I'm curious....

[xdresser773]

How many crossdressers out there would love to be able to quit crossdressing if they could. It seems to be a hard way of life, especially if you're going to try and hide it. You have to find a good hiding place for your stuff and pray that someone doesn't find it. You have to worry about when someone might come rushing through the door. You have to make sure your panties don't peek out the top of your jeans when your in drab. You have to worry about how to tell your future spouse and children...

And how many just want to continue doing it?

As for me, I would love to be able to quit, but I can't. The longest I've been able to stay away from fem clothes is 3 months. So, a message to all of those who are curious about crossdressing...don't start unless you intend to never quit!

[Marika]

The desire to cross dress is a part of our nature. We can choose not to do it but denying a part of you that is fundamental to who you are is very difficult. It may lead to greater unhappiness than cross dressing secretly. We who do crosss dress secretly are doing so because of Society's bad attitude to us. The bad things that come with cross dressing are because Society makes us feel guilty and ashamed about who we are. Until that changes those who can will cross dress openly and those who can't will continue in secret. This forum is one avenue of expression that helps us to get things off our chest (no pun iintended) and express our feelings to others like ourselves. It helps us feel less isolated and so benefits us and our families. One day cross dressing will not be a taboo until then we will all have to make difficult choices.

[Emily1]

There is No denying it - if one is drawn to it there is No escape - one might as well accept it and Enjoy it because no matter how much we might wish it wasnt true - there is no escaping the fact that it is the way we are born - any denial is futile - any rejection is pointless - all purges are counterproductive - We Are Girlies - We Should Be Proud OF IT. .... XXXX :p

[Siobhan Marie]

I discovered who and what I am just before Xmas 2005 and am growing with it everyday. I'll be honest and say that I have no desire to get involved with anyone, get married or have children. Its a part of me that'll be there until I shuffle off this mortal coil. I've got one shot at this life and I'm going to live it as I see fit.

Hugs Anna x

[Emily1]

and hell isnt it GREAT !!:happy:

[Teresa Amina]

Want to do it more and get out of the house somewhere. Why stop doing something that makes you happy?

[RachelDenise]

i don't want to quit no matter what! Thiu is part of who I am and it is permanent.:D Sure, I can't share it with my wife or family but I'm hopeful one day that I can. In the meantime, I'm looking to meet others who are understanding and can take a friend who is a little different. No white toast here. Yes, it is difficult hiding what you are, hiding your things and hiding a wonderful part of your life, but I think those of us who have come to terms with our dressing wouldn't want to lose this for any amiount of trouble.

[VERONICARH]

I started cding early in my life before I was married. After I got married I stopped for 4 years, but after my wife got pregant she lost interest in me and I started dressing in panties and pantyhose underneath. She still shows little interest in me so I have been doing the cd every since. HUGS, Veronica P.S. Still in the closet.

[BeckyZ]

Wouldn't stop even if I could. I have asked my wife this same question and she has also replied that she knows I could not nor would she want me to. So, life is good!:battingeyelashes:

[steffie39]

Hi,

Despite all the negative things associated with crossdressing (i.e., stares, ridicule, etc.) we always keep coming back for more because intrinsically it makes us feel better about ourselves.

I'm a little different than most because I never fully crosdressed until 3 years ago. That means the first 38 years of my life I never fully dressed (except for occasional pantyhose wearing). I know if I really wanted to, I could stop but there would be a small void in my life if I did. But it's not like I was depressed for those first 38 years either. I have heard of people stopping for 10 years then going back. In principle, then, if you can stop for 10 yrs, you should be able to quit permanently.

The take home lesson for me is there are still more positives than negatives and it makes you a better person overall; so why give that up? No matter what we choose (to stop or continue), though, we are still all human beings.

Steffie

[tootall]

How many crossdressers out there would love to be able to quit crossdressing if they could. It seems to be a hard way of life, especially if you're going to try and hide it. You have to find a good hiding place for your stuff and pray that someone doesn't find it. You have to worry about when someone might come rushing through the door. You have to make sure your panties don't peek out the top of your jeans when your in drab. You have to worry about how to tell your future spouse and children...

And how many just want to continue doing it?

As for me, I would love to be able to quit, but I can't. The longest I've been able to stay away from fem clothes is 3 months. So, a message to all of those who are curious about crossdressing...don't start unless you intend to never quit!
I an telling u this... i an cding for more years than i can remember.....You are born to cross dress... and there not way of changing that!!

Be who u are when u can and enjoy it... You can't never change who you are... so love being cder...........love Tootall

[tootall]

i don't want to quit no matter what! Thiu is part of who I am and it is permanent.:D Sure, I can't share it with my wife or family but I'm hopeful one day that I can. In the meantime, I'm looking to meet others who are understanding and can take a friend who is a little different. No white toast here. Yes, it is difficult hiding what you are, hiding your things and hiding a wonderful part of your life, but I think those of us who have come to terms with our dressing wouldn't want to lose this for any amiount of trouble.
love lingerie too....love Tootall

[Toyah]

Its like drinking for me I can and have stopped but keep coming back to it yep I am addicted but some day will come when I say enough is enough

[Ellie]

I dress for the fun of it and because it lets me play another person for a while. Ellie is a well kept girl that has no debt or job stress unlike the "real' me.

Since I am very lucky to have a supportive SO, I have no issue with trying to hide everything or worry about how she will feel if she found out I had been
hiding it.

While I enjoy crossdressing a lot I can put it aside for a time if I have too. I find it to be very enjoyable and very self affirming so I don't see any need for me to try stopping permenantly.

Besides, I just spent $60 on new shoes!

[TGMarla]

Nah, I don't want to quit. I like it too much.

Hmmm....when Morton Downey Jr. was asked about his cocaine addiction, he said it was like putting the business end of a double-barrel shotgun in his mouth.....and liking the taste of the steel.

Well, it's not quite like that, I guess.

[Kate Simmons]

Hi Hon, I stopped trying to figure it out a while ago. Now I just enjoy being myself, WHOEVER I choose to be at the time. Take care, Ericka

[Butterfly Bill]

Having been out for 12 years I can say: No bloody way I'd quit! I've had way too many good times doing it.

[sky0629]

I'll never change, no more purging, I am who I am don't want to change enjoy it to much.

[michelleD]

Never had the desire or felt any need to quit. Crossdressing is a part of my soul. I believe that since it is not illegal or unsafe, no one is getting hurt by it therefore the need to quit does not exist. There will always be many who do not understand our behavior and that is their problem of having a closed mind. We as crossdressers know the responsiblity of our male up bringing but also enjoy the beauty of our feminine nature. I believe this helps me in every day life to better understand both sexes. ;)

[Jolene]

Never had the desire or felt any need to quit. Crossdressing is a part of my soul. I believe that since it is not illegal or unsafe, no one is getting hurt by it therefore the need to quit does not exist. There will always be many who do not understand our behavior and that is their problem of having a closed mind. We as crossdressers know the responsiblity of our male up bringing but also enjoy the beauty of our feminine nature. I believe this helps me in every day life to better understand both sexes. ;)

You say it so well for many of us ...... Jolene

[Mandy Salamander]

agree with emily (and others) above,,, absolutely NO desire t' quit,,, nor do i hide it ('cept at work, even TG's gotta eat),,,,,,, 's truly th' best part o' my life, why would i???

[Debbie Kong]

It's too much fun!

Debbie

[magpie]

i too have wanted to quit but can,t its who i am. i have mentioned this to my with to be. and her words wer "don't you dare stop".
so there you have it. not only do i not really want to stop she won't let me.
she says its nice to have a man with a femmine side.

[TGKrissyCD]

Purges, quiting notions are a thing of the past. Do admit to having some doubts, but that is mostly when I am reverted back to my male self. So much fun when I am my fem persona, not a care in the world. Ooops!! Except at the gas pump, but that effects me both fem and male.

[Karren H]

NEVER!!

Love Karren

[Ellaine]

If it really was an option, I'd quit.
Yes I love it when I can do as I please, but there's more to my life than just me.
But as it isn't an option "he" will have to play second fiddle :happy:

[Casey Morgan]

Almost nobody knows I'm a crossdresser. And none of them are family or coworkers. So yeah, there's a part of me that would love to quit. But that would be trying to make the "problem" go away by pretending it doesn't exist. I lost a toe that way; I don't even want to think about what I'd lose by doing this.

Plus, the more I'm seeing it as who I am and not a problem, the less I feel like I want to live a different lifestyle. I'm not an escapist CD (sorry, what's the preferred term?) so whether I actually dress or not I'm always going to be reminded that I'm at least somewhat different than most people. If I can accept that, why not go further and actually embrace it?

[tamyracd]

If you asked me this question 25 yrs ago growing up in Arkansas way out in the sticks thinking i was the only one ever to do this i'd given it up in a second i ..but now in my mid 40's and the knowledge i've gained over the last several years i'd have to say no... ..

[DonnaT]

My wife would love for me to quit, and I've tried stopping in the past, for her, but that didn't last long.

For her, and her only, yes I would like to quit.

Knowing I can't quit and repeatedly telling my wife I can't quit, I've told her I'll not even try to guit anymore.

For me, I feel more contented when dressed, at least partially.

[Harriet]

Quit crossdressing -- not until am a woman. Then I will never crossdress.

[Jill]

I ran a similiar thread like this a long time ago, the response was great but I found that almost nobody felt the way I did. To answer your question, I would love to quit. I wish the desire would just go away for good and crossdressing no longer had an appeal. Not only would I not have to worry about all the things that you described and more, I would save a lot of money. I would quit if I could, but I am trapped in it even though often it doesn't feel like a trap at all, it's just enjoyable.

[SherriePall]

Dear 773 (may I call you that?) -- I've been doing this in one form or another for more than #@&% years and it could be true that if you don't start, you won't get hooked. But how do you know this when you are very young and for some reason you HAVE to try on that girdle or skirt of your mother's. By then it is too late. And quitting? I've tried to tough it out. I've tried making deals with God. I've tried everything. And it just gets worse (or is that better?) To be Sherrie is wonderful. She is a part of me and perhaps, a growing part of me. I try to keep her under control as much as I can, but she still needs to exist. End of lecture.

[gennee]

How many crossdressers out there would love to be able to quit crossdressing if they could. It seems to be a hard way of life, especially if you're going to try and hide it. You have to find a good hiding place for your stuff and pray that someone doesn't find it. You have to worry about when someone might come rushing through the door. You have to make sure your panties don't peek out the top of your jeans when your in drab. You have to worry about how to tell your future spouse and children...

And how many just want to continue doing it?

As for me, I would love to be able to quit, but I can't. The longest I've been able to stay away from fem clothes is 3 months. So, a message to all of those who are curious about crossdressing...don't start unless you intend to never quit!


I have no intentions of quitting. I love to dress and feel so feminine. I am liberated and complete. Enjoy who you are.

Gennee