Too Provocative?

[jdotp75]

Before I started dressing, I noticed that crossdressers always seemed to dress very naughty! So I naturally thought that was how it was done.(started dressing in 7th grade) and to be honest, I'm good at dressing sleazy. However I notice here that most gurls pictured are more conservative. My question is: is it easier to pass when you don't look like a hooker?

[Annaliese]

Before I started dressing, I noticed that crossdressers always seemed to dress very naughty! So I naturally thought that was how it was done.(started dressing in 7th grade) and to be honest, I'm good at dressing sleazy. However I notice here that most gurls pictured are more conservative. My question is: is it easier to pass when you don't look like a hooker?
If I am going out to dinner or shoping I will dress conservative, even jeans and a nice top and heels. If I am going clubing I will dress on the trashie side.

Anna

[sky0629]

No dressing like a hooker is easy and i enjoy doing it and i like the ****ie feel. But you can't go out in public like that unless you want to be harrased. alot of the gurls like to drive around or walk and maybe a party with other girls. Just being safe, and passing is important when out and about

[Leslie16]

definitely easier when you are dressed conservatively. The idea is to blend in -- if you focus attention on yourself, you won't pass. I usually dress conservatively when shopping etc. I still dress more provocatively when at tg clubs, etc. Passing doesn't matter there, and, well, its fun.

[tori-e]

My question is: is it easier to pass when you don't look like a hooker?

I try to dress like women my age for the given situation. Mostly that means jeans and low shoes. At Christmas I wore a skirt (mid calf) with mid heel pumps, but that's a rarity. So far I don't seem to attract much attention. But maybe I'm just clueless!:cheeky:

[Lissa Stevens]

I have never dressed ****ty. I have always felt more female so I try to dress like a normal GG would dress. For those of you who like the ****tier look, go for it. If that's what floats your boat more power to you. My dress is just my preference.

[Sandra]

Hi girls,

Hope you don't mind me jumping in here :) .

If you don't want to draw attention to yourselves then the "hooker/tarty" look IMO is a nono, dressing down is the best way to blend in. Ok if you're going for a night out mixing with "Joe Public" then dress up a bit more but not over the top. Plus I guess it is what you feel comfy in. :)

[Leslie16]

As I (and everyone else) has said, it depends on the situation. I dress conservatively -- knee-length skirt, normal hosiery -- for shopping and such, but have been tarty when going out. A few months ago when out of town, I really went all out, shortest skirt and all, and walked around. I got propositioned as a hooker quite a few times that night. It was an experience, but any other place or time and I would have looked ridiculous.

[Billijo49504]

I too try to dress appropately for my age and the place I'm going. I try to blend in and go with the flow. Not stick out. That's what works for me..BJ

[jdotp75]

the blending in thing riiight! i saw it somewhere here that if you go out you can expect to be read. so give em something to talk about i always say. ok amy grant said it, but i agree. but thats just me. sing like no one can hear you and dance like no one's watching! i was just curious... hmmm that sounds familiar. anyway thank you ladies.

[Anita Mae GG]

I think if you want to be more passable dress for your age and the style of event...etc

I personally HATE the ****ty look. It cheapens it for me really. My hubby has a dress that is tight and "ok" for me to deal with but not outside this house......

I have seen CD'ers out with INCREDIBLY short skirts, dressing 20 years younger etc and they stand out terribly not to mention the overdone make-up etc.

If you dress age appropriate and venue appropriate you should be fine....save the naughty stuff for home....

Just my opinion

[Karren H]

Definately!!!!! The hard part today is to dress fem as you would like but still blend in with the general female population. A tight rope per say. Most women dress in jeans and baggy tops!! Gag!!!! And most crossdressers want to dress like they are going out to a new years eve gala event!!! So finding some middle ground is important especially if you want to go out in public and not get picked out ot the crowd!!!

Look at that tall girl in the evening gown!!!!!!! Yeah, the one over by the gas pumps!!! hehehehe

Love Karren

[Leslie16]

Definately!!!!! The hard part today is to dress fem as you would like but still blend in with the general female population. A tight rope per say. Most women dress in jeans and baggy tops!! Gag!!!! And most crossdressers want to dress like they are going out to a new years eve gala event!!! So finding some middle ground is important especially if you want to go out in public and not get picked out ot the crowd!!!

Look at that tall girl in the evening gown!!!!!!! Yeah, the one over by the gas pumps!!! hehehehe

Love Karren

Yes. When I go out shopping thats why I go to "upscale" malls -- mostly Tysons II here in VA. There are lots of wealthy women who go there in full makeup, nice dresses and skirts, heels, etc. even during weekdays. I've tried other malls, but I can't blend in with all the jeans and tshirts!

[Melinda G]

We dress ****ty or trashy, because as men, thats what we like and what turns us on. But you will pass better, and be less noticed if you dress like most women would dress in a particular situation.

[MsJanessa]

Before I started dressing, I noticed that crossdressers always seemed to dress very naughty! So I naturally thought that was how it was done.(started dressing in 7th grade) and to be honest, I'm good at dressing sleazy. However I notice here that most gurls pictured are more conservative. My question is: is it easier to pass when you don't look like a hooker?
Duhhh---what do you think??? The key to passing for most of us is not being noticed or standing out. When you dress like a hooker you stand out like a sore thumb.

[JoAnnDallas]

I'm 58 going on 59 and If I dressed looking like a ****, I would look like a over the hill hooker. LOL, You can tell from my avatar, how I dress. I don't want a lot of attention when I'm out.

[Julie York]

If you were going to the Mall dressed as a female....and someone had been paid $10,000 to shoot a crossdresser on sight.....What would you wear?

See.

Not that hard.

:cheeky:

[Ashley in Virginia]

What if you are going out for a fine evening of turning tricks? Dressing down wouldnt help you out then. You wouldn't make much money out on the strip dressed like the average person.

Hard to support a crack habit like that.

[Leslie16]

If you were going to the Mall dressed as a female....and someone had been paid $10,000 to shoot a crossdresser on sight.....What would you wear?

See.

Not that hard.

:cheeky:
I would wear a bullet proof vest.

[Jillian310]

I have two fairly distiinct modes of dress. This coming Fri and Sat nites I will be going to a club that other girls frequent in my strumpet look. I also use that look when visiting friends for lunch at their homes. Strumpet = heels, black fishnet stockings, garters, bright shiny satin panties that I may flash, short black mini, black bejeweled v neck sweater, rather large bosom, dangly gold earrings, necklace, 20 or so gold bangles on my right wrist, a fem watch on my left, rings on almost every finger, makeup, my own hair. Conservative = same shoes, black hose, garters, black and white printed jumper that falls below my knees, nice white or black top, my cusom made stud earrings, easy on the makeup, a smaller bosom, a couple bangles, all my rings, watch, etc. This is mall wear or when I will be eating out at a restaurant. Whenever I am in the car driving I like my skirt pulled all the way up. That REALLY feels sooo good!

[Gail Stauffer]

sorry just your average conservative girl here, it's the easiest way to blend in or look normal when out as I noticed the first time I did iton friday last week, I wore a nice out fit and seemed to blend in just fine!! it all depends on what you like and if you are going out or not!! me I just happen to like the conservative look, it helps in passing!!

[sharifemme]

jdotp75...

In a word, "yes."

Sharifemme


Before I started dressing, I noticed that crossdressers always seemed to dress very naughty! So I naturally thought that was how it was done.(started dressing in 7th grade) and to be honest, I'm good at dressing sleazy. However I notice here that most gurls pictured are more conservative. My question is: is it easier to pass when you don't look like a hooker?

[Julie York]

I would wear a bullet proof vest.

A ****ty one?...Or one like all the other GGs are wearing?



Could be a whole new fashion line. Bullet proof vests...in red pvc...with bondage buckles.

[Anita Mae GG]

If you were going to the Mall dressed as a female....and someone had been paid $10,000 to shoot a crossdresser on sight.....What would you wear?

See.

Not that hard.

:cheeky:


LOL:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[Leslie16]

A ****ty one?...Or one like all the other GGs are wearing?



Could be a whole new fashion line. Bullet proof vests...in red pvc...with bondage buckles.
this season, probably a short vest, with a nice pattern of some sort on it. Something maybe in corset-style, so its flattering too...

[Leslie16]

I have two fairly distiinct modes of dress. This coming Fri and Sat nites I will be going to a club that other girls frequent in my strumpet look. I also use that look when visiting friends for lunch at their homes. Strumpet = heels, black fishnet stockings, garters, bright shiny satin panties that I may flash, short black mini, black bejeweled v neck sweater, rather large bosom, dangly gold earrings, necklace, 20 or so gold bangles on my right wrist, a fem watch on my left, rings on almost every finger, makeup, my own hair. Conservative = same shoes, black hose, garters, black and white printed jumper that falls below my knees, nice white or black top, my cusom made stud earrings, easy on the makeup, a smaller bosom, a couple bangles, all my rings, watch, etc. This is mall wear or when I will be eating out at a restaurant. Whenever I am in the car driving I like my skirt pulled all the way up. That REALLY feels sooo good!

OK, I have many more modes that that! ...

1. Girl jeans with a polo shirt. When I dont want anyone to know Im even dressing.
2. Business suit with knee-length skirt, and heels, for fitting in with the workday crowd.
3. Leather mini, just above knee, with pink sweater, and boots. When I want something fun that pushes the envelope, without being seen as a ****.
4. Same thing, with fishnet hose. When I'm ok with some people seeing me as a ****, or when I'm in NYC.
5. Burgundy minidress. For bars and clubs.
6. Same minidress, hiked up high. Only for when I'm impersonating a hooker. :)

[ashlee chiffon]

i think lots of transgenders dress ****ty to attract Men, not GG's...and they are usually the younger ones trying to look like "hot chicks"...
from this forum alone, i think the diversity in dress in attitude prevails on the conservative side, because of the median age...most here don't have 18 year old bodies to fit the clothes! *Especially Me!*. Also, most here are cd's and enjoy the clothes more then the need to attract sexily...unless their SO's like them to! and if my SO *when i get another SO* wants me to dress ****tily, then i wouldn't hesitate if it excites Her!
i like to dress a little provocatively and take pics just to see how "cute" i can look or if i can pass...but i, for the most part, prefer skirts and dresses with room and movement...i like flippy skirts because they are just Fun! i hate to wear jeans! The freedom under a dress or skirt is part of the enjoyment of fem dress...Too short or too tight or too high or too little just isn't comfortible, anymore, as i get a lil older!
its great have the GG's comment, also, to get their opinions of our dress. THis place is a great reality check!

[FionaAlexis]

I assume you mean pass in the real world?

Yes, if you dress like a tart you'll draw attention to yourself and you'll more than likely be categorised drag queen. The more you 'blend in' the easier it will be to pass simply because you are not drawing attention to yourself.

I have no interest in dressing tarty and never have - however I do like to dress up - and in this casual jeans/pants/skirts/Ts/shirts area in which I live - I still find I'm often over dressed. Recently I've noticed that the GGs are lifting their game and more are dressing up in stylish clothes.

Probably my influence ;)

Fiona xx

[Ellaine]

sing like no one can hear you and dance like no one's watching!

I love that! It sounds like true freedom. Could get you shot!

[SherriePall]

There are certain sections of town where dressing ****ty is the way to pass. However, nice girls don't dress that way because they don't go to those sections of town.

[Kate Simmons]

Never tried the sleezy look. I kind of dress like "the girl next door" (no, not the trampy one) but not "June Cleaver" either. At home I wear capris, shorts and jeans even when I'm by myself. Take care, Ericka

[Marlena Dahlstrom]

My question is: is it easier to pass when you don't look like a hooker?

Uh....yes. If you saw a GG dressed like a hooker at the mall, that would probably get your attention, right? Nothing wrong with fantasy dressing, but there's a reason it's called "fantasy" dressing -- regardless of whether it's done by a CD or GG.

As others have said, if your goal is to blend in, it helps to dress similarly to how of a GG of your age, background, etc. would for a particular context (i.e. wearing mallwear to a club might make stand out just as much as wearing clubwear to the mall).

[Stacie Stockman]

When I dress, I figured out that I do want some attention. When I go out dressed as a man, I feel like the invisible man, part of the scenery, no one will expend the energy to turn their head to look at me. With the expense of dressing as a woman, ie makeup, forms, wig, more new clothes, I dont want to be invisible again!

[gwenrob43]

I've always tried to dress well, but conservatively. I don't want to draw unwanted attention, therefore, many times I wear slacks, occasionally a skirt and low heels. If I were going out clubbing (which there's no chance here), I'd dress nicer: heels, stockings, a nice dress, jewelry, all the trimmings. I want to pass as a lady, not a tramp.:o

[Toni]

Yes, if you dress like a tart you'll draw attention to yourself and you'll more than likely be categorised drag queen. The more you 'blend in' the easier it will be to pass simply because you are not drawing attention to yourself.
Fiona xx
This says it all, look like a tart you'll be treat like a tart. If you want to know how you should look, take a look at Fiona's website.

[jdotp75]

Ladies you are completly right! when i get dressed,
a) its for my partner...a gg who is bi
b)is typically done just to turn her on
c)is usually done only around house
d)and when a gg goes out, the last thing i believe she wants is to not be noticed. I am learning a lot here, for me this is just a sexual thing for me and my woman. I don't go grocery shopping, or to the mall. The funny thing is every girl who ive been intimate on this level with, loved it! but keep in mind i only date girls who date girls. They get a man when they need one and a "woman" when they want one. and yes if you can't run with the big girls, stay on the porch! i'm blessed to be cursed with my young looks, i'm 5'7" and 120 lbs. my sister was a model for a while and taught me about skincare! so thank god i've been able to enjoy this cd lifestyle of mine. as i hope you all enjoy whatever it means to you. thanks for the feedback.

[Sedona]

Hi Monique,

I'm mostly in your camp regarding this issue. I couldn't care less about going out, or "passing" For me it's 95% fetish, and I do go for the um, skanky end of things. That said, I'm not really a super-freak, and have usually gone for "nice girls" as I've found I don't like the drama of wondering if they're out fooling around on me (with a man or woman), and dealing with the fallout if they do.

Definately a conundrum when it comes to finding a girlfriend, but that's another story.

Anyways, rock on girl, and be as skanky as you wanna be!

[Maria-Christina]

I just want to blend into the background. If I can successfully do that and be seen to be a woman then it's great.

Maria

[Di]

[QUOTE=Julie York]If you were going to the Mall dressed as a female....and someone had been paid $10,000 to shoot a crossdresser on sight.....What would you wear?

See.

Not that hard.

Love that....In agreement with the girls here..........when out and about the mall ect...dress stylish and and blend in. You`d all look at anyone dressed ****ty ................as far as the ****ty look there are times and places for that as in clubbin or at home.

[Tina Dixon]

I like to dress stylish and blend in but who knows whats under your cloths:D

[Eugenie]

Answering the first post in this thread.

As you noticed by yourself, not all X-dressers go for sexy outfits. There seems to be a great variety of motivations and styles among our group.

It is indeed the case that some of us like very showy and rather provocative clothes. Some GGs too like to be sexy and provocative. Perhaps we tend to be like that, sexy and provocative, more than GGs on average.

But not all of us and not at all times. Some of us do prefer to dress very conservatively most of the times. There are occasions though when some of us like to act "sexy", just like a lover wants to please her SO on a special occasion.

It varies also with age, by and large, the younger the sexier the outfit, even though there are exceptions on both sides: young TGs very conservatively dressed and older TGs dressing ultra sexy...

For your second question very sensible answers have already been given: if you want to go out it is more reasonable to blend in with rather conservative clothes, but not too conservative either, just observe GGs your age and size in public places and see what the ones wearing skirts or dresses look like. I mentioned those wearing skirts or dresses because these are nevertheless our favorite, no?

I've only been out in the streets once and I think that my mistake was that I was dressed too conservatively for the circumstances. So my look attracted too much attention. The balance isn't easy to find. This experience has left me with a rather uneasy feeling about going out. So now I meet TG friend in private. I also dress with slightly more modern clothes, thanks to the advice of my GG friends. Perhaps I'll give another try at going out "en femme".

Love.

Eugenie

[btmgrl6]

if I am going to the mall, or lunch with the girls I always try and dress to fit the occasion. Demure for these type outtings. If I am going clubbing... a bit sexier.
For fun at home......maybe a little hooker-ish.
I don't want to draw too much attention to myself when out in public. If I am feeling a bit sexy,I may put on some tight jeans and tee-shirt sans bra. ha ha ha

Steph