cdjamie
04-23-2006, 12:39 PM
I once had an off-the-cuff discussion with an elderly lady of notable high fashion modeling stature. Being in the business she was in, she had been around the block a time or two and was quite knowledgeable about life. We talked about many things; fashions, marriage, relationships, etc. After a while, I admitted to her that I wore women’s undergarments and had done this for many years. At first, she didn’t believe me but the more I talked about it, she realized that I was on the level and asked me why I did it. I told her that it made me feel good inside and that I am most comfortable when I am wearing what I like to wear.
She suggested that not only was it unacceptable, but abnormal behavior, and that I needed mental help to see my way clear as playing the life of a male role model.
Of course, one discussion led to another. I finally questioned her to explain to me the proper male role model. After her pat answer, she said that, aside from theatrics, it was not ethical or acceptable for a man to wear women’s clothing, period.
On the subject of relationship or marriage, she stated that no matter what the female may say favorable or unfavorable things about her male companion, any woman in her right mind would never deep down in her heart accept a man who wears women’s intimates.
No matter my thoughts on the matter, all I could do was respect her opinion.
Society has a peculiar way of deciding what taboo is and what is not when it comes to values.
Webster’s dictionary defines value as: A principle, standard, or quality considered worthwhile or desirable.
What is ‘principle” anyway? To society, it’s a basic generalization that is accepted as true and that can be used as a basis for reasoning or conduct.
Is conduct a behavior by which we are judged or condemned? Again, Webster states that conduct is the way a person acts, especially from the standpoint of morality and ethics.
Well…we can go on and on, discussing morality and ethics until we’re blue in the face, and the bottom line is that there is a no win-win outcome.
Suffice it to write, there are endless issues concerning values, conforming to standards of what is right or just in behavior.
Is there anything wrong with a man wearing women’s clothing? Society, I dare write, would say, YES! Is there anything wrong with a woman wearing men’s clothing? Again, society for the most part would say, NO.
Me thinks that a woman has far more leniency in doing whatever she pleases whereas a man is prejudiced when it comes to attires. I say bravo for her.
Hundreds of years ago, as part of fashion, men wore dress-like clothing, along with stockings. Did they wear panties that women wore then? Who knows?
Unfortunately, we’re brought up thoroughly grounded as to the custom values that are placed on each of us.
I, for one, was brought up to understand that intimates are very personal and private, and this included a woman’s vagina and her breast - articles and anatomy of which I was forbidden to talk about. Parental and primary education has so much to do with it. We need to understand that it’s the being inside that matters, not by what they wear.
I suppose what comes around goes around and that time will only tell. Over the years, I find that most women from my era are fixed and unmovable in their convictions about what a man should or should not wear.
No matter the budding relationship, I tell a woman up front that I wear stockings and panties and she soon runs for cover because she thinks I’m a mental case.
No matter the friendship I had with males, those who did not share the things of the TG world, I tell him that I like to wear bras, slips, perfume, and wear high heels, among other things, and he is quick to judge and scorns me to shame.
So, having lived through the trying years, I now live a life of solitude, comfortable with who and what I am, a human being that has no bounds in judging what others may or may not wear. I won’t make compromises, false promises about living a life that is not me.
Those associated with the TG world are not threat to the female population. Indeed, we’re a bigger ally to women than most realize.
Loneliness? Sure, it gets lonely living in the TG world, so much so that I wanted to scream to the world to wake up and smell the roses. Make them understand that those of the TG community are not all a bunch of whackos. A myriad of life are represented: Engineers, Doctors, Lawyers, Bricklayers, Truck drivers, Baker’s…the list goes on and most are productive citizens. We’re not a threat to life, ignorance is.
We want to be able to wear what makes us the most comfortable. Is that so much to ask?
She suggested that not only was it unacceptable, but abnormal behavior, and that I needed mental help to see my way clear as playing the life of a male role model.
Of course, one discussion led to another. I finally questioned her to explain to me the proper male role model. After her pat answer, she said that, aside from theatrics, it was not ethical or acceptable for a man to wear women’s clothing, period.
On the subject of relationship or marriage, she stated that no matter what the female may say favorable or unfavorable things about her male companion, any woman in her right mind would never deep down in her heart accept a man who wears women’s intimates.
No matter my thoughts on the matter, all I could do was respect her opinion.
Society has a peculiar way of deciding what taboo is and what is not when it comes to values.
Webster’s dictionary defines value as: A principle, standard, or quality considered worthwhile or desirable.
What is ‘principle” anyway? To society, it’s a basic generalization that is accepted as true and that can be used as a basis for reasoning or conduct.
Is conduct a behavior by which we are judged or condemned? Again, Webster states that conduct is the way a person acts, especially from the standpoint of morality and ethics.
Well…we can go on and on, discussing morality and ethics until we’re blue in the face, and the bottom line is that there is a no win-win outcome.
Suffice it to write, there are endless issues concerning values, conforming to standards of what is right or just in behavior.
Is there anything wrong with a man wearing women’s clothing? Society, I dare write, would say, YES! Is there anything wrong with a woman wearing men’s clothing? Again, society for the most part would say, NO.
Me thinks that a woman has far more leniency in doing whatever she pleases whereas a man is prejudiced when it comes to attires. I say bravo for her.
Hundreds of years ago, as part of fashion, men wore dress-like clothing, along with stockings. Did they wear panties that women wore then? Who knows?
Unfortunately, we’re brought up thoroughly grounded as to the custom values that are placed on each of us.
I, for one, was brought up to understand that intimates are very personal and private, and this included a woman’s vagina and her breast - articles and anatomy of which I was forbidden to talk about. Parental and primary education has so much to do with it. We need to understand that it’s the being inside that matters, not by what they wear.
I suppose what comes around goes around and that time will only tell. Over the years, I find that most women from my era are fixed and unmovable in their convictions about what a man should or should not wear.
No matter the budding relationship, I tell a woman up front that I wear stockings and panties and she soon runs for cover because she thinks I’m a mental case.
No matter the friendship I had with males, those who did not share the things of the TG world, I tell him that I like to wear bras, slips, perfume, and wear high heels, among other things, and he is quick to judge and scorns me to shame.
So, having lived through the trying years, I now live a life of solitude, comfortable with who and what I am, a human being that has no bounds in judging what others may or may not wear. I won’t make compromises, false promises about living a life that is not me.
Those associated with the TG world are not threat to the female population. Indeed, we’re a bigger ally to women than most realize.
Loneliness? Sure, it gets lonely living in the TG world, so much so that I wanted to scream to the world to wake up and smell the roses. Make them understand that those of the TG community are not all a bunch of whackos. A myriad of life are represented: Engineers, Doctors, Lawyers, Bricklayers, Truck drivers, Baker’s…the list goes on and most are productive citizens. We’re not a threat to life, ignorance is.
We want to be able to wear what makes us the most comfortable. Is that so much to ask?