Slowly getting courage

[susancheerleader]

It has been a long time since I posted anything. But I am still arround dressing in my house afrraid to go out.
So now that it is warmer outside. I find myself litterly shaking to go out.
I can't do it all at once so I have been wearing a small item at a time. I think it would be way too much for me to go out wearing a skirt, but I desided a leotard will do for now. So I wear one with my "normal" clothes, under a t-shirt.
I have been to stores and doing errands with my long leave leotard under a t-shirt. Not a single word from anyone, and if anyone was looking at me funny, I didn't notice and I made an effort to look arround for it.
Last night I only wore the leotard with shorts. No shirt. I went to the store, and I got a couple of looks but nothing real negitive and no one said anything. At the cashier counter, the girl struck a conversation with me like nothing. Never said anything or looked at me weard.
It isn't a skirt in public, but for me the leotard is a step.

[BonnieJG]

I feel the same way , still arround dressing in my house afrraid to go out.
I have wear a bra under my "normal" clothes, under a t-shirt and gone outside but thats all . One Day I would like to get all dress up and go out .

well keep on working on it one step at a time and my be one day you will be going .

[Billijo49504]

Susan, now try a pair of womens slacks, along with your leoatard. Were they womens shorts? QWomens tennis shoes would go with your outfit. Good luck and have fun...BJ:thumbsup:

[steffie39]

Hi Susan,

Each Cder has a different comfort level at starting out; it's whatever is comfortable to that person. Your leotard under your tee shirt sounded fine. I know about 7 months ago I was itching to get out but never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd come as far as I did in the 7 months that followed but none of it was really planned: I just went by how comfortable I felt as each day progressed. It sounds as if you're doing the same and that's good. Congratulations!

Steffie

[susancheerleader]

Yea it's baby steps. I was very uncomfortable about it all when I first started dressing last May. I wouldn't even wear anything at all, even under my "street" clothes. Now I am always wearing panties... almost all the time and hardly wear mens underwear at all.
Sometimes I will wear stockings under my clothes, with no socks so they show "a little." Very small steps but with each one, and not getting any negitive results, I get courage to try a little more.
I was really thrilled about my leotard idea and how it worked.

[JoAnnDallas]

Try this one day.

Panties,
Pantyhose
Bra - non padded
ladies slacks - the ones with no back pockets
ladies T-Shirt
ladies running shoes - no socks.

I have been out wearing this and not a problem at all.
Your dressed en femm. but at the same time you still look Masculine.


JoAnn

[Lawren]

My personal "comfort level" about going out is very low but I almost always wear panties and a cami under my drab clothes. The only exceptions are doctor's appointments and when I am I am doing something that might get me injured; i. e. work, sports et. I used to get totally dressed and go out but I live in a very conservative area and could never get comfortable about it so I don't do it any more.

But that's just me. You do whatever you are comfy with and enjoy what you do.

[susancheerleader]

Thanks everyone for the ideas.
My comfort level is very low too.
I am ever so slowly working my way out of the closet, as safe as I can be. As I posted, with each endeavor that has no negative effects, I get courage to try more.
I have to admit. When it came to the leotard, I am VERY surprised that I never got a look or a snicker. At least none that I was able to see or here and believe me, I had my eyes and ears wide open. If comments were made or looks given AFTER I left, who the F*** cares.

[GypsyKaren]

You know Susan, there's no law in the Tranny Rulebook that says one has to go out dressed. There is absolutely nothing wrong with never doing it, and it doesn't make you less of a person to those of us who do go out. The important thing is what you're comfortable with and what makes you happy, so please don't feel pressured to do something you're not ready for.

Karen

[Tina Dixon]

It's tuff and scary to go out but exciting also but do what your comfy with.

[Kristen Kelly]

You know Susan, there's no law in the Tranny Rulebook that says one has to go out dressed. There is absolutely nothing wrong with never doing it, and it doesn't make you less of a person to those of us who do go out. The important thing is what you're comfortable with and what makes you happy, so please don't feel pressured to do something you're not ready for.

Karen

I need a copy of that rule book because I think I've broken a few along the way.
I wear womens low rise boot cut jeans all the time I like the way they look. When total dressed enfem wear embroidered jeans nice top boots or sneaker to blend in with the other GG at the mall or casual hangouts. Nothing makes you get noticed more than a 6 foot tall large boned woman in a short skirt, 5 in heels, flashy top and too much make-up.

[susancheerleader]

You know Susan, there's no law in the Tranny Rulebook that says one has to go out dressed. There is absolutely nothing wrong with never doing it, and it doesn't make you less of a person to those of us who do go out. The important thing is what you're comfortable with and what makes you happy, so please don't feel pressured to do something you're not ready for.

Karen

I never said I don't want to go out dressed. I would LOVE to go out 100% fem, but at this point I am not comfortable with that. So I am taking small steps until I am comfortable. What I feel good with "comming out" is different then yours. But it is a step. And as we all know "You need to learn to walk before you can run."

[Joy Carter]

Everyone I have talked with that has gone out sead it's so much fun but what was it like to get to the fun stage. I'd sweat my self to death I know !

[Kristen Kelly]

Everyone I have talked with that has gone out sead it's so much fun but what was it like to get to the fun stage. I'd sweat my self to death I know !

I've been there as I began to dress to blend http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showpost.php?p=410284&postcount=11 my confidence level increased that I had forgotten I was dressed and almost walked into the men's restroom at the mall. Now its fun to go out Yes I still get read at times and I've even been asked, "Are you a man", to which I replied, "Yes but thank you that you had to ask"

[BrookeMckayla]

Hey Susan, you should be proud of yourself! Your taking bigger baby steps than I am. Way to have the courage!!

I went out last weekend for the first time. Oh yeah, I drive all the way to the store and back . . .without getting out of the car. lol.

I know it sounds trite, but it was really cool. The moment I went for the front door I realized, hey I've never done this before. I've never even stepped outside for a second. It felt weird doing it because I had never done it before.

But, it felt SOOOOOOOOOOOO good, as I'm sure you know. I started to feel like a real girl. I can't wait to take the next baby step.