I almost outed myself

[Marketa]

Few weeks ago I had to move out from my old apartment and by coincidence a colleague's husband was looking for a new tenant, so I'm now renting his apartment, which has windows heading almost directly to the South.

Summer started here finally with temperatures reaching 30C/86F during weekend and today the colleague asked me at work how I handled the heat during the weekend. It almost slipped my tongue, that in summer mini-dress it's totally fine.

I have to be more careful.

[Patience]

If you work in a place where being out about crossdressing would be frowned upon, yes. It's annoying to have to be secretive.

Those of us who work in more open environments (myself included) know what a boon it is to not have to lie. For others, it's the closet, I'm afraid.

[kimdl93]

lol, its the kind of answer that might have been mistaken for a joke.

Will your colleague?s husband now be your landlord?

[alwayshave]

Marketa, I am assuming you live someplace where air-conditioning is not common. I as well have almost spilled the beans.

[Philippa Jane]

Not quite the same thing for me but a standard answer for me when asked if I have children.
As a male I would answer " none that I know of"
Using that in a bunch of ladies who may not have picked up on my being TS is certainly outing myself.
It is easily done when we feel comfortable.

[JesseVF]

My tennis group is mixed gender so sometimes I?m playing with three women. Invariably at some point during a break they will start talking about shopping, clothing, makeup nails etc? I have to remind myself to look disinterested, and eventually they say sorry for the girl talk - if only they knew I would love to join in.

[Philippa Jane]

Jesse VF.
Just soak it up. lol.

[Rhonda Darling]

Jesse. Assuming you are single, just join in. Tell them that you believe that that kind of knowledge will help you when dating.

[chrissy111]

Marketa I would have agreed with you, but most guys would laugh it off as a joke.

[JesseVF]

That?s a great idea Rhonda - it would be fun and informative - not single though.
Philippa - yes I do enjoy just listening in.

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

I've often made comments that are more true than people think but play them off as jokes. "I can't wait to get home and take my bra off!" my reponse "Me too!" And so on. (Don't use that one if you're actually wearing one, because she just might check!)

[Traci H]

I like Average guys comment. Being a jokester myself, I would tend to say something outrageous, but on subject like I just love lace on my panties or maybe underwire bras really give me that lift I like. Things that any guy could pickup with from advertising, etc. It would be fun to play along being careful to not go too far and get caught. Perhaps dangerous game.

[Mercedes]

Some of us have been having these encounters and thoughts for years, cough cough decades, and you are still relatively new, so the comfort level of how to react will come.

[SophiaRose]

Unless the comment is really obvious that your into this sort of thing I bet others barely even notice or suspect anything. Most of the fear is probably in our own heads. Why not have some fun with it and show a little bit of your true personality? Your true friends or accepting acquaintances will love you for it!

[Marketa]

@kimdl93 yes, her husband is my landlord now.

And I'm 100% sure she would start laughing and we would play it as a joke, but at that moment all I felt was panic. When I calmed down I realized all would be perfectly fine.

[kimdl93]

I am curious how often your new landlord may show up in the vicinity. Hope that does not curtail your opportunities to be out and about.

[Marketa]

He shouldn't show up at all. Heat and all things that need to be billed every year he can see via an app and he doesn't have to visit. Also I think it's by a law, that except an emergency he has to let me know at least 24hrs prior, that he'll visit.
So my dressing and outing shouldn't be affected at all. Besides my apartment is set up in a way that I put just some of my shoes in a luggage and everything else is in wardrobes and those are mine, so he shouldn't open them unless there's a legal reason.

[JulieC]

I once had an apartment that had a 24 hour notice requirement for the landlord to enter the property. I liked the landlord; he was really great. Except once. One night, I'm going to bed, I've got a few crossdressing things that had been sitting out for a few days, not yet put away in the closet. As I'm laying in bed, I realize there's a flashlight on my nightstand that doesn't belong to me. I called the landlord out on it, and he deeply apologized. It was a service tech that had come in, not my landlord himself, so he didn't see my things sitting out. Still...

[cd300]

Dang girl close call. Watch that tongue lol

[Natalie5004]

Being a wise guy myself, I usually do what I say is "Get Behind it". Meaning go with it to the absurd. So, if anyone makes a comment to me that could be considered too intrusive like clothes or my looks I tell them it is all so I look great in a mini skirt.