Are you there yet?

[jacques]

Hello all,
Cross-dressing is often described as a journey - so have you arrived at your happy place yet?
Luv J

[docrobbysherry]

To me CDing is a lot like life. Change is happening all around u and in u all the time. Even if u don't realise it.:battingeyelashes:

Look back at your life if u don't believe me? When u reach my age, 82, you'll have LOTS to look back at. Or, else suffer the frustration of knowing u should have done things differently!:sad:

Remember, u have the power to turn your life around every hour you're above ground!:heehee:

[Steph_CD_62]

I feel that I am mostly to my happy place, just not all the way yet.

I have a supportive wife; I can dress openly in front of her with no worries. Even though she supports me, I know she would happy if I quit. We have come to a compromise, since she married a man, she wants me dressed as a man at least half the time. She doesn't have a problem with me wearing panties every day, but other than that I only dress 3 days a week.

About the only thing I would like to accomplish is being able to dress more freely in public. I wouldn't want to do it near where I live, because I don't want anything to affect my wife, kids and grandkids. But it would be nice to go out in public fully dressed as a woman, I don't get the desire to do this very often, but when I get the urge, I wish I could.

[Cheryl T]

No, I'm not there yet and I hope the journey never ends.
It's full of wonder, learning and experimenting and I enjoy every leg of the trip.

[Mercedes]

It has been an over 40 year journey and it final feels like I am just getting started. My spouse is more comfortable seeing my dressed (no make up or wig) and I do get more opportunities to steal away Mercedes time. I have finally been out to a club dressed and shopping is becoming a regular occurance, albeit in drab.

Still a long way to go but loving the journey I am on.

[JohnH]

Count me on "being there". The last time I wore pants (trousers) was to my mother's funeral in late September of 2024.

John

[Kris Burton]

Am I "there"? Not at all. Just started to CD actively about four years ago... still feel very much like a beginner.
But have I "arrived" at my happy place? Absolutely! At 73, it's great to be involved in something new, embracing the lure of untried paths.

[JocelynJames]

I think I am somewhere, but not sure if it?s ?there?
I?m pretty much in the same boat as Steph, and I did try to wear all femme stuff last week while vacationing in Bar Harbor , Maine, but I chickened out on some of the tops. Partly because the B&B we stayed at, the couple made us feel like family and it was the best place we stayed. We?d like to go back, and I wouldn?t want to jeopardize that. Although, they do seem to be open minded, but you never know. So it was women?s bottoms(shorts and jeans ) all week and tops that some were ok while others definitely femme but worn under a CK plush hoodie. I have another week off coming up so we?ll see where this goes. My female clothes outnumber male at this point.

[Monique65]

Yes, I am content to wear panties and gowns around the house with my wife’s acceptance. I have no desire to go further with make up or wigs or go out.

[Jillcder]

For over fifty years I have had the desire to wear womens clothing the peak of my Crossdressing was 8 years ago when I was traveling on business dressing very regularly in public but now since retiring my opportunities have dwindled. So NO Im not there yet but if and when I share this with my wife hopefully I can say yes the journey is complete. Great question.

[SophiaRose]

Not even close. Since coming out to my wife recently this journey is really just beginning. Ironically, her therapist is encouraging her to encourage me to explore this further. She really wants to know if I want to transition and live as a woman. My head has been spinning trying to figure out where this journey is headed.

[CarlaWestin]

I never bought into the journey analogy. To me, it's just another facet of life. Just part of my existence and experience.
Personally, I'm thankful that my early curiosity wasn't just shoved on the trans train on its way to the chop shop.

[Stephanie47]

No, not anywhere close! For those of us in a "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" relationship there is usually minimal time for self-expression.

[audreyinalbany]

getting closer

[Fiona_44]

Pretty much, I live full time as a woman.

[Raychel]

Yes. I am totally at my happy place. There are days when I completely enjoy my Raychel time. But it is not all consuming of my life. I can leave Raychel in the closet if needed and enjoy life as Ray. Sure I prefer Raychel to be around. But I can live without as well.

[SaraLin]

Sadly, I've accepted that I'll never get there. My male body prevents my ever reaching that goal.

Still - I've reached a "nice stopover" along the way. It's not where I really want to be, but it's pleasant here and the need to move on is manageable.

Even though I'm mostly limited to panties and (plain!) nighties, I spend more time dressed this way than I do in man things.
While I know my wife would rather see it all go away, she's accepted this much as just my "comfy clothes" and doesn't pay much attention to them.
But God forbid that anyone else find out! If there's even a chance someone might stop by, I've got to go change back to male mode.
Honestly, I suspect that she sometimes uses this excuse to get me to change - rather than just say it's bothering her and ask me to put on man things.
Oh well, that's life I guess.

[kimdl93]

Reminds me of the old expression: If you keep going in that direction, you’re going to wind up where you’re headed.

[alwayshave]

I am headed in the right direction, but haven't reached my happy place yet.

[CynthiaD]

Just about. Since I got home from the hospital I’ve been 100% en femme 24/7. Actually, I was 100% en femme most of the time I was in the hospital. My goal is no more male clothing ever. I still have a few boy things to do, but once those are cleared up, it’s goodby uncle Charley and hello aunt Jane.

[NancySue]

Yes, I?ve arrived. It?s totally kudos to my wonderful, accepting wife. It?s definitely a journey. After retirement, she could sense my desire to dress more. Prior, I pretty much dressed underneath. One night, after dinner, out of the blue, she, almost casually said why don?t you dress more? It?s OK with me. That started it and it?s fantastic. The freedom and comfort is so liberating. She doesn?t understand and occasionally teases me about hose, underwires and heels. We go out, but do fear police, an accident, recognition, small town yipes.

[April Rose]

Not even really sure what that means. I feel like in the right frame of mind to appreciate the things I have been given. I have a wife who is enthusiastically supportive; a beautiful soul who has experienced a lot of life and the challenges that it can present us.

I can dress any way I want at home, but I still have a long life of relationships in the wider world, and that wider world seems to be changing in far less than ideal ways. I'm not sure I will ever be 100% content with being an anomalously gendered person in the time I have remaining.

[Jane G]

Life is a journey. Happiness, Unhappiness happens along the way. I've been fortunate to be on the happy side of life for the past several years. Crossdressing and all.

[bridget thronton]

Life is a journey for me not a destination - I have an accepting wife so pretty good for now

[BLUE ORCHID]

I have been there for 78 of my 82 Years now,

[Heather76]

I am probably 98% there. One thing I would like to advance in is full makeup and wig in front of my wife on a regular basis at home. She prefers I don't go that route, so I don't. The other thing I would simply love is for my wife and I to have a girlfriend's weekend out of town. What those 2 things would do is show me my wife has gone from tolerating my CDing to full acceptance.

So, I am in my happy place, but I know there is a happier place out there that I will probably never see.

[sometimes_miss]

Content is a better description, rather than happy, for me. Basically, making the best of the situations I wind up in.

[2B Natasha]

Yes. As much as anyone can be happy. Supporting wife, accepting job, accepting friends. So yea. At this point the only thing holding me back from doing the things I want to do are my bank account and my own self acceptance. Took a looooonnnnggg time to get here and it's sometimes a great struggle with self worth. I'm mostly winning the war even if I lose some battles.

[jacques]

hello all,
many thanks for sharing. I enjoyed reading your replies.
I think I am in my happy place - a man in a dress with an accepting wife and often wearing unisex clothing or underdressing in public.
luv J

[Kelli_cd]

I'm content where I am.

[Phoebe Reece]

Yes. I am there. I have crossed off 99% of my bucket list items. If I never get to do those few that remain, it's not important. Life has been good to me.

[Karren H]

Think I missed getting off at that station a few miles back and it’s getting too late to turn this train around or to hop on another train heading back that way. But it has been one heck of a trip so far with no regrets at all.