want to push back on the idea that open relationships do not endure. Such relationships aren't for everyone, in fact I'd say it's not for most relationships. Can they increase stress on the relationship? Sure. They can also increase closeness, increase happiness, and increase life fulfillment.

[Genifer Teal]

People's feelings about things change overtime. Maybe swinging was okay at 1 time. Maybe it's not now, maybe it still is, it would be good to ask. Then there's the part about guys. Do you know that you like it? Have you experienced it?Do you just want to find out if you like it? Maybe you think you might like it, but you don't know yet. If you're not sure, make sure she knows you're not sure it's just something you're curious about. I hope you figure it out for yourself. So you can have the right conversation with her.

[Shelly Preston]

I think the problem is, what do you say when she asks if you plan to act on this information she just learned.

If you don't plan on acting on these feelings tell her.

However if you lie it will only make things worse.