Was I wrong

[Meg]

Recently I was in Las Vegas and saw two gurls on Freemont St. I approached them and complimented them on their classy look and courage. I also let them know I wished I could pull off such a nice presentation and that I was very closeted.. Afterwards i started to feel as though I did something wrong by interrupting their night and that I knew they were crossdressers. Was this wrong of me? Opinions or comments please. Hugs, Meg

[Genifer Teal]

I guess it depends how they reacted. I wouldn't mind a little chitchat here and there. Especially if you kept it positive.

[Meg]

It was a positive reaction from the one I spoke with on the surface. She was smiling the whole time we talked. I spoke directly to one in particular. And of course I kept it positive, I was very jealous of how nice they looked. This was not the first time I have seen fellow crossdressers in public, just the first time I have interacted with them. Thanks, Meg

[Lana Mae]

Think how you would react! That is the answer to your question! Some are very shy when out and about!
Hugs Lana Mae

[Sallee]

I think I would like it if I was complimented on my look. It has happened usually in a CD bar. BUt once it happened at a CD group meeting when the presenter took me for a spouse. Thar was great I passed ++ in a room full of CDs and I was mistaken for a real GG. But on the same token I think I've been clocked on a dark night from a distance or maybe it was just my good looks :} LOL

[Robyn n TN]

Meg, When did you see these girls?? There was a large group of girls there October 8th - 12th with TGR. Saturday night we were at Freemont street. I am sure that they appreciated your compliment, I know I would have.

[CarlaWestin]

There is a bit of a courtesy rule that as a CD you never acknowledge to another CD that you've clocked them.
But it's not written in stone.

[Terrihoney]

I always hope to be mistaken as genuine female, not a CD. A sincere compliment is always appreciated. Many women do this with casual encounters, love your earrings, cute dress. nails, etc. Acknowledging that they were CD's is a foux pas. Wishing to look as good as they, not so much.

[Sandi Beech]

It is generally ok I think, but personally I like it more when it?s women who approach me to chat.

Sandi

[kimdl93]

No, you were expressing appreciation offering support. My guess is that they, like me, always expect to read and welcome positive interactions.

And while I do not like to be clocked, I expect it. I assume that I will be seen as a transgender woman. Any reaction that suggests otherwise is a welcomed surprise.

[Heather76]

I should think you were fine so long as it was a positive approach which it sounds like it was. No matter how great they may have looked, if you could identify them as crossdressers, then they must accept the fact that don't pass 100%. There is nothing wrong with that in my opinion. I know I do not pass, but I would always enjoy receiving complements.

[TheHiddenMe]

Well, when was this?

Two weeks ago it was Rocktober, last week Diva Las Vegas. Our group was on Fremont Street Thursday night, so it could have been one from the two groups.

Would I be offended? No. I assume I don't pass, because I think people innately can spot those on the TG spectrum.

Two years ago while I was on the limo tour and after the limo tour I had 6 GGs tell me how they liked my dress. Obviously, they knew, and I appreciated the compliment.

Had you come to me, I would have told you about Diva Las Vegas, and how you should attend the next year. I'd tell you it's fun to be out of the closet and out on Fremont Street, or walking the Strip.

So, no, IMO you did nothing wrong.

[Jillcder]

I think its great that you approached the two crossdressers I would have done the same thing. I do not understand the problem that some girls have talking to other cders I love it when someone offers a compliment like Sandi said I do appreciate it more when the conversation or compliment comes from a women.

[michelleddg]

Do you like to be clocked? There's your answer.

Hugs, Michelle

[docrobbysherry]

Yes! No? Hmmm, maybe.:straightface:

[Meg]

I appreciate all of the responses. I kept it a very positive interaction, at least from my perspective. I did check and it was Thursday the 16th, which I found out was during DIVA Las Vegas. Being a small town gurl, I have never had the opportunity to interact and jumped at the chance to do so. I will not make that faux pas again. But I will seriously consider Next years DIVA Las Vegas.

[Crissy 107]

Meg, I do not think you did anything wrong as you said you kept it positive.

[Gail_veiled]

Meg, hesitant to add anything here since I've no skin in the game

If I were to be dressed up out and about in Las Vegas (which I've never been)
and
If I were to be clocked (which at 6'1" flat footed is guaranteed)
and
If a fellow crossdresser acknowledged me respectfully in a complimentary fashion

I personally would be nothing but appreciative for the interaction (kindred spirits and all).

Obviously body language and social cues are important in any setting but your encounter certainly sounds like it didn't upset anyone.

[TheHiddenMe]

I appreciate all of the responses. I kept it a very positive interaction, at least from my perspective. I did check and it was Thursday the 16th, which I found out was during DIVA Las Vegas. Being a small town gurl, I have never had the opportunity to interact and jumped at the chance to do so. I will not make that faux pas again. But I will seriously consider Next years DIVA Las Vegas.

There was a group of 12 of us scattered around Fremont Street from about 11:30 PM to 12:15 AM, so it could have definitely been our group.

There is a Diva Las Vegas website with tons on information. I'd suggest trying to get on the email list and get updates over the next year.

It's Vegas. What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. There are tons of people and no one cares about us being out and dressed. I was walking on the Strip in midday and a GG complimented me on my dress.

YOLO. Make a plan. Make it happen.

[Rhonda Darling]

Look at it this way. Much like an expert pickpocket will likely notice and recognize the various things another pickpocket does to pass without suspicion among the muggles, we- who are ourselves CD - are likely adept at noticing those small "tells" that go completely unnoticed by the muggles.

That said, if you do feel compelled to approach a crossdresser(s), first be sure you are right about it, and second, do it discretely and away from others.

Just my humble opinion.

[Meg]

I actually have thought about the fact that as a crossdresser myself, it was easier to notice. Again, it spiked my desire to interact without further consideration. I will definitely check into next years event. Hugs, Meg

[TerriLynnCD]

I appreciate all of the responses. I kept it a very positive interaction, at least from my perspective. I did check and it was Thursday the 16th, which I found out was during DIVA Las Vegas. Being a small town gurl, I have never had the opportunity to interact and jumped at the chance to do so. I will not make that faux pas again. But I will seriously consider Next years DIVA Las Vegas.

Yep, if it was sometime around midnight, certainly could have been one of the DLV attendees. We were there for a short time midnight-12:30ish.

Certainly check out DLV. I've been attending for about 5 years now and it's an awesome time. 24/7 girl-mode for a week!

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

I also don't have any "skin in the game", as I'll never be more than a MAID. That being said, if I were ever to wander Las Vegas in a dress or similar, and someone did what you did to me, I'd be rather happy that someone thought and said that I was doing good and looking good. Was it a faux pas? Probably, but that doesn't mean it was unappreciated.

But you'd better be sure! Telling an ugly GG that she's courageous to wear a dress in public would be like asking a fat women when she's due!

[TheHiddenMe]

Yep, if it was sometime around midnight, certainly could have been one of the DLV attendees. We were there for a short time midnight-12:30ish.

Certainly check out DLV. I've been attending for about 5 years now and it's an awesome time. 24/7 girl-mode for a week!

I will note DLV is made possible by volunteers like TerriLynn, who organized the trip in question, and allows the rest of us to get our girl on.

[JoyceAnn]

Compliments are usually always appreciated. Even if I am clocked, I view praise as an acknowledgement that I put in some effort to look feminine.

DLV is an annual fun, informal, no-pressure week-long opportunity to dress up and meet some very cool people. I would like to echo Dee's note and thank TerriLynn for organizing the limo tour that brought us to Fremont St. that evening. I always enjoy the Fremont experience for its unique party atmosphere, live music, and street performers. Check out DLV and consider attending next year!

[TheHiddenMe]

Well, three of the twelve in the group have reported in.

Just so everyone knows, you don't have to wait for the get-togethers like DLV to go out in LV. We went to mainstream places like the Pinball Hall of Fame, restaurants, etc. I walked along the strip, went into the malls, and went to the pool solo. It's really not an issue.

[TerriLynnCD]

True story here. Before I started attending DLV (2021), I made several solo adventures in/around Las Vegas. No issues whatsoever. Just remember the casinos are cold, bring a sweater no matter what the weather! :)

Oh, and thanks for the thanks Dee and Joyce! Already looking forward to next year.

[kimdl93]

For some odd reason, I felt this clip was appropriate: https://youtube.com/clip/UgkxHiTn2NWQ94SB9wwas8ykq-FcjtD4wYnL?si=C8qc_Z2nlj6Ogy14

[Meg]

Again, I thank all of my sisters for their comments. You have continually helped me to grow. And Kim, I loved the clip and have always loved the Smothers Brothers. Love and Hugs, Meg

[alwayshave]

As a man, I do not approach women. So I guess I would not have. If I was dressed, yes I would.

[April Rose]

I have had at least two occasions when I was sure I had been read, but was treated in a polite friendly manor, by males, as if I were an older female. I really appreciated that, because it was early in my attempts at presenting female, and it let me feel like, okay, maybe I'm not crazy for trying this.

I have never had anyone say anything like "Hey, you're a great looking cross dresser!" or anything like that, so I don't know how I would handle it.

[SaraLin]

Personally, if I've gone to all the effort to present as feminine as possible, the last thing I'd want is some stranger coming up to me and letting me know that I've failed.

Of course, I'm one of the "dress to blend" type girls. I wouldn't be trying to stand out.
I'd want to believe that I'm seen as "just" another woman in the crowd.

[kimdl93]

Just another thought. In something like 15 years of being out in public, I cannot recall an occasion when someone came up and said, “you look nice for a man dressed as a woman.” I have received compliments along the lines of “You look so nice” or “I love your hair.” I always assume that these comments are a nice way of saying “I see you and I accept you as you are.”

[Cheryl T]

It depends on the person.
Personally I do not want anyone to say anything like that to me.
When I'm out and about I only wish to be seen as a woman. Someone, even with the best intentions, acknowledging otherwise would be upsetting. For me it's bad enough we have detractors who would call us out.

[Meg]

I must interject here. I certainly did not start of my conversation in a derogatory fashion. My work experience and other positions held have called for me to have some tact in my language skills. Said, I think you two ladies look very nice. I did say, that as a closeted crossdresser, I wished I had the courage to do the same. I get it now. This small town, rural boy will just admire from a distance in the future. Hugs, Meg

[Maria 60]

I'm kind of caught in the middle of this one because last summer I went to this outdoor mall and there were two sisters sitting next to me at the outside food court. I was literally dying to tell them how great they looked and how much I respected there courage. But I held back because I believe I would have taking my compliment at good faith and probably would have thanked the person. But I just didn't know how it would have come across to others. I tried not to stare but I just wanted to see how they put together. I would believe they would have taking a good positive comment good but I just let them go on with there day in which I was so jealous and envious.