Red in the Face!/Follow Up

[Wanda]

Hi girls,
I don't lead a very exciting life and I don't post stories till now.
I ment a guy in a chat room who lives near me and I told him I crossdress because he seemed interested in meeting someone who could help him explore his female side. We have a lot of the same interests and after mailing back and forth for a couple months he wanted to meet me.
He said he would be working on an old car of his a few miles south of my home and if I wanted to stop in and say hello that would be ok. He was in a location I know close to me and I dressed, heels hose makeup dress the whole package. I drove by the garage a couple times then said what the heck and I pulled in next to the only car on the lot. I got out and went inside and it seemed no one was there. Then I heard someone in an office type room in the back of the building and I started to walk there and you all know what high heels on cement sound like and the noise brought out this gentleman who fit the discription of the chat room guy. I asked him if he was the screen name of my contact and he said no he wasn't! I nearly turned to run but kept it under control and said I was sorry that I must have the wrong address. When I turned to leave four more men came in the door and were walking towards me. As I passed them I noticed they were all looking at my legs and not my face except the last one who smiled and said hello. I said hello back and got to my car in a hurry and left as quickly as I could.
A few hundred yards down the road I felt my heart was going to burst through my bra. My mouth and throat were also dry. I dorve straight home and checked my mail just to see if maybe my contact was to shy to admit who he was or I did have the wrong man.
Anyway, looking back on it I sure had a blast of a good time.
Any of you girls make a goof like that? Tell me about them if you would!
Thanks all,
Wanda Lee

[Laurie Ann]

Wonderful ending I'm glad everything worked out well.

[Billijo49504]

Please be careful. You know what they say about meeting people from the internet. It can be dangerous.....BJ

[sharifemme]

Wanda...

So did you ever meet the person? I bet he chickened out!

Sharifemme

[Eugenie]

Your story reminds me of a discussion that recently took place on the French TV/TG/TS forum called "Hommefleur."

The question was << When you plan to meet another X-dresser that you met through the Internet is it better to go "en femme" or organise the meeting in your "male attire" for the first time? >>

The risk of going out "en femme" to meet someone you only know from the internet messages and at best through a few phone conversations is far too high.

Of course for many of us going "as a man" is not very appealing, but is far saffer.

In any case, the answer was to be extremely cautious. The best solution is to only accept to meet people that have been recomended to you via a support group like Tri-Ess or similar (In Europe Association Beaumont Continental -ABC- is a reliable association) or recomended by a TV/TG/TS friend that you have already met.

That's how I met the first TV who is now a dear friend and who introduced me to other friends. I'd met her through the ABC organisation.

I met my friends in NY City through Tri-Ess who in turn recomanded CDI-NY. It was very safe and I had no fear at all.

I'd be rather scared to meet someone which I've only met on the internet without the mediation of a support group or a friend.

Love.

Eugenie

[Jolene]

Hi Wanda and thanks for sharing your adventure with us. Please be careful about meeting people. Something bad could have happened there. I admire you for the courage to go out dressed for a meeting ...... Jolene

[Wenda]

wow, and Yikes. I admire your courage, but question your judgement. Like the others have said, "way to go, but please be careful!"

[TGMarla]

I know my heart would be pounding.....and I'll bet that guy took a lot of crap over the whole thing, too.

[tvgirl4fun]

I don't think I would meet anyone privately without exchanging photos first.

I bet the guy that matched the description was the one. But something else came up with the other guys coming over or something and he chickened out. Did you e-mail him back and ask what happened?

Jaie

[Kate Simmons]

Hi Wanda, I've had similar experiences in the past although not to that extent. It doesn't sound like you were being set up or anything but these days on the computer, you don't know who you are talking to really, pictures notwithstanding. I've learned through disappointment mostly from both guys and other CD's that If you decide to meet someone new, it's best to first meet on neutral ground to see if they at least have the 'gonads" to show up. I usually pick a GLBT club or something like that because if they really are interested they won't have any reservations about where to meet you. I will usually give a brief description of myself and always, always have them to be the one to make contact. They may decide to chicken out at the last minute but even if that happens, you can be in a more or less friendly place and have a couple of drinks if nothing else. They may come and not reveal themselves just to see what you look like. If I had an inkling someone was trying to have fun at my expense, this little gal may do something she would regret as my Richard side has been known to react in not a very nice way if I'm crossed. Ericka keeps that part of me in check. I'm a very social person but some are not able to express themselves very well. I'm very tolerant and understanding with that. I have met people who are legitimate but you just have to be careful. Hope this helps. Take care, Ericka

[CharlaineCadence]

we had a story in the news paper a while back about a crossdesser who went to meet somone from the inter net. this person spok the the cder for a few months before the meeting took place. The cder thinking it was safe went. When he got their he was beaten by 5 people. turned out to be some sick gang iniation. The boys where all aressted and the cder was left scared for life. so please please never never go to someones home. esp alone if your meeting someone new take someone who knows your fem side with you. you can never be too safe and also meet somewhere very public.

[Wanda]

Hi again girls. This is a follow up to my Red in the Face posting a few days ago.
First I want to thank all of you for the advice and concern for my safety.
As it turns out the gentleman I walked in on was the twin brother of the man I went to meet. He contacted me later that day thru my e-mail and said he was sorry he wasn't there to meet me because he had to run to pick up some parts for an old car they were working on. He told me his brother told him I looked "damn good".
He was still interested in meeting and wanted some help dressing up and with his makeup. I am not very good with makeup but would be glad to help with clothing, wigs, etc.
He came to my house the next morning and after a cup of coffee and some small talk he showed me what items he had brought with him and I showed him to a spared room where he could dress. He looked very good for someone who was just coming to grips with his feminine side. Had a little trouble walking in heels but didn't we all? I think the fact that I was fully dressed made it easy for him to open up.
I hope our friendship can help both of us for I still feel somewhat isolated around here. I someday want to attend the "Girls nite Out" they have every month in Warren Ohio but my work schedule and day of the week make that almost impossible.
Sorry about rambling on so, I don't post much on this site but I spend a lot of time reading most all of your postings.
Once again, a BIG THANKS TO ALL for the advice and making me see that I am not alone in this battle from within.
Hugs to all,
Wanda