Caught by neighbor?

[Steph_CD_62]

I debated to even post this, but I thought why not.

A little history about my neighbors first. We are friendly but not friends. If we are both outside the wave and maybe even small talk but that, is it. This is because they are not happy with the big pine tree in our backyard that drops pine needles and pinecones in their yard. Also, they are not happy with our dogs. The dogs will bark the smallest thing, and this drives our neighbors crazy. It was so bad that they suggested to my wife that we buy a shock collar for the dogs so every time they bark, they would receive a shock. We refused to do that.

Now normally I don't go outside while I am dressed. Maybe a quick trip to the garbage tote outside and that rare occasion I check our mailbox.

Last night right after I got ready for bed, nightgown, bra with forms and a long silk robe. My wife was bringing in our dogs, and for some reason our little dog didn't want to climb the 3 steps to our deck, it happens about every other month. Since my wife had her stroke, she doesn't do step very well, so I told her I'd go out and get him. Normally my neighbors are not moving around that time of night, so I thought what the heck. As I walked on the deck, I looked over at their house and saw him standing at their window doing dishes. By that time either he saw me or didn't notice me. So went to the steps sat down with my back to him picked up our dog and put him on the deck. When I went back inside, I didn't look over to their house.

So, I am not sure if even saw me or noticed that I was wearing a nightgown and long robe. I might be worried about nothing, but I like to keep my crossdressing very private.

I just had to get this off my chest and into words, and I figured this was the best place.

[Genifer Teal]

Sorry this happened. I hope you don't get any grief from your neighbors over it. It seems like you already have enough issues.

A suggestion to anyone who finds themself in a situation like this is to continue to act normal and do whatever you're doing. If they're not sure what they saw, but you suddenly react to them, it could confirm what they think they saw. If they're going to question in their mind what they saw, continuing to act normally won't confirm or deny their thoughts.

[Deborah G]

Agree with Genifer. I've been surprised by delivery people, neighbors and strangers. So far, nothing to report as far as any gossip or consequences!

[JohnH]

I believe the best way not to be caught by neighbors is to wear dresses openly as I do. I went to church this morning wearing a dress, heels, and makeup along with the usual nail polish. During coffee hour a group of men, including myself, got together to form a men's fellowship.

John

[Sandi Beech]

Probably did not notice depending on the distance between houses. But in this case; )

Oh you saw my sister. Looks just like me ; )

That is only if they say something. Normally it would not matter but since they already have a beef with you over the tree and dogs, I would just play dumb.

Sandi

[alwayshave]

Steph, Chances are the neighbor wasn't sure what they saw. I wouldn't think about it again.

[Crissy 107]

Women notice everything, guys not so much, so it was good it was the husband doing the dishes.

[Steph_CD_62]

Thanks for all the advice.

I had already planned on acting like nothing happened. I am hoping if he did see me, that all is saw was me wearing a robe and that is all he noticed.

[Di]

You aren’t doing anything wrong.
Don’t overthink this.
I agree act like nothing happened.

[kimdl93]

You are probably worrying needlessly. Chances are that your neighbor was focusing on doing dishes and not what was going on outside. On the odd chance that he glanced out, he very likely did not give it any thought.

[Jasmine23]

I agree with everyone else, chances are he didn't see you, so act like nothing happened. It's impossible to say if he saw you or not, depends on the distance, lighting, did he even notice anything going on, plus even if he saw you, did he even notice that you were crossdressing. While crossdressing is never far from our minds, the average guy probably never thinks about it, so he probably wouldn't jump to the conclusion that you were crossdressing, unless he's a secret crossdresser himself, in which case it might be something ye could bond over!

[Rochal Tukque]

Sounds to me like your neighbors have I bigger problem with your tree and dogs for sure than probably how you dress. Not everyone is most happy to listen to someone else?s dogs.
Hugs Rochal

[docrobbysherry]

Steph, I have a neighbor that got a new dog. It barked at every little sound it heard. It made my lovely yard nearly unusable no matter how I was dressed!:doh:
And, my dealing with them a bit strained.:straightface:

After they got a bark collar we r friendly again!:hugs:

By the by, he told me his dogs, (he has another one now) r friendlier and calmer with collars!:)

[Debs]

Lets reverse this, If you saw what you thought was your neighbor wearing a dress in the backyard, would you march round there house knock on the door and say "Hey was that you wearing a dress in the back ?". I dont think so, or even if you pass them in the street the nexy day would you confront them, think not, obviously they would deny it. I walk down the street dressed regular and yes I get clocked, but in 20 years nobody has ever stopped and said "HEY are you a man in a dress ?", would you cross the street and ask me?, no you might think it but you would never do it. YES in the back of your mind you'd be thinking what if I'm wrong. Thats why you will never get asked.

[Maria 60]

I agree with most here that for whatever reason we would have to go outside we should act as normal as possible. Nobody will,pay attention to that. A few weeks ago I was getting changed to light my BBQ. My wife told me to just go out back and light it. It was kind of a dare so I did it. When I came in she told me the next time I go out I shouldn't look so conspicuous and just act normal. She told me that I was looking around with a look that would make anyone want to second look of "what's this person up to". I went to check my security cameras later and oh boy was I looking around with a criminal look of guilt.
As hard as it might be when we take these chances we should not act to suspicious and try to see if anyone sees us and just take the advice of Deb and just realized nobody is probably going to call you out anyway.

[Genifer Teal]

I think i've confused my new neighbors across the street. I came home from work and introduced my male self to the wife. She apologized for all the extra trash from the move and said it would be gone soon. Later I found a copy of the schedule for our trash pick up. I saw her husband outside, probably throwing something else out and I wanted to bring it to him. He met Gen. I figured it's gonna happen sooner or later. Why not sooner? I could imagine the discussion they had when he went back inside. I haven't really got to know them in the few months they're here. We wave occasionally. I'm sure they see both sides of me. I'm curious what they really think. Lol regardless, I haven't changed my behavior or felt the need to go out of my way to explain myself. If an opportunity comes up i may mention it.

[CarlaWestin]

Reading these posts wants me to just get tastefully Carla'd up and just go say hello to each of my neighbors.

[April Rose]

I'm betting that if you figured out a way to keep your dogs quiet by wearing a dress in the yard every day the neighbors would consider it a net improvement.

[JesseVF]

Men wear robes also - I wouldn?t worry about it. Debs you make a good point. I?ve started hanging out on my semiprivate patio more lately as it is extremely rare for anyone to walk by. It did happen once and they just walked by with their dog. Just like I should be able to dress how I want in my house - same with my patio. Gen I kind of wish I had done what you did when I moved here from across country a year ago.

[Karen Wilder]

If it was dark outside, and it sounds like it was as it was bed time, and your neighbor had his kitchen light on the window would act like a mirror to him, he would only see his own reflection. He most likely did not see you.

[Liz Jones]

Lets reverse this, If you saw what you thought was your neighbor wearing a dress in the backyard, would you march round there house knock on the door and say "Hey was that you wearing a dress in the back ?". I dont think so, or even if you pass them in the street the nexy day would you confront them, think not, obviously they would deny it. I walk down the street dressed regular and yes I get clocked, but in 20 years nobody has ever stopped and said "HEY are you a man in a dress ?", would you cross the street and ask me?, no you might think it but you would never do it. YES in the back of your mind you'd be thinking what if I'm wrong. Thats why you will never get asked.

Was working in the Avenue wearing a skirt , Wife was talking to neighbor who asked ( looking at me ) is he wearing a skirt. Wifes reply-- yes for medical reasons , end of subject ( it was true - water tablets )
Liz.