Totally blocked it out

[Maria 60]

I really believe our mind blocks out stuff in our past that we don't want to remember or not proud of. Yesterday my wife went into a shoe store and a few women were talking about a guy trying on women's heels in the store. My wife seen him and it was an old friend of mine. She said she avoided him and when she told me who it was, I just froze staring at her. I had a flashback that my mind totally blocked out. I lived next door to that friend and he was a few years younger then me and my mother used to watch him and as I got older I would watch him at his house. I wrote before that I shared room with my sister and she was a slob and we would strip naked and galavant around the room just wearing my sisters pantyhose. Then at times when I would watch him at his house we would do the same with his sisters and mothers stuff. His mother had the best stuff and was the first time I tried on stockings and a garder belt. I told my wife I wasn't surprised because as much as I know I was aroused wearing that stuff I know he was also aroused also. But I had already been wearing my sisters pantyhose before I shared this with him, so in not so many words maybe I got him into this.
The part I seem to can't understand is I don't see him to often we may do breakfast once every few years buts its almost like nothing was ever weird between us or ever mentioned about it, almost like it never happened. You would think in some conversation there would be a "do you remember when we did this" story.
I mentioned to my wife when I was younger I lived with my grandparents and my parents would go to our summer cabin and I would stay with my grandparents. They would go to bed early and I would wear pantyhose and a slip and watch tv and fall asleep on the couch. I would wake up and two or three in the morning and there would be a blanket on me. My mind never asked where the blanket came from, my grandmother seen me dressed like that and my mind never wondered what she thought and the next morning we didn't act any different towards each other. It's like my mind blocked out that she seen me and I guess I didn't want to think about it.
I just couldn't believe I had totally forgotten about that and really want to believe my mind wanted to forget. My wife told me she knows a lot of people who will go through something in there lives and our minds will block it out to keep us sane. My wife said we all do stupid things when we were young but I told her we weren't that young as she thinks.
Last night I kind wondered if I introduced him to this and if I did he is much more bolder than I am trying on heel in a shoe store. It's still very mind boggling to me.
Anybody here remembering somethings they want to forget or our mind made us forget.

[Philippa Jane]

I don't know. I forget. LOL.
Seriously though I do have one or more things that when they come to mind I want to block out.
I guess we all have things we are ashamed of and would change them if we could.
Nothing I want to share here though.

[docrobbysherry]

At age 80+ it has become very clear that memory and recall r two separate functions. And, as we get older we tend to retain things that happened to us when we were young, impressionable, and our brains weren't over loaded yet! And, forget what we had for breakfast this morning, or why we walked into the next room!:eek:

I still remember what happened when I was young and most memorable events that happen to me now. But, my ability to recall these things becomes increasingly difficult every year!:sad:

My point is, get used to it, Maria! You're memory is not likely to improve in the years ahead!:heehee:

[DianeT]

All our memories are reconstructions (also, all the cells in your brain have been replaced by new ones several times over since you were young, so this weave has been redone many times by your cortex's little Penelope), so your brain isn't as much blocking these memories as not summoning them, at least not consciously.

[Heather76]

Having nothing to do with cross dressing, I can promise you I have forgotten more about my time in Vietnam than I remember. I like to say I have a filing cabinet in my head where I filed those memories, and then I threw the key away. Yes, your mind can put stuff away you may never again recall. But, if you forgot a time you screwed up, your wife is sure to remember it. I know my wife does. :haha:

[Maria 60]

Heather I love the part about a wife, so true. Started my morning with a laugh

[mykell]

maria my mind dug up a few thoughts of things past....wont bother to share here in the public thread....