Bawlmer

[Julie Avery]

We were just in Baltimore this weekend, at a neighborhood bar that apparently a CD has been going to. The CD was not there. The bar is U-shaped. The regulars were hollaring across the bar ridiculing this person in their absence. It's not easy being one of us. (I kid you not, Cher and I walked into the middle of this thing). And, reflecting on that barroom ridicule, it's not easy being one of our partners.

It's going to take a lifetime to make sense of this. Well, that's what I've been given - a lifetime. And I'm not going back to the days of feeling like a creep. But I'm doing everything I can to help my partner along the path of identifying with me, and not the people who hold me in contempt. And sometimes I feel pretty sore about the whole state of affairs. But it's OK. I have a very strong inner compass, and it's pointing in this direction: "You are a crossdresser. Never force that on anyone, but never deny it."

I have an in-law in Bawlmer who had a son who was gay, who died of AIDS. She reads me. She was showing me her nails, and explaining how they are done. She also showed me some earrings she likes. She's 60-something. She was an angel from heaven, to me, this weekend.

[Laurie Ann]

Julie good for you, don't let them get you down.

[Wenda]

You can't live your life to accomodate the assholes. There aren't that many of them, but their influence and ability to spoil anything is vastly disproportionate to their numbers. For example, last night were were at a casino. I don't play, so went to the lounge and watched hockey. My GF really likes a certain set of games and was standing behind two ladies who were playing those machines. After a while one of them turned and said,"Why don't you just f***ing leave? We are going to be here all f***ing night!" There was absolutely no need to be so rude, my GF is quite passive and polite. It ruined her evening. There are a lot more horses' asses than there are horses.

[Joy Carter]

People are cruel they get a little drunk and will say anything, that is no excuse. I know it makes them feel big and important to make sport of someone else. So what can you do ? Not a thing just leave and go else where and hope you can salvage your evening.

[TGMarla]

"You are a crossdresser. Never force that on anyone, but never deny it."

:iagree:

[jdotp75]

I've said it before, and here we go again... in baltimore, we have sooo few places to go, that even the places we can go are only so accepting. All the more reason we B-More girls need to get together with our partners and go clubbing! Have fun in their faces. Why should we have to hide. Why don't we have a "spot"? I say we go take one! If only for the night. Who's with me? You know what, I want the ftm's in on this too! Saftey in numbers, see your fellow cdrs, and get out of the house! Was shopping at Nordstrom today and say a pair of 110.00 heels I wanted, but the wife to be said thats a lot of money just to look good around te house. So I said, buy them for me, and take me out! Point being, we go through an awfull lot of bs to be ridiculed. Clothes; shopping, and fitting. Makeup, the hair the walk, the things we go through could fill a book. And then this poor girl gets trashed when she isn't even there to defend herself!

[Penny]

I've said it before, and here we go again... in baltimore, we have sooo few places to go, that even the places we can go are only so accepting. All the more reason we B-More girls need to get together with our partners and go clubbing! Have fun in their faces. Why should we have to hide. Why don't we have a "spot"? I say we go take one! If only for the night. Who's with me? You know what, I want the ftm's in on this too! Saftey in numbers, see your fellow cdrs, and get out of the house! Was shopping at Nordstrom today and say a pair of 110.00 heels I wanted, but the wife to be said thats a lot of money just to look good around te house. So I said, buy them for me, and take me out! Point being, we go through an awfull lot of bs to be ridiculed. Clothes; shopping, and fitting. Makeup, the hair the walk, the things we go through could fill a book. And then this poor girl gets trashed when she isn't even there to defend herself!
Ok then, we'll start at the docks :eek: and work our way back to the hospital!:D

[Marla S]

"You are a crossdresser. Never force that on anyone, but never deny it."

Haven't read a wiser statement in a long time.

[Julie Avery]

Laurie Ann, thanks. With friends like I've found here, it's hard to stay down very long!

Wenda, there you have it, you don't have to be a CD to run into rude turkeys. Sorry your GF had to put up with that BS.

Joy, thanks! I wasn't crossdressed though I was wearing my fingernails (they're not removable, lol, and for this trip they were not polished, only long), so we just hung in there, played some pool, had some fun.

TGMarla, we agree about a great many things, I've noticed since discovering this community. Thank you for your support....Love your new avatar!

JDot, I'm game! We're on the shore but get to Balto a few times a year. It's CherGG's (my s.o.'s) hometown. One of these days we're gonna have to make a special trip....

Penny LOL!

Marla S, thanks, I always enjoy the wisdom of your own posts.

[steffie39]

Girls,

Remember, we're all pretty (on BOTH the outside and inside) and NO ONE can ever take that away from us except ourselves! The others have to adjust to us, not the other way around. It is on these principles that feedom is based. It's our world too!

Steffie

[jjjjohanne]

Hello fellow Marylanders!