Cant Dress unless I go out !!!!

[Debs]

I've reached a point where I cannot be bothered to dress unless I'm going out. I cant be bothered putting full makeup on and all my Jewelery an amazing dress just to sit on the Couch (Settee) just to watch Telly (television). It just does nothing for me. But (never start a sentence with a but) if I'me going out it sparks me into absolute life !!, And dont say well dont put makeup on, well in that case I just feel like a man in a dress and its not me. When I'm fully dressed and look in the mirror I see a woman. I want to go out !!!!! when dressed !!! Rant over, sorry

PS non of my photos in the section has ever been altered in anyway

Debs

[Sandi Beech]

Haha Debs,

You know I get what you are saying as much as anyone. I mean the effort I have gone to is considerable. If my nails were not already painted, add that to the time to get ready and it can be 2 to 4 hours. Lots of planning is needed.

I mentioned this some time ago, but I was at a club in Mississippi and I walked up to a group of young women on the dance floor who were all dressed to the nines. I said I just wanted to let them know I noticed how well they were dressed. They were very appreciative because they wanted to be seen and feel pretty. We had a good laugh about how long it took us all to get dressed up.

So yea. It?s one of those things you get hooked on ; )

Sandi

[Charlotte Sparkle]

It’s fine to rant Debs.

I tried the ‘just sitting at home female clothes and no makeup or wig’ routine but it didn’t work. Like you I just felt like a man in women’s clothing. I have often thought about venturing out of the safety of my own home fully femme but I’m not brave enough yet.

[DianeT]

I'm thrilled to do my thing at home and don't mind the hassle of going full tra-la-la. And when it's only the clothes and not the full hou-la-la I am enjoying myself too. Like the immortal Sid from the second movie would say : "You complete each other".

[Mercedes]

I hear you Deb but cannot relate. My situation is that I have only been out once, and my spouse will accept me wearing clothes with no makeup/wig so I have to take what I can get. I do long for more but the ability to be dressed in a skirt, blouse with panties, a bra and hose in the house thankfully still does fulfill something for me.

[alwayshave]

Debs, Other than wearing a nightgown to bed, I fully agree.

[DanielleDubois]

Very interesting the two extremes on this topic. The one group who find presenting as female in public being rewarding , validating, and a huge part of their crossdressing experience versus the group I am in who are totally satisfied getting totally girled up with makeup and everything and relaxing in the confines of their home. In fact, I rarely do a partial dressup and don't feel complete if I haven't done details like my toe and fingernails.

One of the great things about this forum is overall the members have respect for what crossdressing personally means to each of us in our lives and don't try to impose their viewpoint on others.

[Debs]

Sorry, you peeps are right, I want to look like a woman 100%, , some of you dont , just like wearing girls clothes, suppose thats why we are here chatting. and call it Crossdressing

[docrobbysherry]

Debs, I wonder when my compulsion to dress any way I could stopped, and when I began purpose driven dressing only? Maybe 10 or so years ago?:straightface:

Now, except for when I'm trying on outfits at home, I only dress to the 9's for photo shoots or outings.:battingeyelashes:

It just occurred to me. I don't consider trying on things as dressing anymore!:eek:

[Helen_Highwater]

I'm at the other end of the spectrum. Being in a DADT situation, one which allows me time to go partly femme, pf as it appears in my diary, I'm happy to simply put on "basic" clothing and spend time doing things around the house.

For those who don't know, my SO due to health issues, spends time in bed each morning doing puzzles and knitting. When I get up, separate rooms, I put on br, knickers, skirt and tee, forms too and make my way downstairs. I tidy the kitchen, make my SO breakfast in bed, loose the forms and cover up, take her tray up, then it's back downstairs to uncover and have my breakfast followed by time on my table part of which is time here with you lovely girls. It can them be a case of cover up/uncover as time progresses.

I view that routine as being typical of so many GG's. Get up, dress simply, no makeup until it's time to go out and I'm comfortable with that. And if I don't look in the mirror then I can feel femme even if I'm not fully enfemme.

Dressing, I guess for me, is an expression of my inner self. If circumstances allowed I could spend pretty much spend the vast majority of my time dressed, engaging in outandaboutery, expressing my true self. As that's not the case then I've become comfortable in doing whatever I can to work towards that position.

So, as I type this I'm dressed as described above. It feels natural, comfortable, I'm in a little happy place, content with my lot. At a guess I'd say that for someone in a DADT relationship I get to go "pf" 85%+ days for the year. I'm pretty sure there's a good many who'd like to be in my position.

I'd rather be as I am than be in the position of only dressing a handful of times a year when I'd have the opportunity to put makeup on with the added tension of knowing it'd have to come off only hours later.

I've learned for find that inner calm. Trust me, if you can find it too you'll open up so many opportunities.

[Genifer Teal]

This is me exactly although it has changed a little bit more recently I'll explain. I was never one to get dressed to just hang around the house. Unless I was trying on an outfit to see if it fit, I wasn't trying it on to wear it around the house for hours on end. If I got dressed I was going somewhere and I pretty much always was going somewhere so that didn't mean I was avoiding getting dressed.

I used to say, what's the point if no one's going to see me. I'm not an exhibitionist. I like to get compliment, so if i'm not gonna go out if no one's going to see me and hopefully compliment me or i'm just going to interact and have a fun time I don't see a point in getting dressed.

When I needed practice, I had to find lots of little events to go to like even just a group night where maybe it was a support group or whatever, just to give me extra excuses to get ready. That carried me for a long time. As my thoughts progressed potentially transitioning. I don't know where that would ever go, but regardless, I started to consider the more mundane activities like shopping, and stuff around the house as dressing up opportunities, which led to dressing most of the time even around the house. Did I really want to have boobs all the time? Kind of like the real life test that used to be a thing years ago if you were transitioning.

So now I'm pretty much always dressed except for work. (I'm not a working girl.) I guess I do dress around the house now. But I don't see it the same way I used to. And the makeup thing, well without the beard, the plucked eyebrows, my natural hair being long, there's not a heck of a lot of boy left so I don't get that feeling, but I do understand.

[kimdl93]

Living alone, I understand the feeling. Conversely, getting dressed motivates me to go out more often than I might if I was in male mode.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Debs :hugs:, I am the other Direction As I never go out dressed,

I just dress to look like a lovely and enjoy my time Dressed, >Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**

[Gail_veiled]

Debs, I can?t really relate since I don?t go out dressed but I have found I need a minimum threshold to feel good. In casual mode like sitting around watching TV, being in a wig, lipstick, earrings, breast forms, and some sort of hip padding makes me feel pretty feminine even without full on makeup and attire. I guess for me body shape is just as important as clothing and makeup.

I can totally see how you feel though in needing a reason to go through the effort and wanting to feel 100% a woman when you do. Maybe in time I will feel like you do if I ever open myself to public expression.

Gail

[Stephanie47]

Due to the fact that I am six foot even and 200 pounds with a masculine face I look like a "man in a dress" with or without makeup and a wig. I am not one who frequently ventures out. When I do it's evening drives and strolls and in the distant past, Halloween. I can appreciate the impulse for full makeup and nails but, for me, I found it time consuming to apply and remove. When I have the opportunity to be en femme for a full day or longer I want to accomplish whatever needs to be done around our home. I only wear dresses, heels and hosiery and all the proper undergarments. Yep, there must be a wig. But as to the makeup, it's lip coloring which does leave the markings of my lips on my coffee mug and there is some scent. Rather than sitting around and watching soap operas, it's baking and meal preparation, laundry, ironing, changing bed linens, vacuuming; basically domestic chores. I can understand the internal drive to get out of the house, but, even in male mode I do not get out just to roam around.

As "alwaysshave" said (#6) sometimes a lone garment fulfills a void when one cannot fully express themselves. As my wife and I sleep apart and she is a late riser (Thank God!) I sleep in a nightgown, bra and panty with many times also a slip. It may not be much for some, but for one in a DADT that may suffice.

[CDSophie62]

Hi Debs,

I share the feeling of not entirely wanting to dress up unless I'm going out or have some other objective.

If I haven't got an outing planned, what I will often do is plan a Photo session where I get made up & try on 3-4 different outfits along
with various accessories including different shoes , coats or deciding which of my 2 wigs suits which outfit best .

I will also try different makeup techniques from time to time partly to see if they look more convincing or save time.

It's certainly not as satisfying as going out , but it's worthwhile preparation time as when I DO have time & opportunity to go, I have a few good ideas on outfits to wear.

I take photos as I go, mainly for my future reference but occasionally I get a good enough Pic to post on Social Media

Sophie xx

[Philippa Jane]

I guess I can't offer much here other than to say that I go full makeup if I am going to an appointment.
I do brows, eyeliner, mascara lipstick and wig if I am going to the grocery store.
But only brows and eyeliner if I am at the gym.
Tomorrow I would normally be without any makeup but I am having a guest come to lunch and she has never seen me without war paint and a wig.
Got to keep the illusion going.

[Phoebe Reece]

Debs, you are not alone in your feelings about dressing. If I am going to go to the trouble of doing makeup and putting on an outfit I am going out. For many years I had a job where I couldn't go out dressed femme and I could only dress in the privacy of my home. I got severely bored with just dressing inside and decided that once I left that job I would always go out when dressed. For the last 21 years that has been what I have done. The exception to that was in the dark days of Covid isolation when there simply wasn't anyplace to go.