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[saturnion]

How can I explain to my wiife about cd so she doesn't feel threatened ? She has known about me cd before we married.

[Wenda]

How long have you been married? You have been dressing all this time, right? Not especially relevant, but, youhave to be honest. Above all, First rule, sounds like you are ok on that point.
Second rule, do you love her more than you love dressing? Honestly? Ok, if yes, you must understand her feelings. Does she understand or has she just nodded and listened, maybe in shock that 'her man; dresses?
The more honest you are, the easier it is.
Listen. Really. Not for what you want to hear, but what you should hear, honestly. If she is really not opposed, maybe neutral or somewhat supportive, you are blessed.
If she is suppoortive, then you are truly living under your lucky star. (As am I!) I was honest from the moment that I rediscovered dressing, and my SO was not completely comfy with it. Over time, however, she became more comfortable, and eventually not only supportive, but encouraging.
You need to assure your SO that this is not a threat to your relationship. Your femme self is not 'another woman'. You still love her unconditionally. Just be true to yourself and honest with your SO.
Don't let your femme self be the third person in your relationship!
All the best! w.

[saturnion]

I have been married for eleven years and known her for seventeen years. She knew early in the relationship about me cd. I think she thought she could change me. We also have two children that do not know and would like to keep it that way until they are a lot older. I do love her as much as dressing up. She has said if I continue we would get a divorce several times but no action. So what's a girl to do?

[Kate Simmons]

I have been married for eleven years and known her for seventeen years. She knew early in the relationship about me cd. I think she thought she could change me. We also have two children that do not know and would like to keep it that way until they are a lot older. I do love her as much as dressing up. She has said if I continue we would get a divorce several times but no action. So what's a girl to do?
I've been in a similar situation for over 30 years now. My wife kept trying to "fix" me over the years. My children are all grown now and have mixed feelings. They love me as their Dad but of course can't understand why I want to look like a woman. It's tough sometime but I can't help being who I am. I just try to take it a day at a time. Ericka